Umxholo
Amaqabane amaninzi, anqwenela ulwalamano oluwele phantsi kwithambeka elimtyibilizi lokungakhathali kunye ne-malaise, uyazibuza ukuba bangayenzela ntoni ukugcina umtshato emva kokwahlukana. Oku kwenzeka ikakhulu emva kokungavisisani okukhulu okanye "umaphuli-mthetho."
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ngenene ukuphiliswa okwenyani kunye nokuhlala kuguqukele kumjikelo wokudibana kwakhona emva kokwahlukana okubuhlungu emtshatweni? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ngokwahlukana ukugcina umtshato, okanye ngaba kubonisa ukuba isiphelo esikrakra sisondele kakhulu?
Phambi kokuba sizame ukuseka indlela yokuwusindisa umtshato wakho emva kokwahlukana, masikhe sicinge okomzuzwana ukuba yintoni ngokwahlukana komtshato? okanye yintoni ukwahlukana kobudlelwane?
Ukwahlukana emtshatweni okanye Ukwahlukana komtshato ngumbono apho amaqabane ayeka ukuhlala kunye ngaphandle kokuqhawula umtshato. Ukwahlukana kwendoda nomfazi emtshatweni akuthethi ukuba eso sibini siza kugqibela ngokuqhawula umtshato.
Inkqubo yokwahlukana emtshatweni inokuba neenjongo ezahlukeneyo, nezithi emva koko zahlukanise ngokweendidi ezahlukeneyo, ezinje ngokwahlukana kwetyala, ukwahlulwa ngokusisigxina, nokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni.
Ukwahlulwa kwezilingo kubudlelwane kuhlala kubonisa ukuba isibini asiqinisekanga malunga nokuba bafuna ukulungisa imicimbi yabo kwaye babuyele kunye okanye bafuna ukuqhawula umtshato. KWIMEKO enjalo, esi sibini sihlala sodwa kwaye sicinga ngeemvakalelo kunye nokhetho lwazo.
Ukwahlukana ngokusisigxina, kwelinye icala, kulapho abantu abatshatileyo bengenanjongo zokuxolelanisa umtshato wabo kodwa bengekaqhawuki.
Ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kuyafana kakhulu nokuqhawula umtshato ngokwemiqathango yokwahlulwa kwepropathi, isondlo, inkxaso yomntwana kunye nokugcinwa komntwana. Nangona kunjalo, kwahlukile kuqhawulo mtshato njengoko ungekhe uphinde utshate ngokusemthethweni.
Indlela eya phambili
Ukuba ufunda eli qhekeza kuba ufuna ukugcina umtshato wakho emva kokwahlukana, lungiselela uhambo olunzima kodwa oluyimfuneko. Ukuqala, amaqabane kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukwahlukana akuyi kulungisa nto ngokwakho. Ngapha koko, ukwahlukana kunokuzinzisa iingxabano.
Nantsi into ... Amaqabane amaninzi kwintlekele ekhokelela ekwahlukaneni acinga ukuba ukwahlukana kuphela kwendlela yokuxazulula uxinzelelo kunye nokwenza ukuba kuqale ukuqala. Kukholelwa ukuba, "Ukuba siyashenxana omnye komnye okwexeshana, siyakukwazi ukonwabela uxolo nokuzola."
Ngelishwa, nangona kunjalo, uxolo kunye nokuzola kunokuqala ukubaluleka ngakumbi kumaqabane ahlukanisiweyo kunokuvuselela umtshato. Xa izibini ezenzakalisayo zihlala zingasebenzi zilinde imeko embi yomtshato ukuba ihlale okanye itshintshe ngomlingo, utshintsho lwenene alwenzeki.
Indlela eya phambili, ucinga ukuba kuthetha ukuba Ukubuyiselwa komtshato, kuthetha ukuzibandakanya ngokwenyani neqabane elahlukanisiweyo. Ngaba uzimisele kwaye ukulungele ukwenza oku?
