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Kwakusebusuku kakhulu!
Uvalo kum lwaluyinyani. Ndangqengqa esitulweni / etafileni izibuko zelanga ebusweni zijongise phezulu kwabasetyhini aba-2 benxibe iiglavu zerabha kwaye bethetha ngemozulu enethayo ngaphandle.
Yayiyinto eqhelekileyo kubo.
Kodwa kum, yayiyingxaki yokutsalwa, ukunyanzelwa, kwaye ekugqibeleni kususwe elinye lamazinyo am (basebenzise igama elithandekayo: kukhutshwa).
Ekuphela kwento endinokucinga ngayo yindlela ebendisisiyatha ngayo kwaye bekukude kakhulu ukuba ndibuyele umva, ndenze impazamo embi. UKUPHATHA! UKUPHATHA!
Le nto yayisenzeka ngenene kwaye kwakungekho kubuya mva.
Emva kokuba kugqityiwe, ugqirha wamazinyo wandibonisa izinyo (okanye okushiyekileyo kulo).
Into endiyibonileyo ibikwangumsantsa obolileyo, omnyama, yeka intlekele yomhadi!
Kwakusecaleni okumangalisayo ukuba ndisinde ekubeni ndibolile izinyo emlonyeni ngaphezulu kweminyaka emi-5.
Kulapho iingcinga 'zobuyatha' zangena khona.
Ndisisiyatha ukuyeka ukuya kugqirha wamazinyo iminyaka emi-5.
Ndisisidenge ngokuchitha iminyaka emi-5 yokugungxula ngokugqithisileyo, ukukha amanzi, ukuhlamba umlomo ukuze ndifumane ukutya okushiye izinyo.
Kodwa into e-1 ndingakhange ndiyenze eya kwenza umahluko wokwenyani yayilutshintsho.
Ndabambelela kwimikhwa yam yokungatyi kakuhle. Ukuba ubeka ikuki ecaleni kwam, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo loo cookie.
Andiqinisekanga ukuba ikhona into enokuthi ilondoloze izinyo lam ngokunyaniseka, kodwa mhlawumbi ngendibeke ithuba lokukhetha okungcono.
Mhlawumbi ukhathalelo olongezelelekileyo kunye nokuzibophelela kunokuba luncedo.
Mhlawumbi ndifunxa nje ikratshi lam, ndinikezela "ngekhadi lam lomntu" kwaye ndicele uncedo kwiingcali.
Usenokuzibuza, ingaba ibali lam lezinyo lidibana njani nezifundo zomtshato?
Umtshato kunye namazinyo kunokuba nokuninzi ngokufanayo kodwa nakumahluko ophambili. Funda ukuze wazi ngezifundo zomtshato endizifundileyo malunga nokuzibophelela emtshatweni ngokubola kwamazinyo!
Isifundo 1
Ndingumntu onqabileyo ukucela uncedo (umfazi wam uya kuyingqinela le). Ndihlala ndicela uncedo ndakube ndibone ubuncinci besiqingatha seyure "sokuyicingela" endibandakanya ukugungqa, ukunwaya intloko yam, ukuhlala, ukuma, ukuxhamla, ukukhukhumala, oh!
Emva koqheliso olungenamsebenzi, ndiza kumcela ngelizwi lam elimnandi ukuba andincede, uya kusombulula umba malunga nemizuzu eli-10 okanye ngaphantsi.
Ngoku buyela kwizinyo lam.
Yabola emlonyeni wam phantse iminyaka emi-5, iintlungu zazinganyamezeleki ngamanye amaxesha zibangela ukuba ndiphulukane nobuthongo kwaye ndibangele ukuba ndikhalaze rhoqo. Kuphela emva koko ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba kwanele.
Ndibe yintloko yokunqika kwaye ndilwalile uncedo oluvela kwabanye kuba "ndiyazi sele". Kanye njengokuba ndixelela abantwana bam "ayiyonyani leyo kuba ukuba ubusazi ngekwenza". Ukucela uncedo, nokuba ungakanani na umzabalazo, unokuziva unganyamezeleki.
Akukho mntu ufuna ukugwetywa. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuthotywa aze abuyiselwe into ebusweni.
Isifundo 2
Xa kuziwa kukuzibophelela kunye nokuzikhathalela, masicinge ngako umzuzwana.
Ngaba ngekungazange kube yindlela elula yokungaseli isoda kunye nejusi? Ngaba ngekungekho lula ukungazityi iichips, iicookies kunye neekeyiki?
