Umxholo
Ke sowuzakubopha iqhina kwaye usuku olukhulu lusondele. Okwangoku ezinye iingcinga kwaye ezinye izicwangciso mhlawumbi ziye zangena kumsitho womtshato wakho. Kodwa umsitho lusuku nje olunye, kunye nenkumbulo ende. Akungomtshato wakho. Kwaye kuba umtshato ungangumceli mngeni ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye uyakufuna umzamo omkhulu kule minyaka idlulileyo, kusengqiqweni ukufumana izixhobo eziluncedo zokulungiselela umtshato, ukuze uqiniseke ukuba umtshato wakho uyakuhlala ixesha elide, wonwabile kwaye usempilweni.
Kodwa ungakhathazeki, awunyanzelekanga ukuba uphande ngezixhobo zakho zokulungiselela umtshato kuba sikwenzele isiqalo.Nazi iindlela ezintathu onokuwukhusela ngazo umtshato wakho ngokulungiselela kwangaphambili.
Ukwenziwa kweendaba
Kulungile, ke ayinakuba yinto yokuqala onokuyilindela ukuyibona njengesixhobo sokulungiselela umtshato, kodwa ngumkhwa osempilweni onokuphuhliswa. Ikwayindlela entle yokuzivavanya kwaye iya kukubona ngamaxesha anzima, hayi kumtshato wakho kuphela kodwa nakubo bonke ubomi.
Ewe kunjalo, xa sibhekisa kwi-journalling, asithethi ngohlobo lwempilo / ipapasho yobugcisa oyibonayo kwezi ntsuku (apho imifanekiso, amagama kunye namaphepha amahle asetyenziselwa ukwenza into ebonakalayo ukujonga). Asithethi ukugcina idayari. Sithetha ukubhalwa kweendaba.
Ukupapashwa okucacileyo yenye yeendlela eziphambili zokuphucula ukuqonda kwakho nokuzazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ebomini bakho xa kuthelekiswa neenjongo kunye namaphupha akho.
Thatha nje incwadi yokubhalela, kunye noluhlu lwezihloko, zibuze imibuzo kwaye ubhale iimpendulo zakho. Emva koko funda iimpendulo zakho emva koko ufumane ukuba yeyiphi ebomini bakho enokuthi ifune ukuhoywa, into oyenzayo ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho (okanye indlela onokuzibetha ngayo iinjongo zakho) kunye nokugxeka izigqibo zakho.
Imibuzo oqhelekileyo onokuzibuza yona:
- Uthetha ukuthini umtshato kuwe?
- Yintoni oyilindeleyo emtshatweni wakho kwaye ngaba iyenzeka?
- Ukuba ulindelo lwakho lusengqiqweni, wazi njani?
- Ungaqinisekisa njani ukuba ubakhona ngokupheleleyo emtshatweni wakho?
- Yintoni ongayenza, (zeziphi iindlela onokuthi uzenzele) xa kukho ingxaki?
- Unxibelelana njani nomntu oza kutshata naye?
- Ungathanda njani ukuba umntu oza kutshata naye anxibelelane nawe?
- Yintoni ekufuneka itshintshe kubudlelwane?
- Ungalwenza njani utshintsho kubudlelwane ngaphandle kokunyanzela ukuthanda kwakho kwabanye?
- Bathini abanye abantu abatshatileyo ngamava abo emtshatweni?
- Ucinga ukuba uzokufumana phi iingxaki?
- Ungamelana njani nengozi okanye ilahleko, ngaba kunokwenzeka ukwakha iimeko ezingxamisekileyo?
- Yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba ikwenze ushiye umtshato?
- Yintoni enokukwenza uhlale emtshatweni?
- Uza kuyiphatha njani imali?
- Uziva njani malunga nalapho uhlala khona?
- Ngaba nobabini kwiphepha elinye xa kuziwa ebantwaneni?
- Yintoni ekukhathazayo ngomtshato?
- Zintoni ezikukhathazayo malunga nomntu oza kutshata naye?
Ukuba unokukhuthaza umlingane wakho ukuba alandele le nkqubo, kwaye emva koko uxoxe ngokunyanisekileyo ngeempendulo zakho kunye (akunyanzelekanga ukuba wabelane nabanye). Yindlela elungileyo yoku-ayina nayiphi na into enokubakho, ukudala iimeko ezingalindelekanga kuzo naziphi na iingxaki ezinokubakho kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini niya kwicala elinye emtshatweni wenu.
Iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato
Ukucebisa ngaphambi komtshato yindlela elungileyo yokufumana iziphumo ezifanayo kwezi zixutyushwe ngasentla, kodwa ngaphandle kokuvavanya kwaye uhlalutye iimpendulo zakho, kwaye ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha ukuphanda ngezisombululo kuzo naziphi na iingxaki ozifumeneyo.
Umcebisi wangaphambi komtshato ubonile konke, bayayazi yonke imingxunya enokubakho emtshatweni kwaye bayayazi nengqondo eqhelekileyo yesibini esingaphambi komtshato. Oko kuthetha ukuba ngelixa kuyakubiza kakhulu ukuqesha umcebisi ngaphambi komtshato, ikwayenye yezona zinto zilungileyo zokulungiselela umtshato oya kuzifumana kunye nendlela entle yokukhusela nokugcina umtshato wakho.
Izifundo zangaphambi komtshato
Enye into enomdla yokulungiselela umtshato yinkqubo yangaphambi komtshato. Iikhosi zinokwahluka ngexesha ukugqiba kunye nomxholo, kwaye zinokuthathwa kwi-Intanethi, okanye ngobuqu (kuxhomekeke kumboneleli). Kukho iikhosi ezinxulumene neenkolo ezithile. Ngenxa yokuba iikhosi zinokwahluka, kufanelekile ukuba uphande kakuhle ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ukhetha ikhosi oziva ukuba wena kunye nomlingane wakho niza kufumana okungcono.
Iyacetyiswa Ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato ekhompyutheni
Iikhosi ziya kugubungela imixholo enjengonxibelelwano, ukusombulula ungquzulwano, ukuzibophelela, iinjongo ekwabelwana ngazo kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni kunye nendlela yokugcina iintlantsi zothando ziphila emtshatweni wakho. Unokuba nethuba lokubuza imibuzo kubantu abatshatileyo, kwaye uyakushiya (okanye uphelise) ikhosi uziva ucacile malunga nendlela yokulawula umtshato wakho uphumelele.
Utyalo-mali kwisibonelelo sokulungiselela umtshato siza kukunika elona thuba lifanelekileyo lokufezekisa umtshato owomeleleyo nosempilweni, kwaye ngezi zixhobo zintathu, kukho into eza kulungela lonke uhlahlo-lwabiwo-ke akukho sizathu!