Umxholo
- Ngaba ufanele ukuhlala kumtshato onjalo?
- Xoxa ngemiba yabo uzame ukunceda
- 2. Fikelela kuncedo lweengcali
- 3. Xoxa ngekamva lobudlelwane bakho
- Iziphumo zexesha elide zokuziphatha gwenxa
Ngaba ikhona ngokwenene indlela yokwenza ukujongana ngenkohlakalo? Xa utshata, ulindele ukuba iqabane lakho lithandane kwaye likhathalele wena. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ayenzeki? Ukuphulukana nefizz yokuqala xa uthandana kungalunga. Ngapha koko, oko kuyenzeka ngazo zonke izibini, ngaxa lithile. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba umntu omthandayo uqala ukuziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo kuwe? Ungathini ukuba olo thando lwalukade lukhona ngoku luthathelwa indawo ngenkohlakalo, ikratshi kwanentiyo? Yintoni enokwenziwa?
Ngaba ufanele ukuhlala kumtshato onjalo?
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuzama ukuqonda unobangela wale nguqulelo yokuziphatha.
Zininzi izizathu zoku. Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho lijamelene neengxaki emsebenzini, lihamba neengxaki zemali okanye enye into. Ngamanye amaxesha kwanokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunokuba sisizathu. Ubusazi ukuba ngaphezulu kwabantu abangama-20 ngomzuzu bayaxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni ngamaqabane abo? Ukuba ubundlobongela buxhaphakile, kuthekani ngezinye iintlobo zokuxhatshazwa? Amanani makhulu kakhulu apho.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba usenokholo kubudlelwane kwaye uziva ukuba izinto zinokusebenza phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho okanye ukuba izinto zisenokulungiswa, nazi ezinye izimvo zakho. Isitena ngezitena, zama ukwakha ubudlelwane bakho nabo kwaye uqale kwasekuqaleni. Baninzi abantu ababekhe baneengxaki ezinjalo ngaphambili; ke kholelwa ukuba izinto zinokulungiswa ngomzamo othile.
Nazi ezinye zezisombululo onokuthi uziqwalasele:
Xoxa ngemiba yabo uzame ukunceda
Indoda ehlukumezayo ngokweemvakalelo ihlala isebenzisa ulwimi oluyalelayo kwaye olunobunkunkqele, likuphathe njengophantsi kwakhe. Ingumbono olungileyo ukukhomba iingxelo ezikhohlakeleyo ezisetyenzisiweyo xa uthetha naye. Musa ukuvumela ukuba bakuhlukumeze ngokweemvakalelo. Kwelinye icala, abafazi abahlukumeza ngokwasemoyeni basebenzise ulwimi "olufana nesicaka" ngelixa benxibelelana nabayeni babo. Izivakalisi ezivakalayo nezimfutshane ziqhelekile. Izithintelo zezona zibalaseleyo.
Zama ukuxoxa ngezi zinto zixhalabisayo ngendlela engenabundlobongela, enengqiqo neyakhayo. Kananjalo, ukuba kukho ingxaki exhasa olo hlobo lokuziphatha, kuya kufuneka uxoxe ngaloo nto. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kunokubakho iintlobo ezimbini zeengxaki:
- Ezo zibandakanya wena kunye nosapho lwakho
- Abo bangenayo
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, kuya kufuneka uphonononge kakuhle zonke izinto ezibakhathazayo. Nikezela ngokunceda kangangoko unakho ukuze nithandane kwaye nihloniphane. Ukuba yeyangaphambili, kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo lobuchwephesha.
2. Fikelela kuncedo lweengcali
Izibini ezininzi zikholelwa ekubeni ukucela uncedo kwiingcali kuthetha ukuxoxa ngemfihlo yakho nomntu omtsha. Nangona kunjalo, baninzi oochwephesha abaziingcali abaphumeleleyo ukunceda amakhulu ezibini.
Kunokuba nzima ukuthetha neqabane lakho kule nto. Bacacisele ukuba zezona zilungileyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ukhohlakele kunye nokuhlukumeza kuhlala kuchaphazela omabini amaqabane emva kwexesha elithile. Iingcali zonyango zibonelela ngengcebiso yeengcali kunye nezinye iimeko ezinomdla ngokwenene. Uya kuhamba uthotho lweemeko zentelekelelo kunye nemidlalo yendima. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba uphinde ucinge ngothando lwakho kwaye uqalise ukujonga ubudlelwane bakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Umgqirha unokuqinisekisa ukuba kukho umgca ocacileyo otyhilwe phakathi kokulwa kunye kunye naluphi na uhlobo lokuziphatha gwenxa. Xa umgca utsaliwe, baya kuthi kwakhona babone inqanaba "lomahluko wamandla" okhoyo emtshatweni.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unyango alunakukunceda, lixesha lokuba uqhubele kwelinye elitsha. Akuqhelekanga ukuba oku kwenzeke. Mhlawumbi iindlela zabo bezingakulungelanga kodwa enye ingcali inokunceda ngokuqinisekileyo.
3. Xoxa ngekamva lobudlelwane bakho
Ukuba uziva ngathi iinzame zakho azizisanga lutshintsho kwisimo sabo sengqondo esikhohlakeleyo kunye notyekelo lwabo, lixesha lokuba ucinge nzulu ngokuphelisa ubudlelwane. Ukwahlukana, ngakumbi emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato, kunzima. Nokuba ubukhohlakele kangakanani na iqabane lakho, kusenokubakho nokuzisola. Iimvakalelo zakho zinokukuxelela ukuba mhlawumbi ayisiyiyo into elungileyo. Nangona kunjalo, njengexhoba lenkohlakalo yabo, unelungelo lokubashiya. Khumbula ukuba kufanelekile ukuba kubudlelwane obunothando, ukuzibophelela kunye nolonwabo. Yiya phambili ukwenza oku kube nakho kuwe kwixa elizayo.
Iziphumo zexesha elide zokuziphatha gwenxa
Inkohlakalo inokubangela ubundlobongela kwaye ubundlobongela bunokukhokelela kwiziphumo ezibi. Iqabane elikhohlakeleyo ekugqibeleni linokuzibandakanya ekuxhatshazweni ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye likwenze ugqithe kwimiba emibi yengqondo. Kungenxa yoko le nto naluphi na uhlobo loxolelwaniso lungekho mthethweni.
Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba awuwedwa kule nto. Inye kwabasetyhini abathathu kwaye indoda enye kwamane ibe ngamaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala ngamaqabane awo akhohlakeleyo. Nje ukuba yonke into igqibe, kubalulekile ukubona ukuba umtshato wakho ubunokuba yintoni ukuba benikhe nahlala kunye.
Ukushwankathela, xa uneqabane elikhohlakeleyo kubalulekile ukuba ibe nguwe ongalahlekiyo yimithambo-luvo. Funa uncedo lobuchwephesha ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba yonke into iyasilela, elona nyathelo lisengqiqweni kukuqhawula umtshato.