Umxholo
- 1. Iqabane lakho aliyonto eza kuqala kuwe
- 2. Iqabane lakho liyakuxhaphaza / liyakuxhaphaza
- 3. Unxibelelwano olungelulo kunye nokucinga okungeyonyani
- 4. Ukunganyaniseki
Umtshato oyingcwele ulwalamano olunyulu phakathi kwabantu ababini apho bamanyene ngokudibeneyo kwaye badityaniswa baba ngumntu omnye; iphawula uhambo lobomi apho amaqabane amabini ebotshelelwe kunye ngonaphakade ngenxa yobunzima kunye nokubhitya okanye ukugula okanye impilo elungileyo; ngesithembiso sokuhlala sikwelinye icala nokuba iimeko zinzima kangakanani.
Ngokwemigaqo, sisivumelwano se-ironclad esenza ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nebhinqa buqinisekiswe nguMthetho ngokwawo, kodwa kwimeko yayo yokomoya, idibanisa iziqingatha ezibini zomphefumlo omnye kunye ukuwugqiba, kungoko igama elithi soulmates.
Ukugcina umtshato ofanelekileyo kunqabile kakhulu
Nangona umxholo womtshato ngokwawo umhle kubuthixo bawo, ngelishwa, sihlala kwihlabathi elingafezekanga, kwaye ukugcina umtshato ofanelekileyo kunqabile kakhulu.
Abantu bahlala bevalelekile kumtshato olusizi kunye nokuba liqabane elihlukumezanayo ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, okanye bayangena kumtshato ohleliweyo apho kungangqinelaniyo phakathi kwala maqela mabini, mhlawumbi kukho umsantsa omkhulu wonxibelelwano phakathi kwaba batshati bobabini okanye baninzi kakhulu izinto eziphazamisayo eziphazamisa ubudlelwane.
Imitshato ayisiyonto intle ebomini bokwenyani, kwaye kweli nqaku, siza kudlula kwezona zibonakaliso zixhaphakileyo zemitshato engenampilo exhaphake kakhulu.
1. Iqabane lakho aliyonto eza kuqala kuwe
Abahlobo bakho, izalamane ezisondeleyo, nabazali bakho ngenene bayinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bakho; badlale indima ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni njengomntu, kwaye bayakuthanda kwaye bakukhathalela kuqala ngaphambi kokuba iqabane lakho lazi ukuba ukhona.
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ubatyala ityala lakho uthando nokunyaniseka, kodwa aba bantu abafanayo kufuneka baqonde ukuba kufuneka bathathe isihlalo sangasemva xa kuziwa kwiqabane lakho.
Kuluntu lwethu ngandlela thile sithatha ukuba sinelizwi kubomi bomnye umntu ingakumbi ukubaxelela indlela yokuphila ubomi babo; le yinto yokucinga nje, kwaye kufuneka siyiqonde imida yethu yoluntu.
Ukuba uxakeke kakhulu uphulaphule oko kuthethwa zizihlobo zakho malunga nenkosikazi / umyeni wakho okanye ukuba uhlala ubeka phambili abazali bakho, abantakwenu / oodadewenu, okanye abahlobo ngaphezulu kweqabane lakho awuyi kuba nolwalamano olwaneleyo neqabane lakho.
Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na ukuba umfazi wakho / umyeni wakho eze kuqala! Ukuba abenzi njalo, kuya kufuneka uqale ubuze imibuzo kuwe nakumaqabane akho kunye nokuba umtshato wakho umi phi. Oku kulapha luphawu olunetyhefu, kwaye uya kulifumana kuluntu lwethu.
2. Iqabane lakho liyakuxhaphaza / liyakuxhaphaza
Cingisisa ngononophelo malunga noku kwaye ukhumbule ixesha lokugqibela owathetha ngalo neqabane lakho ngobubele ukuze ufumane impendulo ethe chu kuye.
Uyakuqonda ukuba ayiloxesha lokuqala ufumana impendulo enjalo, oku kwenzeka rhoqo.
