Umxholo
- Ungena kwindlebe enye uphume kwenye
- Indlela yokuthetha namadoda-imigaqo ngokubanzi
- Ukuchaneka ukuya kwinqanaba kwaye ugcine kulula
- Mvumele ukuba athabathe okwenzekayo
- Mnike ixesha lokuphumla kuqala
- Ziphephe iziphazamiso
- Qala ngokuqinisekileyo
- Linda
Manenekazi, ukuba wakhe wanobuhlobo okanye watshata, uyazi kakuhle ukuba amadoda ayingcali njani xa kufikwa kumba wokungahoyi kwaye konke onokukwenza kukujonga iindlela zokumamela.
Asinakuqiniseka nokuba kutheni besenza le nto kodwa bayenza kakuhle kakhulu. Kukangaphi umcela ukuba abeke iimpahla zakhe kwi-hamper? Okanye ukhe wazama ukuthetha naye ngeemvakalelo zakho? Yintoni eyona nto uyikhathazayo xa uthetha nesoka lakho okanye umyeni wakho?
Sonke sikule meko kwaye sifuna nje ukwazi ubungqina obuqinisekisiweyo iindlela zokumamela - kwaye sithetha ukumamela kwaye sikuqonde oko sithetha ngako! Sikuvile, ke nantsi into esinokuyenza.
Ungena kwindlebe enye uphume kwenye
Ngaba wakhe wathetha nabahlobo bakho malunga “nendlela isithandwa sam andimameli xa ndithetha? ” Kutheni amadoda ngokubanzi enje?
Ngaba banayo ikhowudi yendoda malunga nayo? Ingaba kukho iindlela zokumamela? Ewe, ngaphambi kokuba singene kwiimfihlo, kufuneka siqale siqonde ukuba kutheni zinje.
Yinyani. Amadoda, ngokubanzi awazithandi iintetho ezinde ezikruqulayo ingakumbi malunga nento eyenzekileyo kwivenkile yokutya, indlela othanda ngayo ukuphinda upeyinte ikhitshi, uyibone njani le thengiselwano, nokuba uziva ulusizi kwaye ungakhathalelwanga.
Masiqonde ukuba kutheni isithandwa sakho okanye umyeni akamameli eya kuwe.
- Abayithandi idrama. Iincoko ezinde kunye nokuxoxa malunga nendlela awalibala ngayo isikhumbuzo okanye indlela loo ntombazana isebenza ngayo ibonakala ingula mntu uzokudlala naye.
- Ezi zihloko umntu wakho azi ukuba ziya kuthatha iiyure zokuthetha. Ewe, sonke sifuna ukwazi indlela yokuthetha nesoka lakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho kodwa ukuba ayisiyondlela ilungileyo- uyokoyikisa le ndoda ikuphephe.
- Eyakho Umyeni akamameli? Ngaba uxakekile ucinga ngomnye umntu? Yabona, olu luvo lokuqala oluza kuthi ezingqondweni kodwa ngaba ucinga ngamanye amantombazana?
- Uya kumangaliswa kukwazi ukuba yintoni efika engqondweni yomntu xa ekude kwaye ayisiyontombazana kuphela.
- Mhlawumbi ufuna ukuqala iprojekthi entsha, ubonile izivumelwano ezifanelekileyo zeemoto kwaye ucinga ukuba uza kuyithenga, okanye kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubonile into engaqhelekanga kwaye ufuna ukwazi ukuba yenzeke njani.
- Omnye umba we umyeni wam akandimameli Ingxaki kuxa uziva ukuba uyakuthintela ingakumbi xa uthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho ngakuye.
- Ungaze uqale isihloko malunga nokuba "njani my umyeni akamamelikwiimfuno zam”Ibinzana. Eli libinzana elaziwa ngabantu bonke kwaye bakuba beve le nto, baya kubaleka kwenye indawo. Amadoda ayithiyile ingxoxo ende.
- Abayithandi nokuba thina, abasetyhini siyakubabuza imibuzo ngathi baziswa enkundleni kwaye kamva, singazisebenzisa ezi mpendulo ukumenza avume iimpazamo okanye iingxaki.
- Ngaba ufuna ukwazi indlela efanelekileyo yokuthetha namadoda? Musa ukukrokra. Siyayifumana, iyakhathaza, ide isenze sibe nomsindo ixesha elininzi kodwa uyazi ntoni? Beka bucala loo msindo kwaye uqonde amadoda ukuze simazi iindlela zokumamela.
