Umxholo
- 1. Iinkolelo ngokwenkolo kunye nomthetho
- 2. Izizathu zonyango
- 3. Izizathu zengqondo
- 4. Izizathu zentlalo
- Eziluncedo:
- Bendlela:
Ubudlelwane bePlato bubudlelwane obusenyongweni ngokweemvakalelo ngaphandle kwesondo. Apha siza kuphonononga ubuhle kunye neengozi zokuzibandakanya ngokwesondo kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obusenyongweni ngokweplato kunye nomntu othandana naye ngenjongo yokukhetha iqabane oza kutshata nalo.
Makhe sihlolisise ukuba kutheni umntu enokufuna ukuba kubudlelwane obusondeleyo beplato ngaphandle kwesondo.
1. Iinkolelo ngokwenkolo kunye nomthetho
Uninzi lwabantu luyaziqhelisa ukwabelana ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato ngenxa yeenkolelo zonqulo. Kwamanye amazwe, akukho semthethweni ukuba abantu abatshatileyo babelane ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato, kungoko ukusondelelana kwe-platon kuphela kwendlela eshiyekileyo kwizibini ezinjalo.
2. Izizathu zonyango
Abanye abantu banezizathu zonyango zokuziyeka xa betshatile. Umzekelo, umntu otshatileyo usenokuba wayefumene ingozi yemoto kwaye ugqirha usenokuba wacebisa isigulana sakhe ukuba singazibandakanyi nakwintoni na enzima, kubandakanya isondo, kude kufike esinye isaziso.
Ezo zibini zifunda ukuziqhelanisa nokuziyeka kulwalamano. Abathathi-nxaxheba abaqala inkqubo yokubuyisa amanyathelo ali-12 bahlala becetyiswa ukuba bangazibandakanyi kubudlelwane bezesondo kangangexesha elithile ukuze bahlale begxile kwinkqubo.
3. Izizathu zengqondo
Abanye abantu bathatha isifungo sokungatshati ngenxa yezizathu zengqondo. Inye, ukulungiselela indlela entsha yokucinga yokutshintsha imiba yobomi babo okanye ukuthatha ixesha lokufumana kwakhona kubudlelwane obudlulileyo. Uninzi lwabazali abangenamaqabane bazibophelela ekuziphatheni ngokwesondo kwaye bafunda ukuhlala bengenzi nto kubudlelwane ukukhulisa abantwana.
4. Izizathu zentlalo
Imithetho eyaziwayo yanamhlanje "yeenyanga ezintathu" ngumzekelo weklasikhi wentlalo yobudlelwane beplato.
Imithetho yobudlelwane obunje ngeplato inika inkululeko eyoneleyo kubafazi abacetyiswayo ukuba bathandane kwaye bonwabele ubuqabane bamaqabane abo angamadoda kodwa balinde ubuncinci iinyanga ezintathu ngaphambi kokuba babelane ngesondo neqabane labo kuba limisela izibonelelo ezininzi zobudlelwane.
Nokuba zithini na izizathu zokuba umntu angakhetha ukungazibandakanyi ngokwesondo, oko akuthethi ukuba umntu lowo akafuni qabane. Banesidingo sokuhlala ngokusondeleyo nangokweemvakalelo ukuhlala bedibene kunye nomhla kodwa ngokuqonda ukuba akusayi kubakho sini. Abantu abaninzi bagcina ubudlelwane obusenyongweni beplato kwiinyanga, kwaye abanye iminyaka ngaphambi kokutshata.
Ababini bafunda indlela yokujongana nokuziyeka kubudlelwane kuba ubudlelwane beplatonic banesabelo sabo sezibonelelo. Kodwa, umntu kufuneka aqonde iingenelo kunye neengozi zokuziyeka ngaphambi kokuzibophelela kubudlelwane obungavumelekanga.
Eziluncedo:
- Ukuthatha ixesha lokwazi umntu ngaphambi kokuba ulale ngesondo kuthetha ukuba awuthandani neiglasi ezinemibala evulekileyo. Ke ngoko, awungekhe utolike ngokulula indlela yokuziphatha engamkelekanga ukuba yamkeleke.
