Umxholo
- Ukulungiselela iingcebiso ngomtshato
- Iingcali zijikeleza imibuzo ebalulekileyo yokucebisa ngomtshato
- Okokugqibela kususwe
Ukulungiselela iingcebiso ngomtshato
Ukuba unexhala lokuba ubudlelwane bakho bufikelele kwinqanaba lokungabuyi, bugcwele ziingxabano, ingcebiso ngomtshato inokukunceda wakhe umtshato owonwabileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, umtshato oxabene nomtshato uthetha ukuba wena neqabane lakho anikho kwimeko efanelekileyo yokucinga kwangaphambili kwaye nize nemibuzo efanelekileyo enizoyibuza kwiseshoni yokucebisa ngomtshato.
Kuba uluhlu lweemvakalelo zibaleka kubudlelwane obuxineneyo, unokulibala ukuba ubuze ntoni, kwaye ugqibe ngengqondo ebambekayo kwiseshoni yokucebisa ngomtshato.
Elona nyathelo libaluleke kakhulu ekwenzeni iseshoni yokucebisa ngomtshato kukulungiselela kwangaphambili. Kungenxa yoko le nto silungiselele i-roundup yeyona mibuzo ibaluleke kakhulu ekucebiseni ngomtshato ukubuza iqabane lakho.
Iingcali zijikeleza imibuzo ebalulekileyo yokucebisa ngomtshato
Iingcali ngokwazo zityhila imibuzo efanelekileyo yokucebisa umtshato ukubuza iqabane lakho kunye nendlela ezinokukunceda ngayo ukuba uxele iinkxalabo zakho kwaye ufumane isisombululo kwiingxaki zakho zomtshato.
UKINVIN FLEMING, Ph.D.
Kwake kwathiwa ngu-CS Lewis ukuba umtshato olungileyo ngulowo ungaya kumlingane wakho uthi, "Ndiyakuthanda njengokuba unjalo kwaye kakhulu ukuze ungahlali unjalo."
Kwaye ke, emsebenzini wam, kubalulekile ukufikelela kule 'dialectic' yotshintsho kwaye akukho lutshintsho, apho uxinzelelo lobulumko lubanjelwe phakathi kwabantu ababini kubantu abaninzi bafuna ukubikezela kwangaphambili ukuba bayathandwa njengokuba benjalo nokukhula / ukukhula yeenjongo.
Ke nazi iimbumbulu zam zenqanaba leemeta.
Kukho imibuzo ngaphakathi kwemibuzo efika kumanqanaba angathandekiyo kodwa afunekayo enyaniso sonke esihlala singawahoyi kwinqanaba lokusetana
- "Lithini icala lesithunzi lento uyithandayo ngam?"
- "Ndenza njani ukuba ndibathande ngakumbi kuwe?"
- "Ukuba kukho nayiphi na inzondo ngam phantsi kwe-radar kulo mtshato, iyakuba phi?"
- “Zeziphi izinto ezibophelelayo endizibekayo phaya? Oko kukuthi, ndiyabuza / ndithethe into ibe nye kodwa nditsalele enye into? ”
- “Ndilahlekelwe yintoni ngawe?”
U-ANGELA AMBROSIA, Umqeqeshi wobudlelwane
Nantsi iminikelo yam;
- Ndingenza ntoni okanye ndithini ukuze uzive ukhululekile?
- Xa uziva ungonwabanga, yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokuphendula?
Ufuna ntoni kulwalamano lwethu? Ufuna ntoni kum? Yeyakho?
UDAVID RISPOLI, uMcebisi
Zimbini izizathu ezibangela ukuba abantu abatshatileyo bafune ukucetyiswa ngomtshato. Isizathu esiphambili kukuba umtshato usengxakini kwaye elinye iqabane kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bobabini, bafuna ubudlelwane buphuculwe.
Rhoqo, umntu omnye sele ekhangele ubudlelwane, kwaye iingcebiso zibonwa njengelinge lokugqibela lokugcina umtshato.
Isizathu sesibini sokuba ezinye izibini zifuna ukululekwa ngomtshato kukuba bafuna ukuphucula umtshato osele uqinile.