Indlela yokuthetha namadoda-imigaqo ngokubanzi
Ngaphambi kokuba umcaphukele ngokuthi “umfana endithandana naye akasamameli iimvakalelo zam” kwakhona, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka uphinde uyihlolisise yonke into kuqala.
Endaweni yokukhathazeka nesithandwa sakho okanye iqabane lakho kunye nokugqabhuka- kutheni ungaqhubeki phambili kwaye uziqonde? Uyabona ukuba kulula kangakanani ukufikelela ebantwini.
Ukuchaneka ukuya kwinqanaba kwaye ugcine kulula
Uyenza njani indoda yakho ukuba ikuphulaphule? Ilula ngokwenene. Namathela kwisifundo. Yigcine ilula kwaye uyishwankathele xa kufuneka njalo. Ukuba ufuna ukuchitha ubusuku kunye naye, yitsho nje.
Sukuhamba ubalisa amabali anje ngokuba umhlobo wakho kunye nesoka lakhe bahamba njani okanye udiniwe kwaye mhlawumbi ngenye imini ungaphinde ube nexesha kunye. Esi sisihloko esidikayo sendoda ke ukuba ufuna imamele- ngqo kwinqanaba kodwa usabuthathaka.
Mvumele ukuba athabathe okwenzekayo
Enye imfihlo indlela yokwenza isithandwa sakho simamele? Thatha ithuba lokuba akuphulaphule kodwa ungamdinwa. Ngaba unawo amandla okubona ukuba uyadika nyani ngoba ukuba awunjalo? Uya kurhalela nje kwincoko kwaye sibuyele kwisikwere sokuqala.
Mnike ixesha lokuphumla kuqala
Ngokungafaniyo nathi basetyhini, amadoda ngabantu babucala. Abasetyhini, xa befumana iingxaki emsebenzini ngokuqinisekileyo bafuna ukuthetha ngayo ngelixa amadoda engayi.
Ke, ngaphambi kokuba umcaphukele ngenxa yokucinga nzima okanye ngokungamameli, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba umjonge naye.
Ziphephe iziphazamiso
Sonke siyazi ukuba amadoda, xa efika ekhaya okanye ephumle usuku afuna nje ukugxila kwiiprojekthi zabo ze-DIY okanye mhlawumbi abukele ibhola okanye asele nabahlobo.
Ewe banehlabathi labo elincinci kwaye balungile ngokulungisa izinto ezinokubaphazamisa-kubandakanya nathi.
Ke, indlela yokuthetha ukuze umyeni wakho amamele? Ewe, awungeni xa exakeke lixesha lakhe "mna". Ungaze uyenze loo nto. Ungamxelela ukuba emva kwimovie okanye iprojekthi ayenzayo, kufuneka eze kuwe ukuze uthethe.
Qala ngokuqinisekileyo
Ngoku ukuba unayo ingqalelo, khumbula ukuba iindlela zokumamela zidityanisiwe. Ngoku ukuba ulapha, qalisa ngokuqinisekileyo. Musa ukumkrokrela! Akukho mntu uyifunayo. Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha naye malunga neemvakalelo zakhe, qala ngesikripthi esifanelekileyo kuqala.
Ukuba akakukhathalelanga, ungaqala ngento ebeyenza kakuhle kwaye uyayixabisa loo nto emva koko uthethe into oyifunayo.
Linda
Okokugqibela, ungayifumana njani indoda ukuba ithethe nawe kukwathetha ukuba kufuneka ube nomonde kuye. Amadoda awafani nabafazi ke sukulindela ukuba abekho.
Akayi kuba nakho ukuba yiyo yonke indoda eqondayo kwangoko. Yonke into idinga ixesha elithile ke ukuba nomonde kuye kuya kumvumela ukuba azive ekhululekile xa ekunye nawe ukuze akwazi ukuthetha nokwabelana naye.
Kukho enye into iindlela zokumamela kodwa uyazi ukuba zonke ezi zinto ziyafana?
Kukuqonda. Ngamanye amaxesha, sijolise kwinto yokuba kuyaphazamisa ukungamameli kodwa asiboni ukuba asibaniki ukhetho. Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo kukunika kunye nokuthatha, imbeko kunye nomonde kwaye oko kuya kumenza ukuba akumamele.