Izimvo ezimbalwa zokuqwalaselwa
Njengoko uninzi lwabacebisi, iinkokeli zonqulo, kunye nezilumko ezixabisa ityuwa yabo ziya kukuxelela, akukho luhlu lupheleleyo lwezikhokelo zokwahlukana komtshato ezifumaneka kwivenkile yolwazi efumanekayo kukonwabisa umntu. Nangona kunjalo, izikhokelo ezimbalwa ezilula kufanelekile ukuzama.
Ezi ngcamango zibandakanya:
1. Ukuzibandakanya nokuzikhathalela
Imnandi njengokuvakala komtshato, ifuna ukuzibophelela, ixesha kunye nokuzincama kwesi sibini. Nokuba iya isiba lula ngokuhamba kwexesha njengoko uqhela ukwenza ulungelelwaniso, umtshato usisifungo sokuqhubeka nokuzingisa.
Ke, ngelixa ugcina imisebenzi yakho yasekhaya, umsebenzi wakho okanye ikhondo lomsebenzi, kunye nabantwana kunye nosapho, ukuzibandakanya ekuzinyamekeleni kuthatha isihlalo sangasemva kwizibini ezininzi ezitshatileyo. Ukwakha ubomi obukhuselekileyo kusapho lwakho usenokuba uye wayibeka esichengeni impilo yakho yengqondo nengokwasemzimbeni.
Yiba kukuphucula ngokwakho, okanye ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lakho, ukwahlukana okwethutyana emtshatweni kunika ithuba izibini ukuba zinxibelelane kwakhona kwaye zingabanjiswa kwiinkqubo zabo zemihla ngemihla zokulalanisa nokuzincama.
2. Ukufuna umcebisi ukunceda amaqabane ukunxibelelana
Ukwahlukana emtshatweni kuvumela izibini ukuba zilinganise ubudlelwane bazo ngokweendlela ezahlukeneyo kwaye bafumane indlela yokuqonda umbono weqabane labo. Ngexesha bayakwazi ukufikelela kwisivumelwano apho baphinde bahlaziye ulindelo abanalo omnye komnye.
Ewe ngokunyaniseka, oko kuvakala ngokungqalileyo. Kodwa, ubuninzi bexesha eliyinyani lixakeke ngakumbi kwaye libuhlungu. Amaqabane awaze akwazi ukuphuma kumjikelo womsindo nengqumbo.
Kwinyathelo ngalinye elithathiweyo lokulungisa ubudlelwane babo, bagqibela ngokuthatha amanyathelo amabini okuluqhawula.
Ukuqonda imbono yamaqabane akho ayisiyonto ilula ukuyenza, kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo amaxesha amaninzi unokuyifumana ngokungalunganga ngemayile.
Cingani ngoku, kuthekani ukuba bekukho umntu phaya onokuthi anikhokele nobabini niye kwindawo apho ninokucombulula iingxaki zenu kwaye nifunde iindlela ezintsha zokuncedisana nokuqondana.
Ingcebiso leyo ingakwenzela yona, kufuna umcebisi oza kukunceda ngemicimbi yakho yindlela entle yokugcina umtshato emva kokwahlukana.
3. Ukubeka elubala kwindawo ephambili yentsebenziswano
Into ebalulekileyo kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane okanye umtshato kukunyaniseka, kwaye uvuleke ukuba ube neqabane lakho. Ukungafihli nto ngeemvakalelo zakho kunceda ekwakheni ukomelela, njengoko kukuvumela ukuba uzityand 'igila kwiimvakalelo zakho ezinzulu emntwini onokukuthanda nokuba ungathini.
4. Ukufumanisa kwakhona ukusondelelana.
Ukusondelelana kubaluleke kakhulu ekusindisweni kwawo nawuphi na umtshato, nokuba kukwiimvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni. Ukuba umtshato wakho umile kwaye akukho nto ibonakala ikonwabisa kwakhona kufuneka uphinde uhlaziye kwaye uphinde ufumanise ukusondelelana ukunceda umtshato wakho uphumelele.
Nini kwaye uzama ukuqonda indlela yokuvuselela umtshato emva kokwahlukana, Thatha amanyathelo omntwana njengoko uzama ukomeleza ubudlelwane bakho nobomi, ukusondelelana, ukungafihli nto, kunye nethuba. Sukulibazisa ukuqala kwakho ukuqala ngokutsha.