Umxholo
- Nokuba imitshato isempilweni ngumsebenzi onzima
- Iingxaki ezixhasayo emva kwesigqibo sokutshata
- Imitshato engenampilo inokwenziwa isempilweni
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bayandibuza ukuba ukusebenza njengomtshato kunye nonyango losapho kundenze ndaphelelwa lithemba emtshatweni. Ngokunyaniseka, impendulo nguhayi. Ngelixa ndingaqhelananga nenzondo, ukuphoxeka, kunye nemizabalazo edla ngokubangelwa kukuba "ndiyayenza," ukusebenza njengonyango kundinike ukuqonda kwinto eyenza (okanye engayenziyo) umtshato ophilileyo.
Nokuba imitshato isempilweni ngumsebenzi onzima
Nditsho nemitshato esempilweni ayikhe ingabikho kungquzulwano kunye nobunzima. Ngale nto ithethwayo, nangona kunjalo, ndiyakholelwa ukuba eminye yemizabalazo ejongene nabantu abatshatileyo inokuthintelwa xa kusetyenziswa ubulumko ekukhetheni iqabane lakho. Anditsho ukuba ndihlazise nasiphi na isibini esifumana ubunzima kubudlelwane babo bomtshato. Iingxaki azisoloko ziluphawu lomtshato ongenampilo. Nokuba izibini zinokutshata ngaphandle kwezizathu ezifanelekileyo, ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukuphilisa kunokwenzeka kuwo nawuphi na umtshato nokuba kunjani ekuqaleni kolo lwalamano. Ndizibonele.
Iingxaki ezixhasayo emva kwesigqibo sokutshata
Injongo yeli nqaku kukuphakamisa ukuqonda ngezizathu ezixhasayo kwisigqibo sokutshata. Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku liza kunceda ukuthintela izigqibo zokungahambi kakuhle okanye zokungxamela ubudlelwane ezinokubangela umzabalazo ongafunekiyo okanye wenzakalise kwikamva. Oku kulandelayo zizikhuthazi eziqhelekileyo zomtshato endihlala ndizibona kwizibini ezinesiseko somtshato esibuthathaka. Ukuba nesiseko esibuthathaka kudala ungquzulwano olungeyomfuneko kwaye kwenza umtshato ungabikho amathuba okumelana noxinzelelo lwendalo olunokuvela.
- Uloyiko lokuba akukho namnye olunge ngakumbi oza kuza
“Kukho umntu olunge ngaphezu kwakhe” ngamanye amaxesha yingcinga ebangela ukuba izibini zingazihoyi iiflegi ezibomvu zomnye.
Kuyaqondakala ukuba awufuni ukuba wedwa, kodwa ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ubeke ubomi bakho emntwini ongakuphathanga kakuhle okanye ongakonwabisiyo? Abantu abatshatayo ngenxa yokoyika ukungatshatanga baziva ngathi bazinzisile izinto ezingaphantsi kwento abayifaneleyo, okanye engaphantsi kwento ebebeyifuna. Ayisiyiyo kuphela into yokudanisa iqabane elivakalelwa ngathi lihleli, kodwa kuyonzakalisa iqabane elivakalelwa kukuba lihleliwe.Kuyinyani, akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo, kwaye akulunganga ukulindela ukuba iqabane lakho liza kuba. Kunokwenzeka, nangona kunjalo, ukuziva uhloniphana kwaye wonwabele omnye nomnye. Yinyani leyo. Ukuba awuziva ngale ndlela kulwalamano lwakho, nobabini ninokuba ngcono ngokuqhubeka.
Iyacetyiswa Ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato ekhompyutheni
- Ukungabi namonde
Umtshato ngamanye amaxesha ubekwa kwisiseko, ngakumbi ngaphakathi kwenkcubeko yobuKristu. Oku kunokwenza ukuba abangatshatanga bazive ngathi baphantsi kunabantu bonke kwaye kunokubanyanzela ukuba bangene emtshatweni ngokungxama.
Abantu abenza le nto bahlala bekhathalele ukutshata kunabantu abatshatayo. Ngelishwa, emva kwezibhambathiso zomtshato, banokuqala ukuqonda ukuba abaze balazi iqabane labo, okanye bafunde indlela yokujongana nembambano. Yazi umntu otshata naye phambi kokuba utshate naye. Ukuba ungxamela emtshatweni ukuze nje uve ngathi uqala ubomi bakho, mhlawumbi luphawu ekufuneka uluthobile.
