Umxholo
- Iimvakalelo zakho azisafani
- Uya kufunda ukuba uthando lugqithisile
- Iqabane lakho alikwazi ukukuqonda ngokupheleleyo
- Uya kwaphula amaxesha amaninzi kunokuba ungabala
- Uya kuphulukana nabahlobo abaxabisekileyo
Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho uqala ukubuza ixabiso, ubunyani, kunye nenjongo yobudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho uzibuza; Ngaba oku kunjalo? Ngaba le yincopho yobudlelwane bethu? Ngaba ubomi bam buza kuhlala bunje? Ungathini ukuba ndifuna ngaphezulu, kuthekani ukuba yonke into yahlukile ngendisaziva ngale ndlela.
Le yimizekelo nje yento enokukufaka engqondweni yakho ukuba ubuze ukufaneleka kobudlelwane bakho kwaye ikwenze ubone ukuba awonwabanga ngokwenyani kwaye awonelisekanga.
Izinto ziya zidideka ngakumbi, ziyakhathaza, zingenamdla kwaye ziphazamise ukusuka apha ngaphandle kwaye uzive ngathi ufuna ukubaleka kuyo yonke le nto, iqabane lakho indlu yakho, kwaye ubuyise isazisi sakho ngandlela thile kwaye uqale ngapha.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokwenza oko nika eli nqaku ukuba ulifunde, emva koko uthathe isigqibo.
Iimvakalelo zakho azisafani
Ngaba uziva ungenanto ngaphakathi?
Njengoko ungazi ukuba kwenzeke nini, kodwa iimvakalelo zakho zangaphambili kwiqabane lakho zivele zanyamalala.
Ukwimeko yokungakhathali; ii-quirks ezincinci ozithandayo ngomnye wakho obalulekileyo, ukukhawuleza kwangaphakathi komnqweno ongalawulekiyo owawuziva xa bekuchukumisa, xa ujonga emehlweni abo uziva ushushu imfesane, kwaye ucinga njani ngabo imini yonke; yonke ilahlekile intsingiselo yayo kuwe; ayisenamsebenzi kuwe.
Ukuba kuyenzeka, musa ukuba nzima kuwe, uya kwinqanaba, kodwa musa ukwenza izigqibo ngokungxama; thetha kunye nabahlobo bakho abasondeleyo okanye usapho kwaye nisebenze ngeli xesha.
Gcina oku engqondweni ukuba yonke into oziva iyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye awuyifumani yedwa.
Uya kufunda ukuba uthando lugqithisile
Uthando luyinto ebalulekileyo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kodwa uthando alugqithisi ngokungafanelekanga, kwaye luba ngumbono ongaphezulu kweemvakalelo.
Ukuba iyahamba ixesha elithile, iya kuba ilungile ngokupheleleyo.
Iimvakalelo zihlala ziguquka, kwaye akukho mvakalelo inokuhlala ixesha elide; ngekhe ube nomsindo okanye wonwabe okanye ube lusizi ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye ngothando, kusebenza ngendlela efanayo; ngekhe uthandane ne-100% yexesha.
Akuthethi kuthi konke konke ukuba ubukho bayo buphele ngokusisigxina, kukwikhefu elifanelekileyo; yazi oku ukuba iziseko zobudlelwane bakho zichazwe ngamanye amaziko ngaphandle kothando kuphela.
Ubudlelwane busekwe kwimbeko, uvelwano, ukunyaniseka, ukuxolela, unxibelelwano, ukulalanisa nokunye okuninzi.
Uthando nje lodwa alunakugcina umtshato wakho ufuna ezinye izinto ezininzi, kwaye ukuya kuthi ga uthando luya kumqondo kwaye inyani inokwahluka kuwe, funda nje ukusebenza kuwo.
Iqabane lakho alikwazi ukukuqonda ngokupheleleyo
Ke ngoku ukuba umfumene iqabane lakho, yonke into izakuwela ngokuzenzekelayo, akunjalo?
Hayi, ngekhe.
Iqabane lakho aliyi kuhlala liyamkela into eyenzekayo ngaphakathi engqondweni yakho, abayi kuhlala bekwazi ukukuqonda njengomntu kwisiseko sakho sokwenyani, kwaye uya kuziva ungaphelelanga kwaye ungaqondwa ngamanye amaxesha ngokungathi abayenzi Ndiyakwazi kwaye mhlawumbi ngekhe ndikwazi.
Kuya kufuneka ususe oku kungakholelekiyo kweqabane lakho lokungena ngaphakathi kwimicu yomphefumlo wakho kwaye wazi onke amaqhekeza akwenzayo ukuba ungubani; Baza kukufumanisa ubungakanani obukhulu kodwa banokuqonda okungako, kwaye kulungile.
Ungahlala unxibelelana nentliziyo kunye nengqondo yakho kodwa ungaze ulindele ukuba omnye umntu azi ngokuqinisekileyo ubukho bakho buqu ngendlela ohlangabezana ngayo nayo.
Uya kwaphula amaxesha amaninzi kunokuba ungabala
Iindonga oziyekisileyo ziyakukubeka esichengeni; uyakufumana intliziyo eyaphukileyo izihlandlo ezingenakubalwa, uyakonakala kwaye wophuke amaxesha ngamaxesha, kwaye ixesha nexesha uzakuphila kwintlungu.
Ukuxabana nokulwa kuya kukukhokelela ekubeni ubandezeleke ngokwasemphefumlweni, kodwa ukusonjululwa kwawo kuyakukwakha njengomntu; ubudlelwane bakho buya komelela.
Ukuwohloka kuza nepakethe yonke, kwaye iya kuba yeyona nto inzima kubudlelwane bakho, kodwa ayinakuphepheka; iyanetha, iyaqhwithela, kwaye ayikhanyi into ehlala ihleli okanye egqibeleleyo.
Kodwa funda ukuxolela, ukuqonda xa kufikwa kwiqabane lakho ngumntu kuphela owenza iimpazamo, sukuvumela ingqumbo ukuba ikongamele. Nje ukuba nobabini niyigqibe le nto, niya kuphuma kuphela lomelele.
Uya kuphulukana nabahlobo abaxabisekileyo
Abo ububathanda kakhulu kwaye usondele entliziyweni yakho kanye baya kuncipha ngokupheleleyo ngasemva, kwaye uthando olwabelane nabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni luza kuhlala luhlobo lweebhondi ezingenakuqhekeka njengoko izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ziguquka nje ukuba nitshate kwaye nakanjani Ubomi buthatha indlela eyahlukileyo yakho kunye nawo wonke umntu.
Uya kuyigqiba ekugqibeleni; iya kuba yeyona ilungileyo.