Umxholo
- 1. Bonisa uthando lwakho nenkxaso
- 2. Ukuphucula iqabane lakho ekuchacheni ixesha elide
- 3. Yandisa amathuba okuhlala kunye njengesibini
- 4. Ukuphucula impilo yakho
- 5. Qinisani ukusondelelana kwenu njengendoda nomfazi
Ukuba iqabane lakho liphakathi kweepesenti ezili-10 zabantu abadala kweli lizwe abachaphazelekayo kwiziyobisi okanye kotywala, unokujongana nengxaki efanayo. Yingxaki edla ngokuvakaliswa zizibini ezitshatileyo ekuvuseleleni kwangoko, njengoko ndizibonele ngokwam umsebenzi wam kunye neentsapho zabathengi kunyango lweziyobisi. Kwiimeko ezininzi, iqabane lomthengi elichacha kubukhoboka botywala liya kuzibuza ukuba ingaba kufuneka balinganise njani iindlela zabo zokusela. Ukuba ubuza lo mbuzo mnye, cinga ngezi zizathu zintlanu zokuyeka ukuselwa:
1. Bonisa uthando lwakho nenkxaso
Umlutha ukondliwa ngokuzihlukanisa. Iyeza lokuphilisa luthando kunye nokunxibelelana. Ukuziva uthandwa kakhulu nokuxhaswa liqabane, kokukhona iya kuba sisizathu sokubambelela ekuphulukweni kwabo-kwaye inkxaso yakho sisiseko esibalulekileyo sothando kunye nenkxaso enokunceda umfazi wakho, umyeni okanye iqabane lakho lihlale likhuthazekile ekuphumeni.
2. Ukuphucula iqabane lakho ekuchacheni ixesha elide
Uphando lubonisa ukuba iziphumo zokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo ziyaphucuka xa omabini amaqabane azimisele ekuziphatheni okubi. Unyaka wokuqala emva kokunyanga utywala kuxa umlingane wakho esengozini yokubuyela umva, ekunokwenzeka ukuba ubekhona phambi kweendlela ezindala zokusela, njengokukubona usela okanye ukubakho kotywala okulungeleyo endlwini.
3. Yandisa amathuba okuhlala kunye njengesibini
Ukuba ungumntu osela kakhulu, eli nani lilandelayo linxulumene nawe: Imitshato apho elinye iqabane lisela kakhulu kunokwenzeka ukuba liphele kuqhawulo mtshato. Uphononongo luka-2013 lwafumanisa ukuba imitshato apho iqabane elinye kuphela lalisela kakhulu (iziselo ezintandathu okanye ngaphezulu okanye ukusela de kube kukunxila) kwaphela ngoqhawulo-mtshato ngama-50 eepesenti exesha.
4. Ukuphucula impilo yakho
Nokuba ungumseli olingeneyo, kukho imeko eyomeleleyo eyenzelwe ukuba uyeke ukusela ngenxa yokuba ingcono kuwe. Izifundo zotywala zamva nje ziye zabuza umbuzo ngobulumko obudumileyo bokuba ukusela iglasi yewayini ebomvu kunye nesidlo sangokuhlwa kulungile kwimpilo yakho. Ngapha koko, kuthiwa abaphandi baqukumbele kwi Ijenali yezifundo kuTywala neziyobisi ukuba izibonelelo zempilo zokusela "ziyangcangcazeleka."
5. Qinisani ukusondelelana kwenu njengendoda nomfazi
Xa iqabane lakho lalikwingxaki yokusela kakhulu kunye nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kotywala, utywala busebenza njengomntu wesithathu emtshatweni wakho: ibingumqobo kunxibelelwano lokwenyani. Kungenxa yokuba utywala bunciphise amandla eqabane lakho lokuziva nokubakho kuwe. (Siyakwazi oku kuphononongo lwabathengi abaxhomekeke etywaleni abacebisa ukuba utywala buthoba ukubanako kwabo ukuba novelwano. Oko kunyanisekile xa ukhetha ubukrelekrele ngokunjalo.
Zonke izibini ezitshatileyo kufuneka zenze isigqibo ngokwazo malunga nendlela yokujongana nengxaki yeziyobisi notywala xa iqabane lichacha. Abanye abayeni nabafazi baya kwamkela ubudenge njengenyathelo lexeshana elifutshane elinceda umntu wabo amthandayo ukuba aphindele “kummandla oyingozi” (unyaka wokuqala emva konyango). Amanye amaqabane aya kunciphisa kwaye amodareyithe iipateni zabo zokusela (ukusela kuphela kwiimeko apho amaqabane abo engekho, umzekelo). Okwangoku, abanye baya kuthi bazibandakanye ngokudibeneyo ekuyekeleni ubomi babo bonke. Olu khetho lwesithathu lunokuba lolona khetho lububulumko, ngokusekwe kwezi zinto zintlanu ziqwalaselweyo.