Umxholo
- Indlela yokujongana nokwahlukana komtshato
- Umsebenzi wesikolo
- 2. Veza ukungcola kulwalamano
- 3. Ludilize udonga lweemvakalelo
- 4. Thetha ngokusuka entliziyweni
- 5. Yazana ... kwakhona
Ukwahlula kwiqabane, nokuba nguwe oyifunayo okanye ukwisiphelo, ngokuqinisekileyo akukho lula. Kukudinwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo kuwo omabini amaqabane.
Kuninzi ekufuneka kwenziwe xa nisahlukana. Kuya kufuneka utyelele rhoqo igqwetha, uchithe ii-oodles zemali, kwaye ugcine amagama kunye neemvakalelo zakho ziphantsi kwetshekhi. Kuninzi kakhulu ukuba ungakucela ngeli xesha linzima!
Unokuzama ukufikelela kubahlobo bakho okanye kumalungu osapho ngengcebiso yokwahlukana komtshato. Kodwa, ngokwenza njalo, kukho ithuba lokufumana iingcebiso ezinomkhethe, ezinokungakwenzi kakuhle ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ngexesha lokwahlukana komtshato, ingqondo yakho kufuneka ixakwe yimibuzo eliqela. Umzekelo, 'indlela yokuphatha ukwahlukana komtshato,' 'ixesha elide ukwahlukana kufuneka lihlale,' 'ukwahlukana njani kwiqabane xa nihlala kunye,' nezinye ezininzi.
Eli lixesha apho ufuna ingcebiso yokwahlukana komtshato, ngaphandle kokukhetha, kwaye oko kuyanceda ukuba uphume emxholweni.
Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ingcebiso yokwahlukana komtshato kufuneka ikukhokele kwinto ongafanele uyenze ngexesha lokwahlukana, kunye nendlela yokugcina umtshato ngexesha lokwahlukana.
Indlela yokujongana nokwahlukana komtshato
Phakathi kweyona ngcebiso yokwahlukana komtshato ekhoyo kukufuna ingcebiso yomtshato kwangoko nangokupheleleyo emva kokwahlukana nengcali yezonyango okanye umcebisi.
Yintoni ukucebisa ngomtshato?
Ukucebisa ngomtshato luhlobo olusebenzayo lonyango lwengqondo.
Injongo yolu hlobo lokucebisa kukunceda izibini zazo zonke iimilo kunye nobukhulu ukuba ziqaphele kwaye ziphinde ziphinde zibekho emva kweengxabano kunye nokukhuthaza unxibelelwano olusempilweni kunye nokuphucula ukungangqinelani kobudlelwane.
Ukucebisa ngomtshato okuhle, kwenza ukuba amaqabane kunye nabantu benze izigqibo ezizizo malunga nokuphucula ubudlelwane okanye, ukuba imeko ifuna ukuhamba ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ngokwesiqhelo, ukululekwa ngomtshato kuququzelelwa ngabanyangi abanelayisensi abagxile ekuncedeni xa kufika amabala amabi. Exhotyiswe ngezidanga zokuthweswa isidanga kunye nezokuthweswa isidanga, uninzi lweetheraphisti zaziwa njenge-American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).
Kodwa, nokuba ukhetha ukufumana iingcebiso, unokuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo kumcebisi wakho kwaye ulindele ukuba benze umlingo kwaye bakukhulule kuzo zonke iingxaki. Ubungakanani obunokukunceda ugqirha uxhomekeke ekufumaneni kwakho kunye nokufikelela kwiingxaki.
Eyona mizamo uyibekayo kwisiphelo sakho kwinkqubo yokufumana iingcebiso, ziya kuba ngcono iziphumo. Ke, nantsi iqhekeza elibalulekileyo lengcebiso yokwahlukana komtshato.
Ungazisa ezi ngcebiso zokwahlukana kwetyala ukuba ziziqhelanise, nokuba uyanyangwa okanye akunjalo.
