Umxholo
- Ukukwazi ukuzilawula ngokwakho kuququzelela unxibelelwano olusempilweni
- 1. Xa uqala ukuziva unomsindo kwiqabane lakho
- 2. Zihlaziye kwakhona
- 3. Jonga emva kulo mbandela
- 4. Cela izimvo zeqabane lakho
- 5. Xa uqhuba incoko, khumbula kwaye uvule
Ukuba kubudlelwane kunamahla ndinyuka awo. Kukwanjalo ke nangokuba nosapho. Xa kuziwa kungquzulwano kuyo nayiphi na indawo, unxibelelwano olunamandla olunokuba nalo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano kuvunyelwene ngalo ngokubanzi.
Ukukwazi ukuzilawula ngokwakho kuququzelela unxibelelwano olusempilweni
Icandelo eliphambili lokukwazi ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo kukukwazi ukuzilawula.
Ithetha ntoni le nto? Ngokusisiseko, oku kuthetha ukuba sikwazi njani ukulawula iimvakalelo zethu. Oku kunokubonakala ngathi ayingombono welinye ilizwe kodwa inokuba yintoni le ihlala ifika endleleni, yokwazisa.
Kukwazisa amaxabiso neenkolelo zethu kunye nendlela ezinokuluchaphazela ngayo ulindelo lwethu oludla ngokuba ngoyena nobangela ekudaleni iibhloko zonxibelelwano, uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo, kwaye ekugqibeleni ungquzulwano okanye uqhawulo-mtshato.
Kumsebenzi wam nezibini, bahlala beza kum bechaza indlela abanomsindo ngayo ukuba iqabane labo alikhathali ngokwaneleyo ukuba benze 'x' okanye balibale ukwenza 'y' okanye baphazamise 'z'. Ngamanye amaxesha, indlela abaziphethe ngayo inokubonakala ingabalulekanga ngaphezulu (njengokukhupha inkunkuma okanye ukulayishwa kwesixhobo sokuhlamba izitya) xa bezama ukunxibelelana nokusombulula umba ababonakala bengafiki ndawo.
Ngoba? Kuba abathethi ngomba wokwenyani!
Umcimbi wokwenyani kukuba ezo zinto zimele bona, intsingiselo enzulu yento eziyifanekiselayo. Yile nto kufuneka sinxibelelane kwaye siyiqonde kunye neqabane lethu kuba ngokunyaniseka, akukho mntu uyikhathaleleyo kangako malunga nezitya.
"Ke ngoku siqala njani ukwakha olo lwazi?" usenokubuza. Ewe, nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokukunceda ukuba ufumane umkhondo.
1. Xa uqala ukuziva unomsindo kwiqabane lakho
Qaphela apho uziva khona ezonto kwaye zinamandla kangakanani kuwe.
Kwinqanaba le-1 ukuya kwi-10, ngaba ngu-3 okanye u-7? Oku kuyakukunceda ukuba uqale ukudala ukuqonda ngokubaluleka komcimbi kwaye ngenxa yoko ukubaluleka kwelo xabiso okanye inkolelo esemva kwayo. Ezinye izinto kunokuxoxiswana ngazo ngelixa ezinye zingenakho.
Ukuba ngu-10 ngalo lonke ixesha, kungafuneka ndiqwalasele ukuba ngaba lo wophula isivumelwano.
2. Zihlaziye kwakhona
Thatha ixesha lokuba uhloniphe nantoni na ojamelana nayo ngokubuya umva kwaye uziqwalasele iimfuno zakho ngaphambi kokuyithetha!
Ukunxibelelana ngezo ngcinga zinzulu kunye neemvakalelo kunokuviwa ngokwaneleyo njengoko kunjalo, kakhulu xa siphakathi kwabo. Amathuba kukuba, ukwenza njalo kuya kukonyusa izinto. Endaweni yoko, zihlaziye kwakhona.
Izinto ezinjengokuphefumla ngokunzulu, ukuzilolonga, ukucamngca, ukumamela umculo omabini, kunye nokuzikhathalela, njl.njl.
3. Jonga emva kulo mbandela
Nje ukuba ube nexesha lokulawulwa, jonga ngasemva kumcimbi kwaye uzibuze ukuba yintoni ixabiso okanye inkolelo eyayinomceli mngeni ngelo xesha?
Ngaba izitya zingumqondiso wentsebenziswano yethu kubudlelwane? Ngaba owona mbandela mkhulu ndiva ngathi iqabane lam alitsali ubunzima balo okanye ngaba lalisenza malunga nokungahlambi izitya kuba baphinde basebenza emva kwexesha.
Ngaba le nto ithi kum, "Awungoyena uphambili kum?" Njengoko ubona, indlela efanayo yokuziphatha inokuthetha into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo kwingcambu yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba ucace koku ngaphambi kokuthetha ngayo.
4. Cela izimvo zeqabane lakho
Emva kokuba udlule kumanqanaba amathathu okuqala, ukulungele ukuzilungiselela. Bhala phantsi into oyithathileyo kwinto oyibonileyo xa usabelana neqabane lakho. Umzekelo, ubukhathazeke kangakanani kwisikali sakho kwaye oko kunxibelelana njani nexabiso lakho (okt kubaluleke kangakanani kwaye kutheni).
Cela igalelo lomlingane wakho ukuba lingaya nini ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba nengxoxo. Khetha ixesha eliza kusebenza kakuhle kuni nobabini ukuvumela iziphazamiso ezincinci okanye izinto ezongezelelekileyo ezikwicala ngalinye.
5. Xa uqhuba incoko, khumbula kwaye uvule
Iqabane lakho liya kuba neengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zalo.
Ufuna ukuya kwezi kodwa ngentlonelo kucace ukuba ungathanda ukwabelana kuqala.
Hlala kude negama elithi "wena" njengoko oku kunokuthumela abantu kukhuselo olungeyonjongo.
Injongo kukuva kwaye ngethemba lokudala utshintsho! Endaweni yoko, sebenzisa "mna" ingxelo eqinisekileyo yokuphela ngesicelo sokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha. Konke malunga nokuba ungasebenzisana njani ukusombulula umba.