Umxholo
- Ukuthandana nomntu one-ADHD
- Indlela yokuthandana nomntu one-ADHD
- 1. Fumana ukuthanda kwabo
- 2. Xolela uze ulibale
- 3. Yenza njengeSikhokelo
- 4. Cela Uncedo
- 5. Musa ukulibala ukonwaba
Intsilelo yoqwalaselo yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo (ADHD) yi ukuphazamiseka kwemithambo-luvo loo nto yenza ukuba kube nzima emntwini ukuhoya kunye nokulawula isimilo esingxamisekileyo.
Kuvakala ngathi ngumcimbi omncinci, kodwa ukungabikho kwengqwalaselo inefuthe elikhulu kubuchule bomntu bokufunda, kunye nokuziphatha okungxamisekileyo kunokukhokelela kwiziphumo ezicaphukisayo okanye zomthetho.
Iintsana zine "ADHD" yendalo, kodwa i-ADHD yokwenene kuxa abakwishumi elivisayo kunye nabantu abadala bengaze badlule kuyo.
Ixesha lokufikisa kunye nelabantu abadala ikwalixesha apho izakhono zentlalo kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo buba yinxalenye yomjikelo wobomi. I-ADHD inokuba nefuthe elikhulu kuyo.
Ukuthandana nomntu one-ADHD
Ukuthandana nomntu one-ADHD kufana nokuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo nomntwana omncinane. Ngaphandle kokuba unosana olugulayo, uninzi lwabantu lufuna amaqabane abo athandanayo ukuba abanike ingqalelo kubo kunye nolwalamano lwabo.
Ukuba umntu akazi ukuba iqabane lakhe line-ADHD, kubonakala ngathi iqabane lakhe likhulu kunobomi bomntu onesimo sengqondo sokuvukela. Kuyahlekisa njengoko kubonakala ngathi, kodwa abantu abaninzi, ngakumbi abantu basetyhini, banomdla kuloo nto.
Ixesha elongezelelekileyo, isimilo esingxamisekileyo kunye nokungabikho koqwalaselo kuya kuba neziphumo, kwaye inokubonwa ngokubanzi njengokuziphatha okungenankathalo.
Ukuba uthandana nomfana one-ADHD yabo "evukelayo ngaphandle kwesizathu" isimo sengqondo sinokuqalisa ukuthandana, kodwa siya kugcina simosha ubomi bakho njengoko usiya ukhula.
Kwiphepha le-flip, xa uthandana nentombazana ene-ADHD, inokuqala njengowasetyhini onamandla kwaye ozimeleyo njengeqabane. Kodwa kungekudala izakubonakala ukuba bayaphambana.
Indlela yokuthandana nomntu one-ADHD
Kodwa uthando luyaphambana, nokuba ungagqibela ukuthandana nomntu one-ADHD kwaye iziphumo zibuchaphazela kakubi ubomi bakho. Uninzi lwabantu luya kunyamezela ukucinga ukuba luyinxalenye yalo naluphi na ulwalamano (ngendlela, kunjalo).
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ngokuthandana nomntu one-ADHD.
1. Fumana ukuthanda kwabo
Abantu abane-ADHD baziwa ngokuba nexesha elifutshane lokujonga, nangona kunjalo, ayisiyiyo imeko eyi-100% yexesha. Kukho izinto abazithandayo kwaye banokujonga kwezi zihloko.
Ukuba unayo intombi ye-ADHD, umzekelo, Banokubonakala ngathi bayathandeka kwaye bayazingca, kodwa bayathanda xa bethetha okanye befunda ngefashoni okanye ngokuthenga.
Impumelelo ebomini kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ube yingcali kwinto enye. Yeyona ndlela ilunge ngakumbi kunokuba yingxowa yayo yonke imisebenzi.
Iingcali ezikumgangatho wehlabathi kumdlalo wamanqindi, ibhola ekhatywayo, imidlalo, iinkqubo, ifashoni kunye nemidlalo egqithileyo bafumana imali kunye nembeko.
Nokuba abanye baba bantu bathathwa njengonqongopheleyo kwamanye amasebe, kufanelekile ukubajonga njengabaphumeleleyo ebomini.
Bhekisa amandla abo kumnqweno wabo kwaye bawuxhase. Bakhokele ekubeni bajike ukuthanda kwabo kube yinto eyakhayo.
2. Xolela uze ulibale
Ukuthandana nomfazi one-ADHD (okanye amanye amadoda kuloo nto) kufuna umonde omkhulu. Yenza njenge-sheath kwikrele labo. Ungayihoyi indlela abaziphethe ngayo ezo zibonakaliso nje ze-ADHD yazo.
