Umxholo
- Unxibelelwano lwasendle oluchanekileyo
- Iimpawu eziqinisekileyo zoxinzelelo ngokwesondo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi:
- 1. Mjonge emehlweni
- 2. Yenza into ehlekisayo kwaye ube krwada, kodwa nciphisa idrama
- 3. Musa ukuvumela ixesha lokuncoma ukuba lidlule
- 4. Yakha kufutshane nedlelo ngengozi
- 5. Bonisa ezona mpahla zakho zibalaseleyo, dlala ngamandla akho
- Gwema le mpazamo xa uzama ukwakha uxinzelelo lwezesondo
- Khumbula ukwenza oko ukuba kunyanzelekile, kodwa ungagqithisi
Ukufumana ukungxama okungxamisekileyo koxinzelelo lwezesondo yimvakalelo evuyisayo, ethi izise eyona nto iphambili kwizilwanyana ngelixa wonwabile, uziva ungonwabanga kukusongela ngalo lonke ixesha ujikeleza lo mntu.
Ukongeza kwi-tingling, i-throbbing sensation emzimbeni, kunye ne-vibe ekwabelana ngesondo phakathi kwabantu ababini abatsala omnye komnye, uxinzelelo lwezesondo lunokubangelwa kukunxibelelana kwenyama. Unokukhetha ukwenza okanye ungenzi kumtsalane wakho okrwada, wasendle, kunye nomtsalane komnye nomnye.
Unxibelelwano lwasendle oluchanekileyo
Iimpawu zoxinzelelo ngokwesondo zinokuchazwa ngcono njengemvakalelo yokunyusa imeko apho ufuna ukuqhuba okanye uhambe iimayile ukubona lo mntu, ukonwabela ukusondela komnye nomnye, kwaye uqalise ukuziva wonwabile ngenkangeleko yakho njengoko ulungiselela phambi isipili kusasa.
Unxibelelwano lwasendle oluchanekileyo kunye nokuhambelana okubonakalayo komzimba kunokuphelela ekutshabalaliseni umhlaba, isini se-cathartic okanye kunokuhlala nje kunje, njengomoya ophakathi oxhonyiweyo ukujikeleza okwexeshana emva koko uphele emva koko. (Nangona kunjalo, kulungile de ihlale!)
Ukuba ujonge imiqondiso yokuqinisekisa ukuba luqhakamshelwano olusemthethweni ngokwesondo kunye neendlela zokugcina olu xinzelelo lwesini, sukujonga phambili!
Iimpawu eziqinisekileyo zoxinzelelo ngokwesondo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi:
- Ukuqhagamshelwa kwamehlo kudityaniswa nokujonga okubiweyo okuhamba phakathi kwekhefu kunye nokuphindaphinda-kubonisa umqondiso wesini.
- Ukungaxhamli kunxibelelwano lwakho apho usokola khona nomnqweno wokungabethi iqhosha lokuphakuzela malunga ne-bae yakho yomzuzu.
- Uzifumana ucinga rhoqo malunga nomntu oqhelekileyo kwimeko yokubaleka ngokwesondo, phantse njengesiko.
- Umbane wombane apho ulwa khona nomnqweno wokuchukumisa umntu kwaye ugqibezele ukumncoma kuba ungaboni ziqhushumbisi zisenzeka kwangoko.
- Kukho umxholo wothando kuyo yonke intsebenziswano owabelana nabo.
- Abahlobo bakho okanye abantu osebenza nabo, ukuba yindawo yokusebenzela, bacebisa ukuba wabelane ngekhemistri ebambekayo.
- Uchulumanco olufumanayo ngalo lonke ixesha behamba lunokuchaphazeleka. Ukuhamba kwabo, ukuncuma, okanye ubukho babo kuphela kwesistim sokugqibela sesini kuwe!
- Ulwimi lomzimba wakho lucekecekile phambi kwabo kwaye i-eye-rolls yakho kunye noncumo olucekeceke lukhona ukuba babone kwaye bayazi nje!
Iimpawu zeempawu zoxinzelelo ngokwesondo ezivela kwindoda okanye kumfazi akunzima ukuziqonda. Le miqondiso yoxinzelelo lwezesondo kumadoda nabasetyhini ibonisa ukuba kukho ithuba lokuthatha izinto ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo.
Ukuba ufumana ezi mpawu zekhemistri kwaye ufuna iindlela zokwakha uxinzelelo ngokwesondo nangakumbi, nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokwakha uxinzelelo lwezesondo nendoda okanye umfazi.
Iimpawu zekhemistri kunye nendlela yokwakha uxinzelelo lwezesondo nowasetyhini okanye indoda, ngaphandle kokungcolisa:
1. Mjonge emehlweni
Ukudibana ngamehlo ngobuqhetseba kunye nokujonga okubiweyo yeyona nto ukubheja kwakho ekuvaleni umsantsa phakathi kokuncoma nokuba liqabane kulwaphulo-mthetho. Yiba nobuqili, nangona kunjalo, awufuni kuza kumrhamncwa xa uzingela.
Jonga, yibambe ngamehlo afudumeleyo, khanyisa uncumo olufudumeleyo olukhawulezayo emva koko ujonge kude ngomzuzwana.
