Umxholo
- 1. Bhala ileta okanye umbongo
- Cwangcisela usuku olukhethekileyo
- 3. Mnike usuku lokuphumla
- 4. Mse ezivenkileni
- 5. Yibethelele ngobusuku bomhla
Abasetyhini ngabanakekeli abangathethiyo. Oku akuthethi ukuba banoxanduva lokuthatha imisebenzi yasekhaya, kunye noxanduva lokukhulisa abantwana. Bangabanakekeli kuba banolwazelelelo ngaphakathi kwaye banovelwano. Nangona oku kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, uninzi lwabasetyhini, kwanabo basebenza ngaphandle kwamakhaya abo, bathatha umdla ngakumbi ekugcineni umzi ukwimo entle kunamadoda.
Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba amadoda azama ukuphungula isabelo sawo semisebenzi kunye noxanduva lokuba ngumzali. Bafuna nje ukukhuthazwa ngobunono. Bafuna ukukhunjuzwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuba bathathe inkunkuma, bondle ikati, bafumane abantwana esikolweni kwaye bathathe iimpahla kwizicoci ezomileyo. Kulapho umfazi wendlu anyuka khona kwaye athathe uxanduva. Uqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ihleli endaweni yayo, uqinisekisa ukuba awuphelelwa lubisi, uqinisekisa abantwana ukuba bayawenza umsebenzi wesikolo, uqinisekisa ukuba umntu olungisa imibhobho yamanzi ulungisa isinki evaliweyo yekhitshi, nokunye okuninzi.
Abasetyhini bahamba umgama ongezelelweyo ukuqinisekisa okona kulungileyo kubo bonke abantu ababathandayo. Bafanele usuku olukhethekileyo olubekelwe ukukhumbula iinzame zabo kunye namanyathelo. Olu Suku lwaBasetyhini, bonisa inenekazi lakho uthando ukuba luyintoni kuwe.
Nazi ezinye izimbo zomzimba zokwenza umfazi wakho azive ekhethekileyo kusuku lwaBasetyhini-
1. Bhala ileta okanye umbongo
U-SaraKay Smullens weqela eliqinisekisiweyo kunye nootitshala abafundisa ngobomi bosapho, uthi, "bhalela umfazi wakho ileta okanye umbongo (nge-inki, uzibhalele ngokwakho) ucacisa yonke into oyibona ibonwa ngumfazi wakho ukuze enze ubomi bakho bunentsingiselo, busebenze, kwaye bukhethe. Yibonise kuye ngeentyatyambo ezintle ukuba ukhethe ngokwakho. Ukuba kukho abantwana, mabakubone usizisa isipho sakho - iyakuba sisifundo esihle kakhulu ukuba nombulelo nothando. ”
Amagqabantshintshi okuncoma kunye noxabiso ayamangalisa kodwa ukubhala phantsi kuyindlela ekhethekileyo yokunxibelelana nendlela oziva ngayo. "Yinto ayakuthi akwazi ukuyigcina kwaye ayifunde kwakhona kaninzi kangangoko efuna", utshilo umcebisi oqeqeshiweyo, uKerriAnne Brown.
Kunye nokumenza azive ekhethekileyo, ungasebenzisa eli thuba ukumxabisa ngazo zonke izinto akwenzela zona. Kwileta okanye umbongo ombhalele wona, chaza ngokucacileyo izinto onombulelo kuye, ezenza umahluko. Umcebisi oqeqeshiweyo uGqirha LaWanda N Evans uthi, “inqaku elibhaliweyo elithi 'Ndiyakuxabisa', lithi ndiyakubona, ndiyakuvuma, ndiyakuxabisa, kwaye ndikuxabisile ngako konke okwenzayo. "
Cwangcisela usuku olukhethekileyo
Ukucwangcisela usuku olukhethekileyo kuye kukothusa, utshilo uSaraKay, ulwalamano lobuchwephesha. Xelela umfazi okanye intombi yakho ukuba ikhethe impela-veki ukususela ngoLwesihlanu ngokuhlwa ukuya ngeCawa ebusuku, ixesha apho wenza konke okusemandleni ukufezekisa iminqweno neminqweno yakhe. Into ekufuneka ayenzile kukugxila kwizinto ezimkholisayo, kwaye uya kwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuze afezekise amaphupha akhe. Oku kufuneka kubandakanye ixesha lakhe, into exabisekileyo.
3. Mnike usuku lokuphumla
Imithwalo yemithwalo kunye nomsebenzi wexesha elizeleyo unokuba sisibindi. Usuku lokuphumla ubuncinci kuluxanduva kunokuba yinto enkulu kuye. Olu suku lwabafazi, thatha yonke imisebenzi kwaye myeke abeke iinyawo zakhe phezulu kwaye aphumle. Amanenekazi, angabenzi bamakhaya kwaye ahlala ekhaya kumama, nawo afuna usuku lokuzitotosa. Eli inokuba lelona thuba lifanelekileyo lokuba wenze loo mnqweno uyinyani.
4. Mse ezivenkileni
Akukho nto inokuphakamisa imo yomfazi njengokuthenga. Njengokutya kuyindlela eya entliziyweni yendoda, ukuthenga kuyindlela eya entliziyweni yomfazi. Oku akuthethi ukuba abantu basetyhini banqwenela kuphela uyolo lokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo, kodwa ukwanela ngamaxesha athile kuhlala kwamkelekile. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ukhohlele isixa semali esixhomileyo ngenxa yeso sipho sincinci, isipho esicingisisiweyo sinokumenza usuku lwakhe. Ayisiyiyo loo nto, ukhenketho lokuya kuthenga ngamanye amaxesha kukwanesiphumo sokuchaphazeleka kwabafazi. Ukuphindaphinda kabini kuwe! Uya kuhlala onwabile kwaye onwabile kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezizayo emva kwephulo lokuthenga.
5. Yibethelele ngobusuku bomhla
Cwangcisa isidlo sangokuhlwa somfazi wakho okanye intombi yakho, le yeyona ndlela igqibeleleyo yokuphelisa usuku. Pheka, okanye u-odole into ayithandayo. Guqula umhombiso kunye nokukhanyisa ukwenza i-ambiance ngothando oluthile. Umhla uya kukunika ithuba lokuphinda uqhagamshele kwaye wakhe i-quotient yobudlelwane kubudlelwane bakho. UMary Kay Cocharo kwezomtshato kunye nonyango lweentsapho uthi, “umsondeze, umjonge emehlweni umeme ukuba akuxelele okubalulekileyo kuye. Njengokuba ethetha, mamela ngokunzulu ngobukho obupheleleyo. Cinga ngento oyivayo kwaye ummeme ukuba akuxelele ngakumbi. Hlala ngamehlo akhe kwaye ubuso bakho bukhululeke kwaye unomdla. Umfazi uyathanda ukwazi ukuba umamele ngenene, uqinisekisa izimvo zakhe kwaye uziva uvelwano ngaye. ”
Usuku lwalo Mfazi, lwenze ukuba azive exabisekile kwaye exatyisiwe. Yamkele iminikelo yakhe kwaye umenze azive enamandla. Izimbo zomzimba ezincinci ezisuka entliziyweni zinokwenza usuku lwakhe, kwaye zinokwenza umahluko kubudlelwane bakho.