Kuya kubuhlungu. Ukuba bayalibala, abanalwazelelelo, kwaye ngokuphandle, kubonakala ngathi abakhathali. ukuba uyamthanda umntu ngokwaneleyo, unokujonga ngaphaya kwabo kwaye uxhase ubudlelwane bakho.
3. Yenza njengeSikhokelo
Abantu abane-ADHD kunzima ukulawula, kodwa abazizo izidenge. Ukuba bayakuthanda, bayazi ukuba banoxanduva kunye noxanduva kuwe nakw ubudlelwane bakho.
I-ADHD iya kungena endleleni, kodwa ukuba bayakukhathalela, baya kuzama konke okusemandleni abo. Ukuba uyakwazi ukusebenzisa loo mpembelelo ekuphuculeni ubomi bakho bobabini nanjengabantu abatshatileyo. Akuniki nje ulwalamano lwakho, kodwa unika impumelelo ithuba.
4. Cela Uncedo
Iingcali ezijolise kwi-ADHD kunye namaqela ontanga akhoyo kwihlabathi liphela. Nxibelelana neengcali ngasese ngaphambi kokuzama ukuzisa iqabane lakho kumxube.
Ezininzi abantu abane-ADHD abakholelwa ukuba kukho into engalunganga kubo, (kodwa kukho into engalunganga ngehlabathi endaweni yoko) kwaye ukuba bakubona njengehlakani, ukwaphula loo ntembeko ngokubazisa kubantu abangabaziyo "abafuna ukunceda" akunamsebenzi.
Kancinci ukuphuhlisa ukuthembela kwabo kwaye ubenze bafune ukutshintsha bebodwa ngaphambi kokuvula amathuba enkxaso yangaphandle.
Ngeli xesha, Amaqela oontanga kunye neengcali banokukucebisa ngendlela yokufumana iqabane lakho lifune uncedo. Abayi kumangaliswa xa ungena kwiseshoni kwaye uthi "intombi yam ine-ADHD," kwaye ikuxhase kunye nobudlelwane bakho.
5. Musa ukulibala ukonwaba
Ukuthandana nomntu one-ADHD ayisiyonto yonke eyonwabisayo kunye nemidlalo, kodwa bonke ubudlelwane bunjalo. Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuba niyonwabele kunye kwaye niphuhlise ubudlelwane benu.
Ingcebiso yangaphambili ingabonakala ngathi elinye iqabane ligcina elinye. Kuyinyani ngokuyinene. Nangona kunjalo, ungalibali ukonwabela uthando enabelana ngalo nobabini.
Nokuba ubudlelwane bakho buneengxaki, lonke ubudlelwane bunalo, qiniseka ukugcina ukuthandana kuphila.
Nje ukuba ungquzulwano luthathe ubomi bezibini, nobabini ninokuba nexhala kwaye nithandane nomntu one-ADHD kwaye uxinzelelo alunakuphela kakuhle.
Fumana ixesha lokuba uzenzele kwaye unomdla. Abantu abane-ADHD abaneempembelelo zabo kunye nokuqwalaselwa okufutshane banokuyithanda. Njengabantwana, bayadika ngokulula, ke ukudibanisa izinto ngalo lonke ixesha kuya kubagcina benomdla.
Qiniseka ukuba wenza into ekonwabisayo kuwe, ngapha koko, akukho ngongoma. Ungumlingane osondeleyo onothando, hayi umntu ogcina umntwana.
Ukuthandana nomntu one-ADHD kunokuba mnandi ngele ndlela. Khuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba lenze okufanayo.
Ukuthandana nomntu one-ADHD kuya kuba ngumceli mngeni. Ukuba uyamthanda loo mntu, akufuneki kubekho mngeni ungenakoyiswa. Qiniseka ukuba ayijiki ibe luhlobo lohlobo lokuxhomekeka. Inetyhefu kwaye ayinampilo kwaye ayisayi kuhlala ixesha elide.
Kuya kubonakala ngathi iqabane elingelilo i-ADHD liya kwenza ukuphakamisa okunzima. Inokuvakala iyinyani ekuhambeni kwexesha. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba ufune uncedo kwakamsinya nje ukuba uqaphele ukuba iqabane lakho line-ADHD.
Ayisiyonto kufuneka ujongane nayo wedwa. Amaqela enkxaso kunye neengcali zihlala zikulungele ukuboleka isandla.