Phantse uEva woNyaka oMtsha, kwaye oko kuthetha iminqwazi yeqela, iziselo ezihlwahlwazayo kunye nokuzanga ezinzulwini zobusuku.Ikwathetha ukuba iikowuti ezikhuthazayo malunga noNyaka oMtsha woNyaka zande. Kutheni ungazithatheli kuwe ezi ntetho zikhuthazayo kwaye ubulumko babo bube yinxalenye yolwalamano lwakho kunyaka ozayo?
"Yibhale entliziyweni yakho ukuba yonke imihla lolona suku lubalaseleyo enyakeni" -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Amaqabane ajonge okona kulungileyo ebomini bawo, ubudlelwane bawo, kunye nabanye, bonwabile kunabo bajolise kokubi. Lonke ulwalamano luza nemiceli mngeni yalo. Ngokujonga okuhle, unceda ukunciphisa okubi kwaye uzise amandla aqinisekileyo kubomi bakho kunye. Ukuba ujonga okuhle uzakufumana okuninzi. Umjikelo owakhayo owakha imikhwa esempilweni kubudlelwane bakho kwaye ukunceda ukuba uxabisane. Wena neqabane lakho niza kucaphukisana amaxesha ngamaxesha. Kungokwemvelo. Mhlawumbi ikhaya lakho alikho ngale ndlela ungathanda ukuba libe yiyo, okanye iimali zakho azikho kwimo yazo efanelekileyo. Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, ungajongana nemicimbi yokwenyani kubudlelwane bakho ngelixa ugcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwaye ujonge okulungileyo endaweni yoko kubi.
“Unyaka omtsha umi phambi kwethu, njengesahluko sencwadi, ulindele ukubhalwa. Singanceda ukubhala elo bali ngokuzibekela iinjongo. ” -Melody Beattie
Izigqibo zonyaka omtsha ayizizo ezabantu ngabanye-thatha ixesha lokwenza izigqibo kunye njengesibini, nazo. Ukwenza izigqibo zonyaka omtsha kunye yindlela emnandi yokuthatha isitokhwe sezinto ezintle kubudlelwane bakho kunye nokufumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo, ezifanelekileyo zokwenza utshintsho nazo. Chitha ixesha ku-Eva wonyaka omtsha nisenza izigqibo kunye. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye, ukuthatha uhambo, ukuqala umdlalo omtsha, ukumilisela uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali olutsha lwasekhaya, okanye ukufunda ukunxibelelana ngcono. Nokuba uthatha siphi isigqibo, thatha ixesha unyaka wonke ujonge kwaye ubone ukuba iinjongo zakho zobudlelwane zihamba njani.
“Ndiyathemba ukuba kulo nyaka uzayo, niyazenza iimpazamo. Kuba xa usenza iimpazamo, wenza izinto ezintsha ”-Neil Gaiman
Yima, ngaba sithi kufuneka wenze iimpazamo kubudlelwane bakho? Ewe akunjalo. Kodwa iimpazamo azinakuphepheka. Wena neqabane lakho nobabini ngabantu; nina nobabini nibe neentsuku ezintle neentsuku ezimbi, nibe nomoya ongalunganga, okanye nenze iimpazamo ekugwebeni. Indlela ophatha ngayo loo maxesha iya kwenza wonke umahluko kubudlelwane bakho. Ngaba uyasabela kwimeko yeqabane lakho ngokuhlekisa? Ngaba uyacaphuka, ubakhalimele okanye ubaphathe kakubi xa besenza impazamo? Ukuba abanangqondo, ngaba usabela ngokungathi bayenze ngabom? Okanye ngaba uthabatha umzuzwana ukuba ube novelwano kwaye uqonde ukuba benza konke okusemandleni abo? Phathanani ngobubele nokuxolelana, kwaye nizame ukungabi nenqala okanye ukugcina amanqaku. Ulwalamano lwakho luya kuba ngcono ngakumbi.
“Impumelelo yakho nolonwabo lwakho zilele kuwe. Zimisele ukuhlala wonwabile. ” -UHelen Keller
Inxalenye enkulu yolonwabo kubudlelwane yintsebenziswano - kodwa kukho umsebenzi othile obandakanyekayo, nawo. Kulula kakhulu ukwenza iqabane lakho linoxanduva lokonwaba kwakho, kwaye ubacaphukele ukuba abaphili ngokolindelo olo. Kodwa nantsi inyani: Nguwe wedwa onoxanduva lokonwaba kwakho. Ithetha ntoni loo nto kulwalamano lwakho? Kuthetha ukuba nobabini nithatha ixesha lokwenza izinto ezinondlayo engqondweni nasemzimbeni. Thatha ixesha lezinto ozithandayo ozithandayo, kwaye nixhasane ekwenzeni ixesha labo. Chitha ixesha nabahlobo abalungileyo okanye amalungu osapho akuthanda ngokwenene kwaye akuxhasa. Khathalela impilo yakho ngokweemvakalelo. Xa uzikhathalela ngokwakho, unokunika iqabane lakho eyona intle endaweni yakho.
"Isigqibo sethu sonyaka omtsha masibe sesi: Sizakubakhona omnye nomnye" -UGoran Persson
Kulula kakhulu ukuba usindwe ngumsebenzi, usapho kunye nokuzibophelela kwezentlalo kwaye uqale ukuthatha iqabane lakho njengelingento. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, bahlala bekhona yonke imihla. Kodwa ukuthatha iqabane lakho ngokungakhathali kuzala kuphela inzondo kwaye konakalisa ubudlelwane bakho. Ukhethe ukwabelana ngobomi bakho-oko kuthetha ukuba iqabane lakho kufuneka libe yinto ephambili ebomini bakho, hayi emva kokucinga. Yenza ukuzibophezela ekubeni ngumxhasi womnye nomnye kunye ne-vocal cheerleader. Thatha ixesha lokunxibelelana ngokwenyani neqabane lakho kwaye ufumane ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubo, zeziphi iinkxalabo abanazo, kunye namaphupha abo. Ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthetha, ukudibanisa, kunye nokuphumla ngaphandle koxinzelelo okanye ukuphazamiseka kuya kuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho.
Iingcaphuno zonyaka omtsha zingumthombo omnandi wokukhuthaza izibini. Yenza ukuzibophelela ekuthatheni la magama amnandi entliziyweni kwaye ubukele ubudlelwane bakho buhamba buqina buye komelela. Kwaye ukuba ufuna isikhumbuzi ngamafutshane, gcinani engqondweni la mazwi alumkileyo avela kuBenjamin Franklin:
Yilwa nemikhwa emibi, ngoxolo nabamelwane bakho, kwaye wonke unyaka omtsha makakufunele indoda engcono (okanye umfazi, uxolo Ben).