Umxholo
- 1. Wadibana njani nomyeni wakho?
- 2. Ingaba ikwenza njani ukuba nisondelelane kunye nemisebenzi yenu eyahlukeneyo?
- 3. Yeyiphi eminye yemiceli mngeni yokutshata nomntu osemthethweni?
- 4. Wakhe wabhalwa nabaphi na abalinganiswa ngokusekwe kumyeni wakho nakwingcali yakhe?
- 5. Zeziphi izakhono zomtshato, ezikwaluncedo nakwingcali yakho njengombhali?
- 6. Zeziphi izinto ezine ezibalulekileyo kuwo nawuphi na umtshato?
- 7. Ingcebiso zokulinganisa umsebenzi wokuyila kunye nomtshato ophilileyo?
Iindonga zeDevri yi-US kunye nomlobi othengisa kakhulu kwilizwe liphela. Emva kokukhupha iinoveli ezintlanu ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ugxile kuzo zonke izinto ezithandwayo kunye neziqhelekileyo. UDevri uhlala eMeridian, eIdaho nomyeni wakhe kunye nabantwana ababini. Umyeni wakhe usebenza ngokunyanzeliswa komthetho kunye kunye, ngaphandle komehluko omkhulu kwiprofayili yomsebenzi wabo, imiceli mngeni kunye nendlela yokuphila eyahlukileyo abakwazileyo ukwakha uthando-iparadesi ngohlobo lomanyano olonwabileyo, nolwalamano emtshatweni. Nazi izicatshulwa ezimbalwa kudliwanondlebe naye ezokukunceda wenze iinjongo zomtshato wakho.
1. Wadibana njani nomyeni wakho?
Ndadibana nomyeni wam xa wayeneminyaka engamashumi amabini kwaye mna ndandinamashumi amabini anesibini. Sobabini sasikwiphondo laseNew York ngelo xesha saza sayibetha ngoko nangoko. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba intlanganiso yokuqala ihambe kancinci ngoluhlobo. Ndiqaphela inkwenkwana ephethe ingxowa yeelekese ezandleni zayo. “Heyi, ufuna ukwabelana nam ngamaxhoba akho?” (Ndinqumeleni ikhefu, bafo. Bendilambe nyani), yatsho inkwenkwe isika amehlo ayo kwicala kwaye ifumana uncumo olungenantsingiselo.
Andiqondi ungathetha loo nto kum. ” Ususa amandla, avele ilekese emlonyeni wakhe. Ndishiyeke esitulweni sam, ndikhamisa, “Ayisiyiyo le nto bendiyithetha! Ukuqhekeza, njenge ipirate ngamaxhoba! ” Yayingumthombo wengcinezelo rhoqo iminyaka emva kokuba sitshatile. Ngosuku endafumana ngalo ibhegi yepopy's Booty popcorn evenkileni ndayikhupha eshalofini ndakhwaza, “Yabona! ipirate ngamaxhoba! ”
2. Ingaba ikwenza njani ukuba nisondelelane kunye nemisebenzi yenu eyahlukeneyo?
Ukuze sobabini senze into esiyenzayo kakuhle, kuya kufuneka kubekho umahluko ocacileyo kubuntu nakwindlela yokucinga. Unononophelo, uzolile, kwaye inqanaba lentloko. Kwaye ndilungile, ndingumbhali. Ucinga ukuba ndinjani? Ingqondo exakekileyo, isiphithiphithi, imvakalelo kakhulu. Kodwa abo bantu baphikisayo balungelelana. Ndizolile kwiimeko ezinqabileyo kakhulu. Kwaye amanye amashumi alithoba anesibhozo eepesenti zexesha, uyandolula kwaye athobe iimvakalelo. Ngumxube olunge kakhulu.
Ngamaxesha athile ude asebenzise amaqhinga amapolisa ukuphucula umtshato wethu. (Oku akubandakanyi ixesha azama ukundibamba ezinzulwini zobusuku ndilele sincokola. Ibisoyikeka kancinci lonto. ithoni kunale bendiyisebenzisa. Ndingadibanisa ngokungazi umthamo kunye namandla akhe. Wayeza kuthoba kwakhona de kube ekugqibeleni, besinengxoxo egcweleyo ngelixa sihlebeza. Emva kwexesha, wavuma ukuba yayiliqhinga lokufundisa amapolisa ukonyusa iimeko. Nangona ibindicaphukisa kancinane into yokuba “ndidimazekile,” oku kuyitshintshe yangcono imeko yomtshato wethu, kwaye ngokusisigxina. Asifane siphikisane kwaye siphantse singaze sakhwaza.
