Umxholo
- Uthando lukho kwimpawu ezincinci
- Sukunamathela kwizinto ezingalunganga
- Sukuthatha omnye nomnye njengesiqhelo
- Ukuzinakekela kuqala ukuze ubonakalise njengelona qabane ungalilo
- Dlala kumandla akho
- Ukuphikisana
- Kodwa musa ukulala unomsindo
- Ngesondo. Sukuyityeshela
Kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje ngamanye amaxesha sikhe sibhence bucala ubulumko obudala, sicinga ukuba into esiyibonayo kwi-intanethi ibaluleke ngakumbi, iyabengezela ngakumbi, iyahambelana nezinto ezithandwayo ngoku.
Kodwa ii-adage ezindala zihlala kwinkcubeko eqhelekileyo ngesizathu: zisengqiqweni. Iingcebiso ezinikezelweyo kwizizukulwana zihlala ziphila kuba zithetha nathi kunye neemeko zethu. Njengoko isitsho njalo, 'akukho nto intsha phantsi kwelanga', kwaye oko kuyinyani ngakumbi njengoko kusebenza emtshatweni.
Abantu ukutyhubela iminyaka batshatile ngenxa yezizathu ezifanayo: ukumanya umntu ngamnye naloo mntu ukhethekileyo othimbe intliziyo, ingqondo nomphefumlo wakho.
Makhe sijonge ezinye zeengcebiso zomtshato eziye zaqhubeka ukutyhubela amashumi eminyaka, kwaye zisasebenza namhlanje njengoko zazinjalo kwiminyaka eli-100 eyadlulayo. Kungenxa yokuba ngelixa ii-hemlines kunye nezimbo zezihlangu zitshintsha, iziseko zothando azitshintshi.
Uthando lukho kwimpawu ezincinci
Iimuvi zisenza ukuba sicinge ukuba ngaphandle kokuba uthando lubonakaliswe ngezimbo zomzimba ezinkulu, alunalo uthando. Zingaphi iifilimu ezibonisa izindululo zomtshato ezenziwe kwinkqubo ye-intercom yenqwelomoya, okanye "Ndiyakuthanda, Irene" osasaza iJumbotron kumdlalo we-baseball?
Kodwa abantu abatshatileyo abatshatileyo bayayazi le nyaniso, zizinto ezincinci zemihla ngemihla ozenzela iqabane lakho ezibonisa kwaye zomeleze uthando lwenu omnye komnye.
Ukusuka ekuphekeni ikomityi yekofu ngendlela ayithanda ngayo kusasa, ukuya kwipowusta ayithandayo kuyothusa nje "kuba."
Ezi zinto zintle zibonelela iqabane lakho nge-jolt ye-hormone dopamine yokuziva ulungile, eyila impendulo emnandi, ibakhumbuza ukuba ungoyena mntu ubalulekileyo kuye.
Sukunamathela kwizinto ezingalunganga
Izibini ezindala ziya kukuxelela ukuba imfihlo yobudlelwane babo obude yilekhange bahlale kwizinto ezincinci ezibakhathazayo malunga neqabane labo.
Endaweni yokuba bajolise kuzo zonke izinto ezintle abazibonileyo. Ke xa uqala ukukhalaza kuba iqabane lakho lilibele ukuthatha ukuphinda kusetyenziswe kwakhona kumanqwanqwa kwakhona, beka ecaleni kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ulungile xa edlala nabantwana kwaye ethetha nebhola kunye notata wakho.
Oku akuthethi ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uze nomba ocaphukisayo, kodwa musa ukuchitha ingokuhlwa ngawo. Into elula “Owu, sithandwa, singayifumana inkqubo ukuze ukuphinda kusetyenziswe kwakhona kuthathwe ngexesha?” uyakuyenza.
Sukuthatha omnye nomnye njengesiqhelo
Abantu bayathanda ukuxabiswa.
Umlingane wakho uyayithanda xa eziva ebonwa, evile kwaye esaziwa. Thatha ixesha usuku ngalunye ukubonisa umbulelo kubo.
Ukusuka ekubabuleleni ngokuba luncedo olunje endlwini ngokubaxelela ukuba wonwabile ukutshata nabo, ayifanelanga ukuba yintetho enkulu. Amagama nje ambalwa aya kuhamba indlela ende ekugcineni idangatye lothando luvutha.
