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Umxholo
Kubudlelwane, ayikhe ithi 'Mna', 'Mna' kunye 'Nam'. Endaweni yoko, imalunga 'nathi', 'thina' kunye 'neziqu zethu'. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaxesha apho umntu anokuthandana nomntu okwalinye iqela langaphambili. Ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo kwindawo yoluntu kunzima, ukuhlala wedwa nje kubudlelwane nabo.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha uthandana nomntu oyinkunkuma. Ekuqaleni, kubonakala ngathi akukhathazi kodwa njengoko uchitha ixesha elininzi, uyaqonda ukuba inengxaki. Kuba uyathandana nakubudlelwane, ufuna ukuzisa oku kunesizathu sokwahlukana. Ukugcina oku engqondweni, sikulethela isisombululo sendlela yokuhlala nomntu onomdla kwaye ujongane nabo.
Ukwamkelwa
Sonke singathanda ukuba nomntu ogqibeleleyo wamaphupha ethu, kodwa inyani yinto eyahlukileyo. Nangona singathanda ukutshintsha imikhwa embalwa ebalulekileyo, kufuneka siqonde ukuba ezinye izinto azinakutshintshwa. Yinxalenye yomlinganiswa wabo kunye nobukho babo.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokusingatha kukwenza uxolo nayo. Ngokukhawuleza sibamkele ukuba bangobani, ngokukhawuleza siya kubulungisa ubomi bethu.
Akulunganga ukuzitshintshela ngokwethu kunokuba sizamkele ngentliziyo evulekileyo. Kunzima kodwa yinto elungileyo ukuyenza.
Ubuwena
Akululanga ukuhlala nomntu ongoyikiyo ukukubeka phantsi kwiimeko ezininzi. Kubuhlungu kakhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokukubeka kwimeko yokulalanisa apho unokugqibela ngokuthandabuza.
Basenokungafuni ukuba ungathandabuzi nokuzithemba kwakho kodwa ngokungazi uyenze. Eyona ndlela yokujongana noku kukugcina ukuzithemba kwakho, nokuba kunjani na.
Thatha yonke into abayithethayo ngentwana yetyuwa kwaye unxibe uncumo ebusweni bakho. Bafana nje oko akuthethi ukuba abakuthandi konke konke.
Uthethathethwano
Kubalulekile ukuba uthethathethane kakuhle xa uzama ukufunda ukuba ungaphila kanjani ne-narcissist. Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezinokunyamezeleka kwaye ezinye azinyamezeleki. Kukuwe apho ukrwela khona umgca.
Qiniseka ukuba awukho ngqwabalala kubo ngelixa uzobe lo mgca kwaye ungoyiki kangako.
Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuthetha-thethana kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye ubenze baqonde. Ingavakala ikrwada ngamanye amaxesha kodwa kufuneka baziswe ngayo xa bewela imigca yabo.
Ukujonga
Ukuqwalaselwa sisitshixo sempumelelo. Ewe ngokunjalo! Kuyimfuneko ukuba uqonde ukuba bawela nini na kwaye kufuneka uphakamise nini iflegi. Oku kunokufezekiswa kuphela xa uzijonga ngokufanelekileyo.
Banokwenza nje ngokungxama kodwa luxanduva lwakho ukubakhokela ngokufanelekileyo. Umntu osebenzisa iziyobisi unokukubeka ityala ngezinto ongazenzanga. Kodwa awulwazi ulwimi lwabo lomzimba ungagqiba uzisole ngayo yonke imeko.
Yiyo loo nto, funda ulwimi lwabo lomzimba, uwaqwalasele kwaye uqonde unxibelelwano lwabo olungenamlomo ukuqonda okungcono.
Ukuzimela
I-narcissist inokufuna ukuba uxhomekeke kubo ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kunokuba kungakulungelanga. Kufuneka ufunde ukuzimela. Kubudlelwane, akunakulunga ukuba uxhomekeke komnye umntu.
Kuhlala kufuneka ukuba ugcine isimo sakho sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwaye uphile ngokuzimeleyo.
Awunakuqonda kodwa banokuphela bekuhlonipha ngenxa yokuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzimela.
Ukwakha i-ego
Ewe inokusebenza! Kuba i-narcissist icinga ngayo kuphela kwaye iyazithanda, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokwandisa i-ego yayo, kodwa ngendlela esempilweni. Banike ukuncoma ngalo lonke ixesha. Bazise ukuba uyawuxabisa umgudu wabo.
Ngale ndlela, ngelixa usonyusa i-ego yabo ngendlela esempilweni, ukwabanceda ukuba bakuxabise.
Le ndlela yokuxabisa ngeendlela ezimbini inokwenza ubomi bakho bube lula kwaye bube lula.
Ukuchonga iimeko zokukhanyisa igesi
Ukukhanyisa igesi kuyinyani xa kuziwa ekujonganeni nomnxibelelanisi. Banokubamba ulwazi olufanelekileyo kuwe kwaye banokuthi endaweni yalo baxoke. Kuba zibalulekile kwabanye kwaye uyabathemba ukuba bangobani, ungaphetha ubakholelwa.
Nangona kunjalo, akucebisi ukuba wenze njalo. Kuya kufuneka ubenakho ukufumanisa imeko yokukhanyisa igesi kwaye uthathe ukuzama ukufumana inyani emva kwencoko yabo. Ukukholelwa ngokungaboniyo yonke into abayithethayo kunokukhokelela kwimeko enengxaki.
Xa umthanda umntu uyamamkela ngenxa yento ayiyo. Nangona kunjalo, xa uthandana narcissist, la manqaku sele ekhankanyiwe aya kukunceda ukuba ukhokele kwindlela yokuphila nomntu onomdla. Qiniseka ukuba uhlakaniphile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungazichonga ngexesha kwaye uthathe la manyathelo okhuseleko ukuze uphile ubomi obunempilo nobuhle kunye nabo.