Nokuba yeyiphi na inkuthazo yokufumana iingcebiso, ngokwe- "Imibuzo yokuNikwa uMtshato ngokuBuza uMlingane wakho", nazi ezintathu zam eziphambili:
- Ukuba la mava okucebisa ngomtshato ebenokuphumelela, kwaye ekupheleni kwexesha lethu ekucebiseni ngomtshato umtshato wethu wawumhle, wawunokubonakala njani umtshato wethu?
- Ucinga ukuba umde kangakanani umtshato wethu namhlanje kulo mfanekiso womtshato ubalaseleyo esiwuzobe kumbuzo wenombolo 1?
- Yeyiphi inyathelo elinye esinokuthi siluthathe ngokudibeneyo namhlanje ukusisondeza kumfanekiso esiwupeyinte kumbuzo 1?
Imitshato ayikaze igcinwe kubacebisi bemitshato okanye kwiiofisi zabaqeqeshi bomtshato, ziyagcinwa njengoko izibini zithatha imigaqo eziyifundayo kwaye ziyisebenzisa ngokukuko ekususeni kubudlelwane babo bemihla ngemihla.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ndibonelela ngokujonga phambili kakhulu, okujolise kumanyathelo, kunye nendlela elungileyo yokulungiselela umtshato. Andizange ndibone nabani na ephucula okanye egcina umtshato wabo ngokujonga kwisipili sokujonga ngasemva.
UNICOLE GIBSON, Umtshato kunye neNyanga yoNyango
Njengomntu onelayisensi yokutshata kunye nosapho, kunye nomntu otshatileyo ngokwam, ndifumanise ukuba mininzi imibuzo evelayo xa ucinga ngokucebisa ngomtshato naxa ukwiingcebiso ngomtshato.
Enye yezinto endizithandayo isebenza nezibini kwaye ndihlala ndixelela esi sibini ukuba ndisebenza naloo nto, inqaku lokucebisa ngomtshato, emehlweni am, ayikokugcina nje kunye kodwa endaweni yokufumanisa ukuba bazisa ntoni ubudlelwane obudinga ukujongiswa kuba nantoni na abayenzayo kolu lwalamano, baya kuyenza kule ilandelayo, ukuba kukho elandelayo.
Ke nantsi imibuzo embalwa yokucebisa ngomtshato ukubuza iqabane lakho:
Uziva njani ngegama elithi "ukusondelelana"?
Kuthetha ntoni "ukusondelelana" kuwe, oko kuthetha ukuba yintoni eya kubonisa kuwe ukuba uyazi ukuba uyathandana?
Ucinga ntoni ngezenkolo?
Uziva njani ngabantwana (okt uyafuna abantwana?)
Ukuba izinto zihlala ngokufanayo kubudlelwane bethu, ungavuya ngayo?
Ngaba uzijonga ungowokuqala okanye owaziwayo?
Ukuba singavuka ngomso kwaye zonke "iingxaki" esinazo emtshatweni wethu zilungisiwe, ibinokubonakala njani loo nto?
Wazi njani ukuba uyandithanda?
Wazi njani ukuba ndiyakuthanda?
Kwintsapho yakho okhulele kuyo, wawunjani umtshato?
Zithini izimvo zakho malunga nezemali?
Yonke le mibuzo inengqiqo kubo bobabini abatshatileyo nakumcebisi womtshato kuba inkolo, ezemali, abantwana, ukukhuliswa kosapho, ukusondelelana, uhlobo lobuntu, kunye nemibono yothando zizinto ezinkulu ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe emtshatweni.
USUSAN WINTER, Umqeqeshi wobudlelwane
Woyika ukundixelela ntoni?
Loluphi ulwazi lwezezimali, ulwabelana ngesondo okanye indlela oziphethe ngayo oyikayo ukwabelana nam ngenxa yokoyika impendulo yam?
Ngaba ikhona into oyifihlayo kum, ucinga ukuba ndiza kukugweba okanye ndifuna ukushiya?
Ubudlelwane budinga indawo ekhuselekileyo 'yokuxela inyaniso.'
Izithintelo ezingokweemvakalelo zimisiwe xa singenakuba thina kwaye siyoyika amaqabane ethu esazi ukuba singobani kwaye siyintoni.
Okokugqibela kususwe
Le mibuzo iluncedo yokucebisa ngomtshato sisiqalo esihle sokwenza kunye neminye imibuzo ethe ngqo kulwalamano lwakho. Jonga ezi!