Umxholo
- Yintoni i-narcissism?
- I-narcissist nabanye nangaphakathi
- Kwenzeka ntoni xa ukhubekisa i-narcissist
- Impindezelo ye-narcissist kunye nokwenza ntoni ngayo
Ukuba uyathuka okanye nangayiphi na indlela (ehlala ingacingelwanga) okhubekisa umntu osebenzisa iziyobisi, ungafunda ukuba abasileli kwiindlela zokuziphindezela kuwe. Ingaba yimeko yesihogo.
Nokuba uqhawula umtshato ne-narcissist, okanye usatshatile, uyazi ukuba sithetha ngantoni. Ngelishwa, kufuneka ujongane ne-narcissist, nokuba umntu uyi-narcissist ye-pathological okanye ubonakalisa kuphela ezo mpawu zobuntu, unyanzelekile ukuba azise iintlungu kunye noxinzelelo.
Kwaye ukwenza izinto zibe mandundu, ukubaleka kwi-narcissist akuyonto ingathandekiyo.
Yintoni i-narcissism?
Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu yi-narcissistic yinxalenye yesenzo esisemthethweni sezigulo zengqondo kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo.
Ke ayisiyonto nje ungathi uchaze umntu ozixakekise kakhulu. Ingxaki yokwenyani abavavanyi abazama ukuyilungisa. Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bokungalungelelani kuza nokungabikho kovelwano kwabanye, kugxile kwimidla yakho, kunye nenkolelo yokuba yonke into ngandlela thile inxulumene nalo mntu.
Ayisixeli kuphela-kufanelekile ukuba iyabonwabisa.
Kunyango, i-narcissist ifundiswa ukuba ijonge umhlaba kunye nabanye njengoko benjalo- ingekho apho ukuze bakhonze ukuthanda izinto zika-narcissist. Nangona kunjalo, xa kuziwa kwifomu yokwenyani yeli qela leempawu zobuntu, uninzi lukholelwa ukuba iindlela zomntu onomdla zingaphuculwa.
Isiseko se-narcissistic sithathwa ngabanye ukuba singanyangeki.
I-narcissist nabanye nangaphakathi
Iziphumo zoluvo lwe-pathological worldview, ii-narcissists zinzima kakhulu kwabo babangqongileyo. Bafuna, ngokufuthi ngokucacileyo, ukuba wonke umntu adlale ngemithetho yabo. Oku kunokujika kube yimeko engenangqondo kwaphela apho amaqabane abo ahluthwayo ubuntu babo.
Kwaye akwanele.
I-Narcissism, nangona ingabonakali njalo, ngokwenene ivela kukungazithembi okukhulu.
Umntu onjalo unokuba kwaye uhlala eyiyo, uyayicaphukisa imeko-bume yakhe. Baphuma benekratshi, befuna ngenkani, ukuthanda-iziqu zabo, kwaye wonke umntu uwela kude emva kwabo. Kodwa, okwahlukileyo kuyinyani. Le nyaniso ihlala ifihliwe kubo.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa ukhubekisa i-narcissist
Kwaye masijongane nayo, yeyona nto ilula emhlabeni.
Ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi, nantoni na oyenzayo, uya kuthi ngokungazi ulawule ukwenza into eya kuvutha ngumsindo narcissist. Ilizwe labo lakhiwe malunga ne-ego yabo, ke yonke into inokubathuka. Ngoku, ngokuxhomekeka kwintando yabo elungileyo, unokuhla kunye nemeko engathandekiyo.
Okanye, unokufumana ingqumbo egcweleyo yomntu obonisa ukungakhathali. Le yinto eqhelekileyo kakhulu kubo bonke abo batshatileyo nomntu onjalo.
Ngelishwa, ubomi bomlingane we-narcissist ngokuqinisekileyo buya kuba lusizi. Ukukulawula (kwaye kufuneka benze njalo ngenxa yokungakhuseleki kwabo), iqabane lakho liza kuza neendlela ezingenakwenzeka zokwenza ukuba uzive ungafanelekanga, uchithe amandla akho kwaye ulangazelele ubomi, kwaye utshabalalise amandla akho okubona ukukhanya ekupheleni itonela.
Kwaye lo ngumhla wakho oqhelekileyo. Ngoku, kwenzeka ntoni xa unesibindi sokwenza into enokubacaphukisa? Njengokuqhawula umtshato okanye ufumane umntu ongakuphathi njengokungcola. Okanye, eneneni, gatya i-narcissist nangayiphi na indlela.
Ngeli xesha ke xa imeko eyonakalisayo yokwenene ye-narcissist iza kudlala.
Impindezelo ye-narcissist kunye nokwenza ntoni ngayo
U-Niiarcissists, ngokubanzi, azimelani kakuhle nalo naluphi na uhlobo lokungaphumeleli kunye nokwaliwa.
Nangona kunjalo, xa befumana ukwaliwa kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, izinto zihlala zisiba mbi. Abathandi ukunqulwa, kwaye abanakuphila ngokwaliwa.
Xa unqatshelwe, njengaxa ucela uqhawulo-mtshato okanye uthandana nomnye umntu, i-narcissistic yakho yexesha elizayo izakuba yinto enoburharha kwaye yoyike ngokuqinisekileyo. AmaNarcissist, xa eziva engafunwa, musa ukubaleka ukwenzakalisa abantu abamsulwa, njengabantwana bakho.
Kwaye khawufane ucinge indlela abanokuziphindezela ngayo nomntu ababona benetyala, njengawe.
Kwenzeka phantse ngaphandle kokukhetha ukuba ukushiya i-narcissist kujike kube sisihogo emhlabeni iinyanga ezininzi okanye iminyaka. Ngelishwa, zilungiselele izoyikiso eziphindaphindayo, ukoyikisa igama lakho ekuhlaleni, ukuzama ukungcolisa umsebenzi wakho kunye nobudlelwane obutsha, ukumangalela ngokugcina abantwana bakho.
Nokuba yintoni efika engqondweni yakho, ulungile.
Into onokuyenza kukukuphepha ukuziphindezela
Oku akusebenzi. Oku kuyakwenza kuphela ubomi bakho nobabantwana bakho bube lusizi olungapheliyo. Kodwa i-narcissist ayinakuze iyeke de ifumane iqabane elitsha lokungcungcuthekisa kunye nokulwa nayo.
Ke, shiya zonke ezo ngcinga zemfazwe narcissist. Endaweni yoko, funda malunga nokuphazamiseka kobuntu kwe-narcissistic, zama ukungazihlanganisi kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye uqhubeke ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Kwaye ufumane igqwetha elilungileyo.