- Ndiyathemba ukukhuthaza utshintsho kwiqabane labo
Ndisebenze nezibini ezininzi ezazisazi ngokupheleleyo "imiba" ebangela iingxaki emtshatweni wabo ngaphambi kokuhamba ezantsi. “Bendicinga ukuba lonto iyakutshintsha sakuba sitshatile,” isoloko isisiqhelo abasinika sona. Xa utshata umntu, uyavuma ukumthatha kwaye umthande njengokuba enjalo. Ewe banokutshintsha. Kodwa abanakho. Ukuba umntu othandana naye uthi akaze afune bantwana, akulunganga ukumqumbela xa esitsho into enye xa nitshatile. Ukuba uziva ezinye iimfuno zakho ezibalulekileyo kufuneka uzitshintshe, banike ithuba lokutshintsha ngaphambi komtshato. Ukuba abenzi njalo, tshata nabo kuphela ukuba unokuzibophelela kubo njengokuba benjalo ngoku.
- Ukoyika ukungamkelwa ngabanye
Abanye abantu batshata kuba bexhalabele ukuphoxeka okanye ukugwetywa ngabanye. Ezinye izibini zivakalelwa kukuba kufuneka zitshatile kuba wonke umntu ulindele oko, okanye abafuni ukuba ngulo mntu uqhawula umtshato. Bafuna ukubonisa wonke umntu ukuba bayifumene kwaye balilungele eli nyathelo lilandelayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukungonwabi okwethutyana kokuphoxa abanye okanye ukuhletywa akukho ndawo ikufuphi kwintlungu kunye noxinzelelo lokuzibophelela ebomini nomntu ongakulungelanga.
- Ukungakwazi ukusebenza ngokuzimeleyo
Ngelixa indlela "Undigqibezela" inokusebenza kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya, kwilizwe lezempilo yengqondo, sikubiza oku "kukuxhomekeka" okungasempilweni. Ukuxhomekeka kwikhowudi kuthetha ukuba ufumana ixabiso lakho kunye nokuzazisa komnye umntu. Oku kudala inani elingenampilo loxinzelelo kulowo mntu. Akukho mntu unokuzanelisa ngokweemfuno zakho. Ubudlelwane obusempilweni benziwe ngabantu ababini abasempilweni abomeleleyo kunye kodwa bakwazi ukuziphilela bodwa. Khawufane ucinge ngesibini esisempilweni njengabantu ababini ababambene ngezandla. Ukuba omnye uwela phantsi, omnye akazukuwa kwaye anganakho ukubamba enye phezulu. Ngoku khawufane ucinge isibini esizimeleyo njengabantu ababini aba-back-back-back abaxhomekeke omnye komnye. Bobabini baziva ubunzima bomnye umntu. Ukuba umntu omnye uyawa, bobabini bawa kwaye baphele bekonzakala. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nixhomekeke kuphela omnye komnye ukuze usinde, umtshato wakho uza kuba nzima.
- Uloyiko lwexesha elilahlekileyo okanye amandla
Ubudlelwane kutyalo-mali olunzulu. Bathatha ixesha, imali kunye namandla emvakalelo. Xa abantu abatshatileyo betyale kakhulu omnye komnye, kunzima ukucinga ukuba bayahlukana. Yilahleko. Uloyiko lokuchitha ixesha kunye namandla emvakalelo emntwini ongazukugqibela ukuba liqabane lakho kunokubangela ukuba izibini zivume emtshatweni ngokuchasene nesigqibo esingcono. Kwakhona, ngelixa kunokuba lula ukukhetha umtshato ngaphezulu kokuqhawuka, kuya kukhokelela kwimicimbi emininzi yomtshato ebinokuphetshwa.
Ukuba uhlangana nenye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi, yinto ekufuneka uyiqwalasele ngaphambi kokwenza ukuzibophelela emtshatweni. Ukuba sele utshatile, ungalahl 'ithemba. Kusekho ithemba ngobuhlobo bakho.
Imitshato engenampilo inokwenziwa isempilweni
Abashukumisi bomtshato kwizibini ezisempilweni ngokubanzi kubandakanya intlonipho enzulu omnye komnye, ukonwaba ngokunyanisekileyo kwenkampani yomnye kunye neenjongo kunye neempawu ezabelwana ngazo. Kwabo abangadibaniyo, khangela umntu oneempawu zokwenza iqabane lomtshato elisempilweni, kwaye usebenzele ekubeni liqabane lomtshato elisempilweni lomnye umntu. Sukungxama ngenkqubo. Uya kuthintela wena kunye nabanye kwiintlungu ezingafunekiyo zeemvakalelo.