Cinga ngawo onke amaxesha ubukhe wafuna inkxaso okanye wabelana ngempumelelo enomdla kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa zinokukwenza uzive unetyala ngokuziva udandathekile okanye zikukhahle phantsi ngokunyusa iindaba zakho ezilungileyo uzenze zingabalulekanga.
Kanye apha liqabane elinobuhlungu elikuthiyileyo ngaphakathi okanye elizithiyileyo kwinqanaba elinzulu.
Ngaba iqabane lakho liyakubetha kwaye ngandlel 'ithile likubek' ityala ngako?
Ngaba uyakutyhola ngokungasebenzi kakuhle kwaye akwenze uzive ngathi ungoyena ungafanelekanga? Ngaba bakugxeka kabukhali okanye bakugxeke ngobundlobongela ngenxa nje yesiqu sakho?
Ukuba kunjalo, ke kuyinyani ecacileyo ukuba awonwabanga hayi kokuncinci, uyaxinana kule ngxubakaxaka yeemvakalelo nengqondo ebizwa ngokuba ngumtshato. Yimani ukuba unokuba leli qabane. Qaphela ukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini alunangqondo ngelixa abesilisa bekhetha ubundlongondlongo.
3. Unxibelelwano olungelulo kunye nokucinga okungeyonyani
Ngaba umtshato wakho wakhiwe ngokukhululekileyo kukukhathazeka, ulindelo olubi, kunye neengcinga eziyingozi?
Masithi umyeni wakho ufumana umyalezo, kwaye xa uncokola nawe, uyaphendula ethe cwaka aze abandakanye kwincoko kwakhona. Uziva ngathi uthetha nomntu okhethekileyo kwifowuni yakhe, kwaye akakuthandi; ngoku uyazi ukuba kukucinga nje, ayisiyiyo eyona nyaniso inokuba ubhalele nje ukuba "Ndiyakuthanda" kumama wakhe.
Ungathini xa ubona umfazi wakho ethetha nogxa wakhe oyindoda kwaye ukrokrela ukuba akathembekanga kuwe, ngelixa ebuza nje ngeefayile zamatyala ezangomso.
Nobabini anithethi kwaye nithi cwaka nigcine inzondo, ubuhlungu, nokukrokrelana, uziva ukhohlisiwe kwaye ungcatshiwe kwaye uqhubeka uzihlukanisa nokuba unika omnye umntu ubandayo, okanye uhlekisa ngokuhlasela umntu otshate naye ngento abangayenzanga ' Ndenza.
Oku kuphela emiqolombeni phakathi kwakho nokuba nzulu kwaye kukushiya nobabini udidekile kwaye uxinezelekile, okunokuphelisa umtshato wakho.
Nceda uthembe kwaye uhloniphe amaqabane akho kwaye unxibelelane nawo nawaphi na amathandabuzo okanye imiba onokuba nayo; banike ithuba lokuba basebenze kuzo.
4. Ukunganyaniseki
Iflegi enkulu ebomvu inokuhamba zombini iindlela; ukukopa ayisiyomzimba nje, kodwa ikwayiimvakalelo nayo.
Masithi unomhlobo okhangeleka kakuhle emsebenzini kwiofisi yakho, kwaye akunakunceda kodwa utsaleleke kuye; uphuma uyokufumana ikofu kwaye ube nencoko emnandi, kwaye kuko konke onokucinga ngako naxa ukunye nomyeni wakho.
Emva kwexesha elininzi oku kuba yeyona nto uyithandayo, kwaye uchitha ixesha elininzi nomyeni wakho, oku kunokwenzeka nangokunjalo.
Awukopeli ngokwasemzimbeni kwiqabane lakho, kodwa kwinqanaba lokweemvakalelo onjalo, kwaye ngamava abuhlungu kumyeni / kwinkosikazi yakho.
Zibambe ngekhola uzibuze ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye; Ngaba awonwabanga kulo mtshato okanye yinto ethile malunga neqabane lakho ekutyhalela kude kubo?
Ukusonga phezulu
Sukuyishiya le nto xa usazi ukuba kukho ingxaki eparadesi. Sebenzani ngazwinye ekusombululeni iingxabano emtshatweni, ukuba niyazibona iintanda kulwalamano lwenu.