Konke Okufanele Ukwazi Ngokuba noMama weNarcissistic

Umxholo

• Isibophelelo sikaMama-noMntwana-Esiqhelekileyo kunye narcissistic
• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bukaNarcissistic
• Ngaba Unaye Umama Ongumlingisi?
• Wenza wuphi umonakalo umama obhinqileyo?

Ukukhula nomama ongathandekiyo unokushiya iziphumo zobomi emntwaneni. Nangona lonke ubudlelwane bomama nomntwana bunezinto ezithandanayo, njengoko siza kuxoxa, kukho umahluko phakathi kwale nkqubo yesiqhelo yengqondo kunye nezifo.

Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu kukuchongwa kwengqondo, ayisiyiyo indlela onokuthi umchaze ngayo umntu ozicingela yedwa nokuzingca.

Kananjalo, inefuthe elibi kubo bonke abantu ababandakanyeka kuloo mntu, ngakumbi umntu osengozini njengomntwana.

Isibophelelo sikaMama-noMntwana-Esiqhelekileyo kunye narcissistic

I-narcissism yayisetyenziswa ikakhulu kwizengqondo kwizikolo zengqondo zengqondo (amagama amakhulu ayo yayinguFreud, uAdler okanye uJung). Kananjalo, kunokuba nzima ukuba iqondwe nkqu nakwiingcali zeengqondo ezingezizo ezo zethiyori. Nangona kunjalo, xa yenziwe lula, imigaqo ethile esisiseko icacile kwaye icacile nakubani na.

Ngokwendalo yobudlelwane phakathi komama nomntwana, kunzima kubo bonke oomama ukuvumela ukwahlukana konyana okanye kwentombi yakhe. Umntwana ngokoqobo yinxalenye engenakwahlulwa yeenyanga ezisithoba. Emva koko, usana alunakubomi ngaphandle kokhathalelo oluqhubekayo (ewe asithethi ngamatyala alusizi apho umama angakwaziyo okanye angazukukhathalela umntwana wakhe).

Njengokuba umntwana ekhula, kusafuna ingqwalaselo enkulu. Kodwa, ifuna inkululeko.

Wonke umama unexesha elinzima lokuyeka. Ngandlel 'ithile, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo buyinto ethile ehlekisayo ngengqondo kamama ocinga ukuba umntwana uyinxalenye yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi loomama luza kukonwabela umsebenzi omkhulu owenziwe kukukhulisa umntu onobuchule kwaye onwabile ozimeleyo. Oomama abathandanayo abenzi njalo. Ngapha koko, abayivumeli le nto ukuba yenzeke.

Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bukaNarcissistic

Njengoko besesitshilo, ubuntu be-narcissistic sisifo esisemthethweni. Iimpawu zayo eziphambili kukugxila ngokupheleleyo kuwe, ukungabikho kovelwano kunye nokungakwazi ukwenza ulwalamano olusenyanisweni nabantu. Abantu be-Narcissistic banobuqhetseba, bayakhohlisa, banobukrwada kwaye banobutshaba. Abaziphenduli, benyanzelekile, kwaye bathambekele ekuthatheni umngcipheko.

Ngaphaya koko, zonke ezi mpawu zokuphazamiseka kubuntu zizinzile kuyo yonke imimandla yobomi, nasebomini bonke bomntu. Oko kuthetha enye into ebalulekileyo-ukuphazamiseka kobuntu ngokubanzi kubandakanya enye ye-narcissistic, kunzima kakhulu ukunyanga. Ngapha koko, uninzi lweengcali lukujonga njengokunganyangekiyo. Ngokwesiqhelo ezinye izakhono zokunxibelelana kunye nezithambileyo zinokufundwa, kodwa eyona nto iphambili ihlala injalo.

Ngaba Unaye Umama Ongumlingisi?

Uninzi lwethu luye lwadibana nomntu othanda ukuzonwabisa, kwaye uninzi lwabo belusazi umntu onesifo sobuntu obungathandekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, xa sidibana nomntu kwaye sibona ukuba baneempawu ezinjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba sibaleke kubo. Okanye, ubuncinci, siya kuma ethubeni okwenza njalo.

Ngelishwa, abafazi abathandanayo banabantwana. Kwaye ngaba bantwana abakwazi (ngesiqhelo) ukuzikhulula kwimpembelelo yoomama.

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba umama wakho unale ngxaki, okanye ubuncinci uneempawu ezibalaseleyo zokuziphatha kakubi, ungawuthatha lo mbuzo njengesiqalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba usajonga olo khetho emva kwayo yonke into ethethwe ngasentla, amathuba okuba ulungile. Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabantu lufumanisa malunga nabazali babo ngokuba zii-narcissists kunyango lwengqondo, uninzi lwabo banesidingo soncedo ebudaleni ngabantwana babazali abanengxaki yokuphazamiseka.

Wenza wuphi umonakalo umama obhinqileyo?

Umntu usenokuzibuza ukuba kutheni umntu ozicingela yedwa enokufuna ukuba nomntwana, ngenxa yokuba kufuneka idini elingakanani ukukhulisa umntwana.

Nangona kunjalo, ungalibali oyena mntu ukhuthazayo oyintloko- ukuba ube mkhulu. Kwaye ukuba nomntwana kubanika iindlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo zokwenza oko.

Ukusuka kwinto yokuncoma ethandekayo, ngaphezulu kwesibini ukuphumelela, ukuya kwinqanaba lokwandisa ixesha lakhe lobomi ngobomi bomntwana wakhe.

Umntwana womama ongumlwelwe kulindeleke ukuba enze ngokugqibeleleyo kuwo onke amacandelo obomi babo. Akunakuze bagqwese umama, nangona. Kodwa, abanakulunga kwaye bamkholise umama nangayiphi na indlela. Nangona kunjalo, akukho nto iya kulunga ngokwaneleyo. Ngenxa yoko, abantwana boomama abathandana nabo banokukhula bengakhuselekanga kakhulu.

Umntu omdala owayenaye (okanye osenaye) umama ongathandabuzekiyo usemngciphekweni wokuba ngumntu othanda abantu ukuya kwinqanaba lokuthabatheka, ubundlobongela basekhaya, nazo zonke iintlobo zokuphathwa gadalala kunye nobubi. Uninzi lwabantwana boomama abathandanayo baya kuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo kwaye babe namava wobomi bokuziva ungaxabisekanga. Ukuba nomama okrexezayo kushiya amanxeba amabi, kodwa, ngokungafaniyo naye, umntwana unethuba lokuchacha ngenkxaso yobungcali.