Ngale ndlela, ubenza bazibuze ukuba ububajonga na, okanye ngaba kukukhawuleza ukujonga okungathethi nto. Ukutyhala kunye nokutsala kunye nemeko yokungaqiniseki inokunika isiseko esikhulu ekuqaleni kolwakhiwo olunomdla ngokwesondo.
2. Yenza into ehlekisayo kwaye ube krwada, kodwa nciphisa idrama
Endaweni yokuba ube mkhulu kakhulu, okanye wenze usukelo lobomi bakho, gcina izinto zilula thabatha imigibe yeengxaki okanye nayiphi na into enokubakho kwixesha elizayo.
Joke ujikeleze, ube nobukrelekrele, kwaye ubenomtsalane kodwa ungangcolisi. Kwakhona, zigcine zonke zilula, sukuyenza into yakho yomtsalane njengeyona ndawo kugxilwe kuyo. Ukuhoya kwakho ngokungagungqiyo emntwini kunokubenza bazive bebalekile kwaye bebalekela ikhusi! Ngaphandle koko, awufuni kuza njengomntu osweleyo, ongenamdla.
3. Musa ukuvumela ixesha lokuncoma ukuba lidlule
Ukuba ukutyumza kwakho kujongeka kulungile okanye iinwele zabo, ivumba elimnandi, uncumo, okanye izihlangu- nantoni na ekubambayo, yehla ukuncoma. Awudingi kuba ulungelelaniswe nobugcisa bokuncoma. Khumbula ukusebenzisa izixhobo ezinamacala amaninzi okuncoma ngokunyanisekileyo.
Ukuncoma okucingelwayo, okunenjongo entle kunokuba sisiqalo esihle sencoko kunye nokukhuthaza imeko yomntu onomtsalane.
Hlala ixesha elide kwintetho emfutshane, ungasebenzi emva kokuba ubathandile kwaye ulibazise okuhle kwakho.
Vumela ukuba kucace ukuba awungxami ngokudiliza ukubuyela kule nto uyiyo, kwaye njengokumisa ukuhamba.
4. Yakha kufutshane nedlelo ngengozi
Ukutyisa ngengozi yinguqulelo emnene yokudlala ngothando.
Benze bazive ingxolo yokunyuka kobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo ngengozi ngokutyisa ingalo yakho ngokuchasene neyabo okanye ukubamba kancinci emqolo ngendlela ebonakala imsulwa. Khumbula ukwenza inqaku lengqondo lazo naziphi na iimpawu zokuphindisela okanye ukungonwabi.
Sebenzisa ezi zenzo zomzimba rhoqo njengabakhi boxinzelelo ngokwesini.
5. Bonisa ezona mpahla zakho zibalaseleyo, dlala ngamandla akho
Yiba ngomsindo ngaphandle kokuza njengomntwana oswe iswekile.
Ukudakumba kunomdla. Faka intshisakalo kwincoko yakho. Qiniseka ngokubonisa umzimba wakho okanye uncumo lwakho oluqaqambileyo ngemvakalelo yokuzithemba.
Nxiba ukonwaba ngokwabela ixesha elithile ngelixa unxibayo ukuya emsebenzini ukuba ikratshi lakho lingumlingane wakho nokuba ngumntu kwiklasi yokuzonwabisa. Ayizukukhulisa kuphela inqanaba lokuzithemba kwakho kodwa iya kubamba neemboni zamehlo kwithemba lakho okanye mhlawumbi nakwamanye amaqabane.
I-Flashy ayithandeki. Ungoyena mgwebi ugqwesileyo wento ehamba kanye nendlela oziphethe ngayo. Nyathela ngononophelo.
Gwema le mpazamo xa uzama ukwakha uxinzelelo lwezesondo
Ukuthetha ngesondo ngekhe kuyinqumle ukuba uzama ukwakha uxinzelelo ngokwesondo!
Amadoda nabasetyhini, bobabini bayathanda ukulindela xa beyinto yokulukuhlwa. Ukuthetha ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngesondo yeyona nto iphambili kwaye iyasusa ekwakhiweni okukhawulezayo kokukhawuleza kwehomoni. Inokukwenza ukuba uhlangane nabasweleyo kwaye uyarhwaqele.
Iyabulala iyelenqe!
Khumbula ukwenza oko ukuba kunyanzelekile, kodwa ungagqithisi
Yenza umnxeba wokugweba ukuba uyafuna ukuphuma, okanye uphume.
Nokuba uza kudala ukungavisisani phakathi kwakho nomntu, mayife ekugqibeleni, okanye ufuna ukuyithatha uye kwinqanaba elilandelayo- thatha ingqalelo ukuba ukulungele ukuyithatha kangakanani.
Ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise ezi ngcebiso ukwakha kunye nokugcina uxinzelelo olunzulu lwezesondo, nqumama ukuze ufumane into oyifunayo.
Nokuba ukhetha ukuyigcina isitshixo esisezantsi, imfihlo egcinwe kakuhle okanye unxibelelwano ngokwesondo lubonakalise elona xesha linzima kunye phakathi kwamashiti, khumbula ukunambitha umzuzu ngamnye wale racy vibe ongenakukwazi ukuyibeka ngamagama!
Isitshixo kukuyonwabela ngelixa ihleli!