Umxholo
- 1.Lazi iqabane lakho njengesixhobo sokukrexeza
- 2. Fumana igqwetha lomtshato elinamava
- 3. Hlala kude nomlingane wakho wangaphambili we-narcissist
- 4. Bhala konke onakho
- 5. Zazi zonke iziphumo ezinokubakho
- 6. Zirhangqele ngenkqubo yenkxaso
Uqhawulo-mtshato ngokwalo lonakele lodwa. Kodwa xa inxulumene neqabane le-narcissist, lithanda ukuba libi. AmaNarcissist ngabantu abazingcayo, abazingcayo, abanekratshi kwaye abanamandla angaphaya kokuqonda okufanelekileyo.
Kuqhawulo-mtshato, kuhlala elinye lamaqabane li-narcissist kunye nomnye kunokuba kufanelekile. Ngumlingane we-narcissist onokubangela ukungavisisani okukhulu yedwa kwaye enze iimeko zibe mandundu. Bangabantu abakhohlakeleyo nabangakhathaliyo abanako kwaye baya kuthi xa kufuneka njalo, babangele iintlungu kwabo bangqongileyo. Batyekele ekuphatheni ukugxekwa kunye nokwaliwa kakuhle kwaye kungoko, benze inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato inde kwaye idinise.
Ke ngoko, kukhuselekile ukuthi ii-narcissists kunye noqhawulo-mtshato, kunye, zizinto ezimbini ekufuneka umntu aziphephe kuzo zonke iindleko.
Zikhankanywe apha ngezantsi ziingcebiso ezimbalwa eziluncedo ngendlela yokuphumelela xa uqhawula umtshato ne-narcissist.
1.Lazi iqabane lakho njengesixhobo sokukrexeza
Ukuba nekratshi kunye ne-egomaniac akumenzi umntu abe yi-narcissist. Yintoni eyahlula abantu abathandanayo kuthi sonke kukungabikho kovelwano nokwala ukwamkela uxanduva.
Bahlala bezibona belungile kwaye besola yonke into engalunganga kwabanye.
Ngokwabo, akukho nto iyimpazamo kubo kuba baphelele!
Okwesibini, bazibona bebhetele kunabanye kwaye baziva benesidingo sokulungisa abanye ngokugxeka kunye nokulawula ulawulo lwabo bonke abantu nayo yonke into. Aba bantu bahlala bemonela impumelelo yabanye kwaye abafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo.
Nangona kunjalo, basenakho ukukhohlisa abanye ngefadade yokhathalelo kunye nokuqonda. Ukuba ufumanisa zonke ezi mpawu kwiqabane lakho, kukho isidingo esikhulu sokuba ubaleke.
2. Fumana igqwetha lomtshato elinamava
Sukuhamba le ndlela ngaphandle kwegqwetha. Udinga igqwetha eliza kukunceda ekukhokeleni kwinkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato, yiyo loo nto, ungothusi. Okwesibini, udinga igqwetha eliyaziyo into abayenzayo okt ligqwetha elinamava, elinolwazi.
Ayingawo onke amagqwetha ayafanayo; abanye bathetha-thethwano ngelixa abanye bengalunganga.
Qiniseka ukuba ukhetha igqwetha elilungileyo, kungenjalo abazukuyenza nto ngaphandle kokwenza idrama eyonwabisayo ye-narcissist ex-iqabane lakho, into abaya kuyonwabela ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye bakubize imali eninzi ngaxeshanye.
Yenza isicwangciso kunye negqwetha lakho lokujongana namaqhinga ama-narcissists ukukunceda uhambe kwiinkqubo zomthetho.
3. Hlala kude nomlingane wakho wangaphambili we-narcissist
Phuma ngokukhawuleza! Nje ukuba iqabane lakho langaphambili lazi ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato baya kwazi ukuba baphulukana nolawulo namandla kuwe.
Olu lawulo kunye namandla yile nto iqhuba uninzi lwee-narcissists kwaye ke, azizukuncama ngokulula.
Ngapha koko, ukuba ukhetha ukuhlala nabo okanye ukubabona ngoku, kusenokwenzeka ukuba baya kuba nakho ukukukhohlisa okanye bangene kumgibe wabo. Hlala unolwazi lwazo zonke iindlela zokwenza ngobuqhetseba kunye neendlela zokulawula ingqondo kwaye ungabi lixhoba kubo.
4. Bhala konke onakho
AmaNarcissist akufumanisa kulula kakhulu ukuxoka. Bayakuthetha izinto ezingeyonyani kwaphela naphantsi kwesifungo sokondla i-ego yabo kwaye ubone ukuba woyisiwe. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba ugcine onke amaxwebhu kunye nobungqina.
Gcina zonke izikrini, imiyalezo ebhaliweyo, imiyalezo emanyelwayo, ii-imeyile, nayo yonke into okholelwa ukuba inokuphazanyiswa lula ngenye indlela.
Kukwalungile ukuba ungabamba onke amaphepha okuqala kwaye uwagcine kwindawo ephephile, apho bangenakufikelela khona.
5. Zazi zonke iziphumo ezinokubakho
Qaphela ngamaxesha onke, gcina amehlo kunye neendlebe zivulekile. Kukho amathuba aphezulu okuba ijaji isenokungayiboni i-narcissist kwiqabane lakho langaphambili njengokuba usenza. Njengoko kusitshiwo ukuba umntu uhlala ethembela okona kulungileyo kodwa alungiselele okubi!
Kuya kufuneka ukhathalele inyathelo ngalinye olithabathayo kuqhawulo-mtshato olwandulelayo ngakumbi ukuba unabantwana.
Qinisekisa ukuba ijaji iyayazi into yokuba ungoyena mzali ubalaseleyo abantwana abanokuba nabo!
6. Zirhangqele ngenkqubo yenkxaso
Ngelixa ujongene ne-narcissist kunye noqhawulo mtshato, kuyakubakho amaxesha apho uyakudinwa kwaye ufune umntu onokuthetha naye.
Ke ngoko, qiniseka ukuba ujikelezwe ngabantu abakuthandayo nabakukhathaleleyo kwaye abaya kuba secaleni lakho ukukunceda nanini na ufuna njalo.
Uqhawulo-mtshato yinkqubo enzima, ukuyidibanisa ne-narcissist kuya kusiba mandundu. Ukungavisisani ngokwasemthethweni, kwezezimali nangokweemvakalelo kuya kuba nzima kakhulu kuwe kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uzikhathalele kuko konke kwaye uhlale womelele!