Umxholo
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngomhla wokuqala isisihloko esingathandabuzekiyo uninzi lwethu. Inkcubeko yethu isajonga ukuba isondo yinto ekufanele ukuba yenzekile phakathi kwabantu abaye bazana kakuhle kwaye bathandana.
Nangona kunjalo, enye into iyinyani- uninzi lwethu luyenzile. Ke, masiphule i-taboo kwaye sithethe ngale mfihlo inkulu yabelwanayo.
Eli nqaku liza kuxubusha ubunyani ngesondo ngomhla wokuqala, ukuba ingaba yinto elungileyo, kwaye kutheni inokuba yinto embi.
Iinyani
Ihlabathi lanamhlanje liya lisanda ngokwanda lendawo apho abantu banenkululeko yokuzama nokuvavanya imida yabo. Kwabanye, oko kuthetha ukuba banokuzonwabela inkululeko zokuzonwabisa ngokwesondo. Ngoku banokuzibandakanya kwisini ngomhla wokuqala ngaphandle kokunxiba ileta ebomvu, bethetha ngokufanekisa. Abanye abantu bayayonwabela inkululeko yabo yesondo kwaye baziva njengentlanzi emanzini.
Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha ezi nkululeko zintsha ayisiyo indebe yomntu yeti. Kodwa, uxinzelelo olwenziwa yimithombo yeendaba kwiingqondo ezikhulayo kunokukhokelela ekubeni umntu akholelwe ukuba nabo bangakonwabela ukuphila ubomi 'bePie yaseMelika'. Aba bantu, isondo ngomhla wokuqala linokuba ngumthombo wokuzicekisa kunye namava abuhlungu.
Xa kufikwa kumanani-manani, kwindawo ethile malunga nesiqingatha samadoda athi abelana ngesondo ngomhla wabo wokuqala, ngelixa sisinye kwisithathu sabasetyhini esivunyelweyo kumava afanayo.
Abasetyhini kulindeleke ukuba bathandabuze ngakumbi ukunika ingxelo ngoku belinde ubuncinci umhla wabo wesibini wokubetha ingxowa. Kwaye amadoda anokuyibaxa noko. Nangona kunjalo, la manani abonisa ukuba ukulala nomntu odibana naye akunqabile kwaphela.
Okulungileyo
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngomhla wokuqala akufuneki ukuba kubi konke. Kungenxa yoko le nto abantu abaninzi bekwenza oko. Izizathu ubuncinci zimbini. Xa uyijonga ngokwembono yesondo ngolu hlobo, ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokufika kuyo kwangoko, kufanele ukuba bekukho ikhemistri enkulu eqhubekayo. Ke ngoko, isini sinokumangalisa!
Ngapha koko, xa usabelana ngesondo nomntu osandula ukudibana naye, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kunokubakho uxinzelelo oluncinci kunokuba umazi ngcono umntu kuqala. Ngamanye amagama, xa ulinde ukulala nomntu, ulindelo kunye noxinzelelo luyakha. Oku kunokuchaphazela ukonwaba kwakho kunye nokusebenza.
Enye pro yokuba neentlobano zesini kumhla wakho wokuqala - akukho mntu uthi kufuneka ububusuku obubodwa. Ewe kuye kwenzeka ngaphambili ukuba abantu babelane ngesondo ngomhla wabo wokuqala kwaye emva koko bachithe amashumi eminyaka bonwabile emtshatweni.
Into elungileyo malunga ne-tching taboos kukuba uvula indlela yokuba kwenzeke izinto ezininzi ezintle kuwe ngaphandle kokuvalelwa ngenxa yokucalulwa.
Okubi
Ewe, isondo ngomhla wokuqala unedumela elibi ngesizathu. Ingaba ngamava amabi kakhulu. Iingozi zimbini. Ithwala iingozi zomzimba nezengqondo. Eyona icacileyo umngcipheko wee-STD.
Usenokungena engxakini kuba uvumela umntu ongamaziyo ugqibelele ebomini bakho, utyhila apho uhlala khona, usebenza khona, okanye uye konwaba. Oku kunokuba yinto eyingozi ukuyenza.
Ayizizo zonke iakhawunti yesondo kumhla wokuqala evumelana ngokupheleleyo. Nokuba iimeko ziye zavunyelwa bobabini, kunokuba nokubakho ukungalingani ekwenzeni isigqibo. Oko kuthetha ukuba enye inokubakho kwimpembelelo enkulu yokuzithemba kwabo kunye nokuzihlonipha.
Kukho uhlobo olunye loxinzelelo, kubandakanya olufihlakeleyo, njengokucenga okanye ukuxoka, kunye nokungaqondakali, njengotywala okanye iziyobisi. Nokuba sele engathandi kangako amaqabane emiqolombeni kuxinzelelo, banokuziva bezisola kusuku olulandelayo kwaye behlelwe ziziphumo zengqondo.
Ububi
Apha sibuyela kubalo manani. Isiqingatha (sabantu abathe tye) besabelana ngesondo ngomhla wabo wokuqala, ngelixa besithathu kwabasetyhini besenza njalo. Umntu akufuneki abe sisazi semathematika ukuze abone into icinyiwe apha. Ngamanye amagama, abantu ababhinqileyo banobuchule obukhulu ekuzeni ekuchazeni olu lwazi malunga neziqu zabo. Abanye baya kuhamba indlela ende ukufihla ukuba banamava anjalo.
Xa abantu bengatshati ngokwenyani nomntu abalala naye kwangoko, izinto zinokuba mbi.
Ukugcina iimfihlo akusoloko kungumbono olungileyo, kwaye ubusuku obunye bobusuku bunendlela yokujonga xa ungazifuni.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka usoloko unyanisekile ngayo kwaye ume emva kwezenzo zakho. Ngokukodwa neqabane lakho elikufanele ukuba uvuleke kwaye unyaniseke.