Kunokuba nzima ukudlula kuyo yonke i-BDSM kunye namagama esiqalekiso xa kusenziwa Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi. Nje ukuba ugqibile ngokukhwina "oh oh!" okanye ukurhabaxa malunga nokuba yoyike kangakanani le ncwadi kunye nefilimu kuluntu, kukho izifundo ezimbalwa ezilungileyo ezinokufundwa ezinokunceda umtshato wakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba ufike kwezi zifundo, kufanelekile ukuba ugxininise ukuba oku ayiyonto yokwenza umhadi wekinky kwikhabhathi yakho okanye nantoni na eyenzekayo.Imalunga nokuvula amehlo akho kwizifundo ezithile Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi oko kuyakwenza umtshato wakho unamathele ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala.
1.Gxila komnye nomnye
Ngelixa indlela yokuziphatha yamaKrestu inokuthi ngamanye amaxesha iwele kwicala lestralker, kukho into emayithethwe malunga nokujolisa kwiqabane lakho. Awudingi ukuqonda ukubonwa kakuhle, kodwa xa nikunye, lonke ujoliso lwenu kufuneka lube kwelinye kunye nokunxibelelana ngalo mzuzu. Sukujonga kwifowuni yakho, ulibale malunga neziphazamiso ezikungqongileyo, kwaye wenze umgudu wokujongana emehlweni kwaye uqhagamshele. Kwakha ukusondelelana okunokunceda umtshato wakho
2. Musa ukugweba
Ukudala ubudlelwane obungenasigwebo kubalulekile kuyo yonke imiba yomtshato. Ngokucacileyo uChristian noAna babenokhetho kunye neembono ezahlukeneyo xa bedibana, kodwa akukho namnye kubo owagweba omnye. Akukho namnye kuni ofanele ukuba abe madolw 'anzima nokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakhe ngenxa yokoyika ukugwetywa. Yamkela kwaye uthandane ngenxa yento oyiyo.
3. Gcina Ingqondo evulekileyo kwigumbi lokulala
Oku kulapha phezulu ngokungagwebi omnye komnye. Xa kufikwa kubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ufuna ukugcina izinto zivulekile kangangoko ukuze nobabini nizive ukhululekile ukwabelana ngeemfuno kunye neemfuno zakho. Iminqweno yakho ayinakukugcina ngokupheleleyo, kodwa oko akufuneki kukuyekise ekuvulekeni ekufundeni malunga nezinto abazifunayo kunye nokuthathela ingqalelo ukulalanisa. Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo xa kufikwa kumba wokusondelelana ngundoqo kumtshato owanelisayo. Ngaphandle koko, ukuzama izinto ezintsha kunokuba yimithwalo yolonwabo kuni nobabini!
4.Kwazi ukubaluleka koThando noMsa
Ngokuqinisekileyo, i-trilogy yayihlawuliswe ngesondo, kodwa yayingengokwesini phakathi komKristu noAna, kwakukho uthando lokwenene ngokunjalo. Amadoda nabasetyhini banetyala lokuvumela izenzo zothando kunye nothando emva komtshato. Wonke umntu ufuna ukuziva ethandwa kwaye ethandwa. Ukuthatha ixesha lokubamba kunye nokukhathalelana, ukuncoma omnye nomnye, kunye nothando kuyayenza loo nto. Sukumanga nje nokuncamisa xa ilixesha lokwabelana ngesondo kwaye endaweni yoko wenze umgudu wokubonisa uthando kunye nothando izihlandlo ezininzi ngemini, nokanga ebunzi okanye ukwanga okuthuthuzelayo emva kosuku olunzima.
5.Yenza ukusondelelana kube yeyona nto iphambili
Ukusondelelana akufuneki kube yiyo yonke into, kodwa akufuneki kuthathe ukubuyela umva njengoko kusenzeka rhoqo emtshatweni. Yenza ukusondelelana kube yeyona nto iphambili kulwalamano lwakho nokuba ubomi buxakeke kangakanani na. Ngaba ufuna inkuthazo ngaphandle kokuphucula impilo yakho ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo? Ukusondelelana lilitye lembombo lemitshato esempilweni, ke fumana indlela yokuyisebenza kweyakho, nokuba udiniwe kangakanani ekupheleni kosuku.