Umzekelo, umntu onokucinga ukuba uxhalabile malunga nawe usenokuba yinto yolawulo. Ukuziphatha kokuba uxhalabile kuyamkeleka, kodwa indlela yokuziphatha yolawulo oluqhekezayo sisaphuli-mthetho.
- Ukuthatha ixesha lokwazi umntu ngaphambi kokuba ubelane ngesondo kuya kukunika ixesha lokuthetha ngeemfihlo. Iintetho zakho ziya kuveza ulwazi malunga ne-STD (Izifo eziDluliselwa ngeSondo) ukuxilongwa okanye imbali yosapho yofuzo ekufuneka uyazi. Ngokukodwa, ukuba ufuna ukuba nabantwana kwaye uqale usapho.
- Abantu abatshatileyo bayayeka ukuba neentlobano zesini ngamaxesha athile xa belungisa ubudlelwane babo kwimicimbi yokuthembana, intlonipho kunye nokuzibophelela. Ukufumana ukuthembana, imbeko, kunye nokuzibophelela zizona zibonelelo ziphambili zomthetho "weenyanga ezintathu".
Ukuziyeka emtshatweni ngumgaqo ocebisa amadoda nabafazi ukuba bangabelani ngesondo nomntu oza kuba liqabane lakhe iinyanga ezintathu ubuncinci. Umbono kukususa abantu abanganyanisekanga kwaye ufumane malunga nemikhwa yokwaphula isivumelwano okanye iimfihlo.
Uninzi lwabantu alunakuhlala ecaleni xa bengabelani ngesondo ngokukhawuleza kuba bengafuni ulwalamano olunzulu. Nangona benokuthi ngenye indlela bazifumane iimpahla. Banokutshata. Kule meko, ngekhe nityale imali nonke, ngenxa yoko nilahlekelwe yimithwalo.
Umtshato kaPlato ngumbono olungileyo wokuzihlonela kunye nokuzithemba kwakho.
Bendlela:
- Ngaphezulu komhlobo omnye. Ukuba imida ayibekwanga, iqabane lakho linokuzibandakanya kubudlelwane obungaphaya kobunye beplato kunye nokucinga ukuba ababelani ngesondo.
Ke ngoko banokuba nabahlobo abaninzi. Ingxaki kukusilela kokuzibophelela kunye nokuzibamba. Omnye wabo bahlobo unokuba "ngumhlobo onezibonelelo".
- Umlilo awusekho. Ukuba ubudlelwane beplatonic obusenyongweni abukhulisi umtsalane ngokwesondo ekwabelwana ngawo ngawo omabini amaqela achaphazelekayo, ubudlelwane abuzukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo. Unokuba ngakumbi njengentsapho okanye iindlela zesahlulo.
- Ukophula ukuyeka isondo. Ukuba isibini sitshatile, elinye iqabane iimfuno zesondo zinokuba namandla kunenye, zinyanzele elinye iqabane ukuba liphume ngaphandle kolwalamano ngesondo.
Umtshato awenzelwanga ukuba ube nolwalamano olusenyongweni lweplato kunye nokuziyeka ngokwesondo nokuba kunyanzelekile ukuba wenze njalo okwexeshana.
Ukuqukumbela, kukho ezonyango, ezenkolo, ezengqondo nezentlalo izizathu zokuba kutheni abantu bekhetha ukuzibandakanya kubudlelwane beplato kunye nokuziyeka ngokwesondo.
Izibonelelo zobudlelwane beplato ngaphandle kwesondo zinika amaqabane ixesha lokuseka kunye nokomeleza ukuthembana, imbeko kunye nokuzinikela kulwalamano. Kwelinye icala, inokwazisa amaqabane aliqela kubudlelwane ukuba imida ayibekwanga.
Ukongeza, umtsalane wesini unokufa kwaye ubudlelwane abuqhubeki kwinqanaba elilandelayo. Ezi ntlobo zobudlelwane zisenokungabi lolona khetho lufanelekileyo kwimitshato ngaphandle kokuba ugqirha oqeqeshiweyo uyicebisile.