Umxholo
- 1. Ukwakha ubudlelwane kwakhona, omabini amaqela kufuneka atyale imali ngokwenza njalo
- 2. Guqula imikhwa yangaphambili
- 3. Sombulula izinto ezingonwabisiyo
- 4. Yiyeke nayiphi na inzondo
- 5. Ziqwalasele nzulu
Kunzima xa ufumana ixesha elinzima kubudlelwane bakho. Ngokukodwa xa nisathandana kakhulu kodwa ngandlela thile nikhuphele ngaphandle kwengoma ebethiweyo ngandlela thile.
Ubudlelwane obuninzi buqhekeka ngamaxesha omgama kunye nobunzima. Kodwa ukuba ufunda le nto, amathuba okuba ucinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo- indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuthatha isigqibo sokwakha ulwalamano lwakho linyathelo lokuqala elifanelekileyo. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uzilungiselele, indlela yokulungisa inokuba nde. Kuya kubakho uninzi lweemvakalelo ezindala kunye nemikhwa efuna ukusonjululwa, kunye neenkumbulo ezintsha zokudala ngelixa nobabini nisebenza ekwakheni ubudlelwane kwakhona.
Nangona kunjalo, akukho nto iya kuba nzima ukuyifeza ukuba niyathandana, kwaye nizimisele ukwakha ubuhlobo benu. Ubudlelwane obuza kukhula eluthuthwini lobudlelwane bakho obudala kunye buya kuba yinto yomelele kwaye buzalisekise.
Nanga amanyathelo ama-5 oya kuthi uwaqwalasele ukwakha ubuhlobo bakho
1. Ukwakha ubudlelwane kwakhona, omabini amaqela kufuneka atyale imali ngokwenza njalo
Ukuba elinye iqela alikafikeleli kwisigqibo, okanye ukuqonda ukuba bafuna ukusebenzela ukwakha ubudlelwane, kukho amanyathelo kunye nezicwangciso ezinokuthi zithathelwe ingqalelo ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke nokuzibophelela kobu budlelwane. Emva kwayo yonke into ubudlelwane buthatha abantu ababini.
2. Guqula imikhwa yangaphambili
Emva kokuba ngokuhlangeneyo uthathe isigqibo sokuba nobabini nisazimisele kubudlelwane benu. Nobabini kufuneka nisebenze nzima ekutshintsheni ezinye zeendlela zenu zangaphambili.
Alithandabuzeki elokuba ukuba ubudlelwane bakho budinga ukwakhiwa kwakhona, uyakuba namava okusola, ukuziva unetyala, kunye nokusilela ngandlela thile. Njengokungathembani, ukungabikho kolwalamano, ukungabikho kwencoko, kwaye ke lonke ityala kunye netyala eliya kuhamba nokunqongophala kwalo naliphi na iqela.
Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba uqale uqaphele indlela enithetha ngayo nobabini. Kwaye sebenza nzima ukutshintsha indlela enithetha ngayo omnye komnye ukuze unxibelelwano lwakho lube nothando kunye nolwazelelelo ngakumbi.
Kungenxa yokuba xa nibonakalisa uthando nolwazelelelo omnye komnye, kuya kuqala ukuphelisa ezinye 'iintlungu' zakho zangaphambili, kwaye utyale imbewu yokwakha ubudlelwane bakho ngendlela eya kuthi iqine kwaye isondele.
3. Sombulula izinto ezingonwabisiyo
Nangona nobabini ninokuzibophelela ekwakheni ubudlelwane kwakhona, indawo enkulu yokuya kusonjululwa kwamava angonwabisiyo athe aba yinxalenye yexesha elidlulileyo.
Ukuba kukho imiba ethembakeleyo, kuyakufuneka isingathwe, ngokufanayo ngomsindo, usizi, njalo njalo. Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, kuya kufuneka ufunde indlela yokunxibelelana ngcono.
Ngokufanelekileyo ukusebenza nomcebisi ngobuhlobo, ugqirha wehipnosisi okanye olunye uhlobo lomcebisi kuya kukunceda ukusombulula ngokulula le micimbi kwindawo elawulwayo. Qaphela ukuba ungaqhubeki ngengozi ukujongana nezi ngxaki omnye komnye.