Ukukwazi kwam ukubona umlingo kwizinto eziqhelekileyo kuye kwamkhanyisa kancinci naye. Indoda iyacebisa ukuba sakhe igadi yentsomi. Kwafuneka ndimcele ukuba aziphinde.
3. Yeyiphi eminye yemiceli mngeni yokutshata nomntu osemthethweni?
Lo ayingomsebenzi olula nakubani na kuthi. Kunzima kuye, kunzima kum, kwaye kunzima ebantwaneni. Kodwa uyayithanda. Ndagqiba kudala ukuba imiceli mngeni kufanelekile ukumnika amandla okwenza into ayithandayo. Ukuya emsebenzini kunye nokuwuthanda umsebenzi wakho sisipho esinganabaninzi. Kwaye bendifuna loo nto kuye, njengokuba efuna nam. Iyure zakhe ziyaphambana. Ndigxuma ngapha nangapha phakathi kokuba ngumama ongatshatanga nokuba nomyeni ngokusisigxina.
Lonke ucwangciso kufuneka lwenziwe ngendlela endinokukwazi ukuyenza ngokwam, kwaye xa sele esekhaya, angangena kwaye akhuphe uxinzelelo. Ngenxa yoko, kuye kwafuneka ndamkele iindlela ezimbini zokuba ngumzali endizifundileyo ukuzitshintsha ndizicime- imowudi yomama ongatshatanga kwaye masixoxe ngale ndlela kunye neqabane lam. Izinto azibonayo yonke imihla emsebenzini zisichaphazela ngalo lonke ixesha. Zichaphazela indlela / umzali wethu abantwana bethu. Iindawo esikhetha ukuzitya. Ndihlala phi xa sizotya. Yintoni esonwabe ngayo xa abantwana bethu besenza okanye apho baya khona.
Kungumceli mngeni ukumkhumbuza ukuba kufuneka andixelele izinto azibonayo. Ufuna ukundikhusela kwicala elimnyama lehlabathi, eliyindalo, kwaye ndiyayixabisa loo nto. Nangona kunjalo, inqanaba loqhawulo mtshato kunyanzeliso lomthetho liphezulu kakhulu ngenxa yenxalenye enkulu kuloo nto. Ukugcina ngokulula isiqingatha samava akho kuwe kubeka ibhulorho engahambekiyo phakathi kwakho nenkqubo yakho yenkxaso. Akandixeleli yonke into, kodwa ufundile ukundixelela izinto ezininzi ukugcina ezo zonxibelelwano zivulekile kwaye iqhina liqinile. Kwaye ke kufuneka ndiwayeke amabali ukuze ndingakhathazeki rhoqo. Ukuba omnye wenu ebendazi, ubuya kwazi ukuba "ukuyiyeka" ayisiyiyo eyona nto ndiyithandayo. Kodwa impilo yam, umtshato wam kunye nolonwabo lomyeni wam, kuphela kwendlela.
4. Wakhe wabhalwa nabaphi na abalinganiswa ngokusekwe kumyeni wakho nakwingcali yakhe?
Ngokusekelwe kumyeni wam, ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa ndingathi kancinci, "ngokusekwe," nangaphezulu, ndichukunyiswe. Zonke iincwadi zibonakala ngathi ziphela ngomntu owomileyo, ohlekisayo ngentliziyo yegolide, nokuba ndiqala ngaloo njongo okanye hayi. Ukuhlala nomyeni wam kule minyaka ilishumi elinesihlanu idlulileyo kundinike isidanga sobukrelekrele. Kwaye ukubhala kwam konke kungcono kuyo.
Ubungcali -ayinto encinci. Impendulo yam yokuqala yayinguhayi. Kodwa ke ndiye ndayiqonda lonto I-Venators: Kukhutshwa uMlingo libali labakwishumi elivisayo abawela kwenye indawo esekwe kumnandi, apho baya kusebenza njengonyanzeliso lomthetho. Kuyabonakala ukuba, ndingaqondanga ndenzile.
