Umxholo
- Ungayichonga njani indlela yokuziphatha enomsindo
- Ukuthambisa
- Ukuncoma kabini
- Ukungahoyi abantu okanye ukungathethi nto
- Ukuhlehlisa izinto
- Ukugcina ukubala
- Ukushiya abantu ngaphandle okanye ukuthetha ngasemva kwabo
- Ukutsiba indumiso
- Ukuziqhelanisa
Masenze into enye icace ngaphambi kokuba siqale eli nqaku; Asithethi ukuba isimilo esikrwada sikwenza ube ngumntu ombi, akunjalo. Kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba ukuba uneempawu zokungabinantloko, unokwenza abanye abakungqongileyo bangonwabi.
Unokuphazamisa amaphupha akho kunye neenjongo ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakho. Kwaye, ubomi buya konwaba ngakumbi kuwe ukuba unokujongana nemicimbi yakho, uhlengahlengise impendulo yakho, kwaye ufunde indlela yokuthetha ngokufanelekileyo.
Musa ukudubula umthunywa; sonke kufuneka sinqamleze iminqamlezo yethu. Kodwa ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuba ungabonisa indlela yokuziqhatha, jonga ngezantsi ezinye zeempawu ezinesidima kwaye emva koko, konke okufuneka ukwenze ukuzilungisa.
Ukulungisa iipateni, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ubandakanyeka kwindlela yokuziphatha enomsindo kwaye uyilungise ukuze wonwabe ngobomi obonelisayo.
Ungayichonga njani indlela yokuziphatha enomsindo
Xa uqaphela iimpawu zokungakhathali, zibuze ukuba yintoni ebangele ukuba usabele okanye uziphathe ngale ndlela? Ngaba kungenxa yokuba ubucaphukile okanye uziva uzikhusele (faka nayiphi na enye imvakalelo) kwingcaciso eyenziwe okanye kwimeko, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ngoba?
Yintoni ebangele ukuba ubenomsindo, ngoba? Okanye ngaba uye waziphatha ngale ndlela kwi-autopilot?
Ukuqaphela ezi zinto kukunceda ukuba uqaphele ukuba kufuneka uqhubekeke noxinzelelo okanye ucime ezinye iinkolelo.
Inokuqaqambisa nje ukuba unendlela yokuziphatha efuna ukulungiswa. Oku kunokwenziwa ngokulula ngokulungisa isimilo njengoko usibona - ingqondo yakho iya kubamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye yamkele iindlela zakho ezintsha ukuba awuguquguquki kuyo.
Nazi ezinye (kodwa ayizizo zonke) iimpawu zokuziphatha gwenxa:
Ukuthambisa
Ufuna izinto, kodwa awuziceli ngqo; endaweni yoko, unokucebisa ngokuthetha ngezinto ezinomdla malunga nezinto ozifunayo.
Umzekelo, umntu osemsebenzini uphethe ibhegi entsha, kwaye uthi leyo ibhegi entle, ndinqwenela ukuba ndingayifumana, kodwa andifumani mali yaneleyo.
Olu hlobo lokuziphatha okungalawulekiyo luya kwenza ukuba umamkeli azive enetyala okanye engalunganga ngokuba nezinto ezintle (okanye nantoni na obuyikhathalele ngayo).
Ukuncoma kabini
Umona, unxunguphalo, okanye ukungabikho kokuqonda ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba ngasemva kokuncoma okunikezelwe kabini okanye okukhutshwayo. Le ndlela yokuphatha gadalala ikwenza ubonakale ngathi ukrwada kuba ingxelo ibingenabuntu.
Umhlobo wakho unokuba nomtsalane othile ngabo, kwaye usenokuthi, uhlala uhlekisa xa usitsho izinto ezingenangqondo ezinjalo. Okanye, 'kutheni uhlala usenza loo nto?'.
Okanye, umhlobo unemoto entsha, kwaye usenokuthi 'ilungile kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali' kwaye emva koko uqalise ukuthetha ngendlela imoto elandelayo enyuke ngayo kwisikali sodumo inamandla amakhulu. Ezi ziindlela zokuziphatha ezinobundlongondlongo emadodeni.
Ukungahoyi abantu okanye ukungathethi nto
Abanye abaxhaphazi abangakhathaliyo basebenzisa ukuthula njengesixhobo sabo. Basenokungaphefumli nelizwi, beshiya ukuthula okungonwabisiyo. Kodwa amandla kunye nokubonisa kwabo kunokuba kukuthetha.