Ngaba ubomi bam bebungeke bube lula kakhulu ukuba bendenze nje into ebendifanele ukuyenza kwindawo yokuqala? Kanjalo!
Ke, umbuzo wobugqi ngowokuba, kutheni ndingakhange ndenze njalo?
Ngaba ndingumvukeli ongako? Ngaba le yayiyindlela yam yokunamathela endodeni? Ukugcina i-machismo yam?
Oku kubonakala emtshatweni wam amaxesha ngamaxesha. Iyakhula kakubi xa ndisazi ukuba kukho into ekufuneka ndiyenzele umfazi wam, kodwa ndiyayibamba loo bug endala.
Inokujonga into enje:
“Sithandwa ungandinceda ndenze ...? “ANDINAKO, NDIBUKELE UMDLALO.”
"Babe ndingasebenzisa isandla nabantwana" “NGOKUNZIMA? BENDISEBENZA YONKE IMINI! ”
“Boo njani malunga nobusuku bomhla? ” “UBUYAZI NGOKUHLWELANA NGAMANQAKU ABANTWANA NGOBUSUKU KUPHELA.”
Yimalini umntu anokuyithatha? Kukangaphi ulibeka iqabane lakho kwi-backburner?
Endaweni yokuthatha ixesha okanye ukwenza encinci, encinci, encinci, umzamo owongezelelweyo wokuchitha ixesha kwaye ubonakalise ukuzibophelela kwakho, uphela ushiya ibhola.
Ubangela uthando kunye nemincili ukubola ... uhlobo olunjengezinyo (jonga apho ndisingise khona nale nto?).
Bukela le vidiyo ukuze ufunde ngakumbi ngezifundo zokwakha umtshato owonwabisayo:
Isifundo 3
Ndiza kuyibeka ngesiNgesi esicacileyo. Izinyo lam landifundisa ukufuna ingcali. Ngasihlandlo sithile ndacinga nzulu ngokukhupha izinyo ngokwam.
Ngelo xesha yintoni ekufuneka ndiyilahlile?
Umfazi wam, elilizwi lokuqiqa, weza neengcinga ezithile ezinyanzelekileyo ukuba ndiqwalasele.
Kukho ithuba lokuba inokuqhekeka kwaye ingaphumi ngokupheleleyo.
Kungenzeka ukuba ndibangele umonakalo wenzwa. Kwaye andazi ukuba ndenza ntoni kwaye andiyongcali.
Ke, ndiyifunxe ndabona ugqirha wamazinyo kwaye bayikhupha loo nto.
Kude kwagqitywa ukususwa izinyo apho ndabona khona ukuba umngxuma ububi kangakanani kwaye nokuba libolile kangakanani izinyo lam.
Kaninzi asinakubona iindawo zethu ezibuthathaka kubudlelwane bethu nathi. Iqabane lakho lisenokungasoloko likwazi ukuyibamba kwaye likubizele kwi-B.S.
Kuze kube ubuyela umva kwaye uyijonge kwaye ufumane iqela lesithathu lokunika ukhozi umbono wento eyenzekayo, ngaba lukhona utshintsho olunokwenzeka.
Ke, xa uphelelwe yindawo yakho yokugcina iindlela zokugcina ubudlelwane bakho obungaphumeleli, kungcono ukufikelela kwingcali yomtshato okanye kumcebisi womtshato.
Ndithembe, ukucebisa ngomtshato kunokukwenza okuhle kakhulu njengoko kwenziwe ngugqirha wamazinyo kwizinyo lam elicaphukisayo.
Kukho izixhobo esinokuthi sizinikeze ukugcina ulwalamano lwakho lungonakali. Obo buncwane luthotho lwevidiyo yeentsuku ezi-3 yasimahla, "u-H. ukuxhasa iqabane lakho ngamanyathelo ama-3 alula. ”
Eli lithuba lokungena kwicala elifanelekileyo kwaye ucele uncedo, ukomeleza ukuzibophelela kwakho, kunye nokufuna inkxaso yeengcali ke oku kulungele wena.
Masikhuphe umtshato wakho kwindawo ebuhlungu siye kwimeko yokusebenzisana, ukuthembeka kunye nemveliso. Sukulinda ukuba utsalwe “izinyo” lomtshato wakho kwaye ubone uthando nenkxaso iphela. Yinike inkathalelo, ingqalelo, kunye namandla eyifanele ngokufanelekileyo.
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