Esi sisangqa esikhohlakeleyo esingayi kunceda konke konke ekwakheni ubudlelwane kwakhona kwaye yeyona nto uya kufuna ukuyiphepha.
Ukuba kunzima ukubona umntu wesithathu ukuba axhase, zama ukusebenzisa ukubonwa kokuyila ukuze usebenze ngeemvakalelo ezinxulumene noko- kuyanceda kakhulu. Zonke iimvakalelo ziyanyibilika xa zivunyelwe ukuba zichazwe. Ke ngokubonakala koyilo, unokuzibona uvumela imvakalelo egqithileyo ukuba ikhuphe emzimbeni wakho.
Kwaye ukuba uziva naziphi na iimvakalelo, okanye ufuna ukulila, vumela ezo mvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo ukuba zichazwe (ngamanye amaxesha zinokubonisa ukuva kovalo kwindawo ethile emzimbeni wakho) hlala nje nayo uzivumele ukuba ubonise nantoni na efuna ukuboniswa kude iyama-iyayeka.
Oku kuyakukhulula ezo mvakalelo zifakwe ngaphakathi, kukuvumela ukuba ugxile ekwakheni ubudlelwane kwakhona ngaphandle kokucinezela iimvakalelo ezimbi. Oku kuyakwenza kube lula kakhulu ukunxibelelana ngothando nothathelwa ingqalelo.
4. Yiyeke nayiphi na inzondo
Eli nyathelo liyafana nenyathelo lesi-3.
Umzekelo, ukuba uyakha kwakhona ubudlelwane emva komtshato, iqela elimsulwa kufuneka likulungele ngokwenyani kwaye likulungele ukuyeka ingxaki liye phambili. Ayifanelanga ukuba yinto ehlala iphoswa kumaxesha anzima, okanye ngexesha lempikiswano.
Ukuba uzibophelele ekwakheni ubudlelwane kwakhona kodwa ukufumanisa kunzima ukuza kuyo nayiphi na indlela, ngaphandle kokuzinikela kwakho, isenokuba lixesha lokufuna inkxaso ngokukodwa kumcebisi weqela lesithathu ukukunceda ukudibanisa oku.
Olu tyalo-mali lincinci luza kuzisa imivuzo emikhulu kulwalamano lwakho, ekuhambeni kwexesha.
5. Ziqwalasele nzulu
Ukuba unoxanduva lokungaziphathi kakuhle kubudlelwane bakho, inxenye yokwakha obu budlelwane iya kufuna ukuba uqonde ukuba kutheni wenze le nto uyenzileyo kwasekuqaleni. Mhlawumbi ukude kwaye ukude kubudlelwane bakho kwaye oko kubangele iingxaki, mhlawumbi kukho imiba yomsindo, umona, imiceli mngeni ngokugcina imali, abantwana okanye ipropathi njalo njalo.
Lixesha lokuba ujonge ngokwakho kwaye uqaphele nayiphi na iipateni obusoloko unazo ebomini bakho.
Jonga emva xa wawuqala ukwenza oku kunganyanzelekanga kwaye uzibuze ukuba ucinga ntoni, kwaye unethemba lokufumana ntoni.
Eli licandelo lomsebenzi, ukuze ungaziva ngathi ungabelana neqabane lakho, kwaye kulungile. Kuya kufuneka ube nesithuba sokusebenza ngale nto, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ungayisebenzisi njengesizathu sokuphepha ukusebenza kumsebenzi onzima wokwakha ubudlelwane bakho (ubuncinci hayi ukuba ufuna ukuyilungisa!).
Xa uqaphela iipatheni zokuziphatha ezinokubakho kangangeminyaka emininzi, ungaqala ukusebenza ngazo kwaye uqonde ukuba kutheni zisenzeka, kwaye ekuqondeni ukuba kutheni, uya kuba namandla okwenza utshintsho onokufuna ukwenza kulo Ukufumana ubomi obonwabisayo nobuzalisekileyo kunye neqabane lakho.