Ngokufanayo, awunakubuya umnxeba, okanye wenze umntu alinde ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba uthethe naye. Oku kwenzeka ngesiqhelo emva kwengxabano.
Ngokuqinisekileyo sonke sidinga indawo ukuze sizipholise, kodwa ukuba singathethi nomntu kangangeeyure ungakhange uthi kufuneka ixesha lingenzi nto. Kwaye, ezi mpawu zabantu abangazinzanga abanobukrakra kunzima ukuzichaza ekuqaleni.
Ukuhlehlisa izinto
Ukuba uzibona uzibekela amangomso ukwenza into kuba ungavumi, sukufuna ukunceda umntu obandakanyekayo kuyo nayiphi na into oyenzayo, okanye ukhathazekile ngento ethile.
Yima uze uzibuze ukuba le yenye indlela yokuziphatha enesidima kuba isenokuba yiyo!
Ukugcina ukubala
Ukuba umntu uphose usuku lwakho lokuzalwa, uyaphoswa lolwabo okanye wenze into enkulu ngalo.
Ukuba umntu othile uthethe into oziva ukhubazekile kwiinyanga ezidlulileyo ungamvumeli ukuba ayilibale kwaye ubenza ukuba bayihlawule ngokuphindwe kalishumi.
Unokufuna ukohlwaya abantu ngezinto ocinga ukuba bazenzile, kodwa awuyeki. Ukuba uqala ukunxibelelana nomntu, uya kulindela ukuba baqalise unxibelelwano kwixesha elizayo, okanye kuya kubakho ingxaki.
Zonke ezi ziindlela zokuziphatha ezinobundlongondlongo kubudlelwane.
Ukushiya abantu ngaphandle okanye ukuthetha ngasemva kwabo
Le yeyona nto inokuthi abantu abaninzi bangene kuyo ngaxa lithile ngabom okanye ngenxa yokuba bengazi ngokungqubana nokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo.
Ezi ziimpawu zesini ezikhohlakeleyo!
Kodwa ukuba uthetha kakubi emva komqolo womntu, okanye ubashiye ngabom ngaphandle (ngobulumko okanye ngenye indlela), okanye nokuba uthetha okanye ucinga izinto ezintle ngasemva komntu kodwa uza kuhamba phezu kwamalahle ashushu ngaphambi kokuba ubaxelele ebusweni babo - yonke le yimizekelo yokuziphatha enengcwangu.
Ukutsiba indumiso
Ukungamdumisi umntu apho kufanelekileyo, ukungonwabi ngenxa yempumelelo yomntu othile, kunye nokubazisa ngandlela thile yonke imizekelo yokuziphatha okungalunganga kulwalamano.
Ukuba uyakhuphisana, kulungile ukuba ucaphuke kuba ulahlekile, kodwa kukuziphatha okungalawulekiyo ukuba uvumela umntu olahlekileyo ukuba ayive ngabom intlungu yakho.
Bukela le vidiyo:
Ukuziqhelanisa
Kulungile, ke le ndlela yokuziphatha kukungakhathali igqithile. Okwangoku, ukuba ubeka nabani na kwiingxaki, ukuphoxeka, ukuba awuxeleli abantu ukuba iphi na indawo ngabom okanye awubacebisi ngotshintsho lwexesha elibekiweyo, uyahlambalaza, kwaye yinto enoburharha leyo.
Ngoku ukuba uyazi imiqondiso ekhanyayo uzama ukulinganisa ukuba ubhajwe kubudlelwane obungenalusini.
Ukuba unamaqabane angenalusini, sukungxama ekuwakhombiseni. Abantu abanoburharha abanakho ukuthatha umdlalo osolwayo kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo.
Ukuba ufuna ulwalamano lwakho luqhubeke kwaye lubengcono ekuhambeni kwexesha, kuya kufuneka uvule imizila yonxibelelwano olusempilweni. Ungazama ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba uchaphazeleka kakubi kangakanani kwaye indlela yokuziphatha kwabo eyingozi ngayo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Musa ukulindela utshintsho olukhulu. Kodwa, kunokwenzeka ukuba usebenze ngokuziphatha okungalawulekiyo. Unokuthatha noncedo lobuchule kubacebisi okanye kubanyangi ukuze usebenze kwiimpawu zokuziphatha gwenxa.