Ukuzinakekela kuqala ukuze ubonakalise njengelona qabane ungalilo
Izibini ezikhulu ziyazi ukuba zilungile kunye kwaye zahlukene.
Iqabane lakho ayinguye umqeqeshi wakho, ugqirha wakho, okanye ugqirha wakho. Ukuba ufuna uncedo ekusebenzeni nayiphi na imiba yempilo yengqondo, jonga kumcebisi oqeqeshiweyo.
Ukuba ufuna inkuthazo yokufumana ubume okanye ukunciphisa umzimba, yiza nengcali yangaphandle.
Inqaku lelokuba ufuna ukuba ngowona mqobo wakho ukuze usebenze njengomntu omdala olungeleleneyo ngaphakathi kobudlelwane bakho. Oku kuthetha ukwenza konke onako ukuziva ukhululekile ngokwasemzimbeni nangokomzimba. Impilo yakho kunye nempilo yezibini zakho kuwufanele umsebenzi.
Dlala kumandla akho
Izibini ezininzi zangoku zicinga ukuba yonke into kufuneka ilingane nge-100% emtshatweni. Iiyure zomsebenzi, imisebenzi yokhathalelo lwabantwana, ezemali, kodwa oku akuqwalaseli amandla kunye nobuthathaka bomntu.
Yenza uvavanyo lokwenyani lwamanqaku omeleleyo omnye nomnye.
Ukuba kunengqiqo engcono ukuba omnye wenu asebenze iiyure ezinde zokuqhubela phambili kunye nokunye ukuthabatha uxanduva lwekhaya, hamba kunye naloo nto. Logama nje nobabini nonwabile kwaye niyavumelana kuseto, akukho hlazo ekungazidibanisi zonke iinkcukacha ezantsi embindini.
Ukuphikisana
Ewe, phikisana. Unokucinga ukuba ukuphikisana luphawu olubi emtshatweni.
CIi-ouples eziphikisanayo ziyathandana ngakumbi kunezibini ezibambe yonke into.
Ke qhubeka ungene kwiingxabano ezivelisayo xa wena neqabane lakho ningaboni ngasonye. Le yindlela osebenza ngayo izinto. Le yindlela owomeleza ngayo umtshato wakho. Xa isibini siziva sikhululekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba singasusa iiglavu size sihle phantsi kwaye simdaka, oko kuthetha ukuba siyathembana ukuba siyinyani yaso kwaye singalahlwa okanye silahlwe.
Logama ingxabano ilungile kwaye inemveliso, ungathandabuzi ukuphakamisa amazwi akho amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Kodwa musa ukulala unomsindo
Qiniseka ukuba impikiswano iyasonjululwa ngaphambi kokuba ubethe ifula. Ukuya kulala unomsindo kuya kuqinisekisa ukulala kakubi ebusuku.
Ke funa isisombululo, ukwanga kunye nokwenza izithambiso. Ukwabelana ngesondo emva komlo unento ethile kuyo, akunjalo?
Ngesondo. Sukuyityeshela
Akuyonyani ukuba ubushushu bezesondo buyaphela kule minyaka idlulileyo.
Zininzi iindlela zokugcina amanqanaba eminqweno yakho ehamba, okanye ubuncinci ubuyekeze iidiphu ezingenakuphepheka kwi-libido. Okokuqala, qaphela ukuba kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ungaziva ungafuni ukuyenza, kwaye yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Oku kunokubandakanya xa abantwana besebancinci xa omnye okanye nobabini nigula, imicimbi yosapho nabazali, okanye ukuxakeka ngokubanzi.
Kodwa yenza umzamo wokugcina ubomi bothando buphila. Hambani niyokulala kunye. Snuggle nokuba ayikhokeleli kwisini. Thatha ithuba lokufumana abantwana ngesondo ngendlela obusenza ngayo kwiintsuku zokuqala. Kwaye, bakuba abantwana bebalekile kwindlwana, qhubeka kunye nemibono emitsha (iithoyi zesini, ukudlala indima, ifantasy).
Ubomi obukhulu bobulili lolunye lolwalamano olunamandla kakhulu onokulufumana.
Ikugcina usondele kwaye usondele kwaye ikukhumbuza ngesinye sezizathu zokuba ukhethe iqabane lakho elihle.