5. Zeziphi izakhono zomtshato, ezikwaluncedo nakwingcali yakho njengombhali?
Ndicinga ukuba emtshatweni eyona nto inokubaluleka onokuyenza kukufuna ngakumbi omnye umntu kunokuba ufuna ngokwakho. Ukuba wenjenjalo, uya kusebenza ukonwaba. Xa oku kusenzeka kuwo omabini amaqela, ninomtshato omhle. Nangona ndixoxe ngokuzincama endikwenzileyo ukumonwabisa, ngaphandle kokuzincama, uthando kunye nenkxaso, akukho ndlela ndinokuba ngumbhali kweli xesha lobomi bam.
Umyeni wam uyinkosi yokuthobeka nokuzincama. Uyakusebenza iiyure ezingamashumi amathandathu iiyure zomsebenzi kwaye useza ekhaya acoce ikhitshi lam ezinzulwini zobusuku, athathe indawo yokuba ngumama xa ndishiya idolophu ndiyokusayina, undigxothe endlwini ukuze ndisebenze ngoxolo ngelixa usokolisa abantwana. Uye wagxumeka mva nje ukuze ndileqe eli phupha. Kwaye uyenza kuba exhalabele ukonwaba kwam kunokwakhe. Kanye njengokuba ndilibale amabali omhla wakhe, ndingahoyi iiyure kwaye ndisingatha izinto ndedwa kwiintsuku ezininzi.
6. Zeziphi izinto ezine ezibalulekileyo kuwo nawuphi na umtshato?
Ukuthobeka. Uthando. Umbingelelo. Ukunyaniseka.
7. Ingcebiso zokulinganisa umsebenzi wokuyila kunye nomtshato ophilileyo?
Ndifunde indlela yokulungelelanisa. Ibhalansi ihlala ihleli, kwaye ndiyathetha ukuba iyaqhubeka, umsebenzi uyaqhubeka. Ukuba uyilo kuthetha ukuba akukho nto ndiyicimileyo. Ingqondo yam isebenza ngalo lonke ixesha, ngakumbi xa ndiyila incwadi. Ndibaleka amanqaku ebali ngelixa ndipheka isidlo sangokuhlwa, ndiqhuba (musa ukucebisa oko), njl njl. Kulula kakhulu ukuzisonga kwinto ongakwaziyo ukuphuma kuyo kwaye ulibale imimangaliso emihle ephambi kwakho.
Nangona ndisasebenza ngokulinganayo, ndicinga ukuba unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo lubalulekile. Ndisakhumbula ngelinye ixesha, kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, emva kokuba umyeni wam wayesele ethathe indawo kancinci ukuze ndisebenze kwincwadi yam, ekugqibeleni wangena apho ndandisebenza khona. Waguqa ecaleni kwam, wandilinda ndagqiba loo mgca ndandisebenza kuwo, wabeka isandla sakhe engalweni yam wathi ngobumnene, “Siyakudinga, nawe sithandwa. Ungalibali ngathi, kulungile? ” Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyamdinga ukuba athi, "Buyela kuthi." Emva koko kuya kufuneka ndikulungele ukuva, ukumamela, kwaye ndithi, "Kulungile." Ngelo xesha ndizama ukulungisa kwakhona kunye nokulinganisa okungcono.
Ukuba uyilo kukwabonelela ngeseti ekhethekileyo yeengxaki abantu abangaziqondiyo. Xa sihlala phantsi ukubhala, ukuzoba, ukupeyinta-nokuba yeyiphi na ingqeqesho-izinto zenza le nto sifuna ukuba ziyenze. Silawula. Ukuhluthwa kuloo minqweno kwaye imeko yokuhamba inzima kwaye ibuhlungu. Ilizwe lokwenyani alichanekanga; ayenzi into oyithethayo. Lo mthetho-siseko yeyona nto ityisa iingcinga ezininzi zabaculi- njengaleyo iqhawukelwe ngumtshato ihlala kwisitudiyo sayo imini yonke isela izixa ezikhulu zewhisky. Uninzi lwaba bazobi bakhetha ukunqanda iintlungu ezingapheliyo kunye ne-whiplash yeswitshi kubomi bokwenyani kwaye bahlala apho kulula khona. Kodwa ubomi kunye nobugcisa abuthethi nto ukuba akukho mntu usele ukuba akuthande kwaye akuthande.