Umsebenzi wesikolo
Awunakho ukuqikelela iziphumo zokuzahlula. Kodwa, unokukhetha ukwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo kakuhle, ukuze ungazisoli ngokungazenzi izinto ezithile ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Njengenxalenye yomsebenzi wakho wasekhaya, bhala phantsi imiba yakho efanayo kunye neendawo eziqhubekayo ukulimaza nokusongela umtshato. Yabelana neqabane lakho ngezi zinto.
Yilungele ukufumana iminikelo yabo, nayo. Kwaye, gcina ingqondo yakho ikulungele ukwamkela naluphi na uhlobo lokugxekwa.
2. Veza ukungcola kulwalamano
Ngawaphi amagama kunye nezenzo ezisuka kusapho lwakho lwemvelaphi okanye ubudlelwane bokuqala obuyaqhubeka nokukhupha imeko yakho yangoku yemicimbi?
Elinye icandelo lesiluleko sokwahlukana komtshato kukuba nobabini niyikhuphe. Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ungazama ukubhala phantsi iimvakalelo zakho nayo yonke into ekukhathazayo nzulu.
Nangona kunjalo, ikhona indlela yokubonisa ukungcola. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube nobutshaba neqabane lakho. Unokuzama ukusebenzisa ulwimi olumnene kwaye ulungise iingxaki zakho ngendlela echanekileyo.
3. Ludilize udonga lweemvakalelo
Yintoni ongafanele uyenze ngexesha lokwahlukana?
Elona cebiso libaluleke kakhulu lokwahlula-hlulwa komtshato kufuneka uphephe ukwakha udonga oluqinisekileyo lweemvakalelo.
Xa sibuhlungu ngokunzulu, sihlala sakha iindonga zeemvakalelo ezisithintelayo ekubandakanyeni ngokwenyani nabo sibathandayo. Sithatha izinto ezingekhoyo, kwaye oku kuyandisa umsantsa nakuluphi na ulwalamano.
Ukuba uzimisele ngokuzibandakanya kwakhona nothando lobomi bakho, kuya kufuneka ujonge iindonga ozibeke phambi kwentliziyo yakho.
4. Thetha ngokusuka entliziyweni
Apha, amandla enkcazo "ndiziva" athwale ubunzima obukhulu kunye nethuba. Xa uthetha neqabane lakho, nyaniseka.
Njengengxenye yeengcebiso ezibalulekileyo zokwahlukana komtshato, khumbula ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba ucwebe izinto. Thetha ngezinto ezibuhlungu, kwaye ungazicengeli ukuba uthethe into ocinga ukuba ufuna ukuyiva.
Le yeyona mithetho ibalulekileyo yokwahlukana emtshatweni enokwenza okanye iphule ubudlelwane bakho.
5. Yazana ... kwakhona
Ukuba ukhe wadibana nezinto ezithile ngokwahlukeneyo okanye njengesibini esitshatileyo, kunokuba nzima ukubandakanyeka nakweyiphi na indlela yokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba. Kubalulekile ukuzama, nangona kunjalo.
Thetha. Yiya kumhla. Ukuhamba. Pheka kunye. Funda ukonwaba omnye komnye kwakhona. Ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukwenza nayiphi na ngokukhawuleza, thatha ixesha lakho.
Ungagqiba isigqibo ngexesha elipholileyo. Ukuba nabani na kuni ufuna ukuyandisa, sukunyanzela nantoni na. Ukomelela ngakumbi oya kubonisa, kokukhona amathuba okuxolelaniswa angcono.
Ukuba ufuna olunye uncedo, licebo elilungileyo ukuthatha ikhosi yomtshato kubutofotofo bendlu yakho. Iya kukwenza ukuba ufumane ulwazi olunzulu kwiingxaki zakho kwaye usebenze kwezo zikwisantya sakho.
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