Umxholo
- Imida kunye nemigibe
- Ulawulo nxamnye nothando
- Uthando olunyanisekileyo noluyinyani lolona thango lubalaseleyo
Ukuziva sikhululekile kwilizwe lethu, kubomi bethu nakubudlelwane yinto enzima ukuyiphumeza. Ayilulo uhlobo lwenkululeko oluvumela ukuzibophelela ngaphandle komda, kodwa inkululeko eqinisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nendawo yakho emhlabeni, kodwa ivumela umoya wakho ukuba unyaniseke kwaye ukhululeke. Ukuzibophelela kuhlala kusoyikisa kubantu abathanda inkululeko yabo, kodwa kufuneka sijonge ukuzibophelela komnye umntu nakwisiqu sethu ngendlela entsha.
'Umele uthande ngendlela eyenza ukuba omnye umntu azive ekhululekile.' ~ Thích Nhat Hanh
Imida kunye nemigibe
Sinemithetho yoluntu, imigaqo yobudlelwane kunye nemithetho esimele siyilandele ukusuka ebuntwaneni okanye eyethu imida. Eminye yale mithetho isempilweni kwaye iyasebenza, kodwa eminye idala izithintelo ezenza uninzi lwethu luzive lubambekile kwaye luthintelwe- ngokuqinisekileyo xa sisayina amaxwebhu ukubonisa uthando lwethu komnye umntu okanye "ukubopha iqhina."
Abantu bathi baziva bebambekile okanye ngathi bakwikhokho engabonakaliyo. Abanye abantu baziva ngale ndlela ngenxa yamabali amadala ezingqondweni zabo kunye noloyiko ezintliziyweni zabo. Kukho abo baxhomekeke kubudlelwane ukungqina ukubaluleka kwabo. Kukho abanye abaziva bevalelekile kuba bengaziva bekhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba babelane ngeemvakalelo zabo zokwenyani kubudlelwane. Ezinye izizathu zivela ngenxa yembali kunye nenkqubo kuphuhliso lwethu ngenxa yendlela esamkele ngayo ukwamkelwa nothando okanye singazifumani ezi zinto.
Ke, sizibeka emgibeni weenkolelo zokuba asikonelanga okanye ukuba omnye umntu esenza into engalunganga kuthi, engqina ukuba asikufanelanga. Ezi nkolelo zihlala zibuyela kumanxeba ethu okuqala njengabantwana. Sikhule, enyanisweni, kwiindawo ezingafezekanga ezaluswa bubomi babantu abangafezekanga.
Ke singaziva njani sikhululekile xa sithwele umthwalo weemvakalelo okanye uxinzelelo kwezentlalo? Impendulo ilele kuloo ndawo ingcwele yentliziyo.
Ulawulo nxamnye nothando
Kulula ukugxeka abanye kunye namava ethu obomi ekwenzeni ezi kheji. Inkululeko yobuqu sisakhono esinokukhuthazwa, hayi into esinokuyinikwa. Kungumsebenzi wethu weemvakalelo ukuphilisa izibophelelo ezisibambayo, kwaye ikwangumsebenzi wethu ukuvumela 'omnye' ukuba enze umsebenzi wabo wokuphilisa izibophelelo ezibabambayo. Oku kunokwenzeka kuphela kwindawo yokukhula ngokweemvakalelo eyeyakho kwaye yamkele kwaye ingabeki tyala.
Senza iimvakalelo ezixineneyo kubudlelwane ukusinika amandla okulawula. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba 'lilungile' kuhlala kusenza ukuba 'siqinise' ngokugqithileyo kumava ethu. Siqala ukwenza lukhuni imiphetho kwaye senze imida enqabileyo ejikeleze iintliziyo zethu. Le ndlela yokulawula ihlala ibekwa endaweni ukusikhusela kuloyiko lwethu lokwenzakaliswa-lokungathandwa. Ukuba senza izithintelo esizibekele zona, sihlala silawula ukuba ngubani ongena kunye nokuba bafika phi. Ukanti olu hlobo lolawulo kunye nokukhohlisa lukwalenza uxinzelelo lokuzinyanzela, ukudibanisa kunye noluvo lokubanjiswa. Ukuba ucingo olubiyeleyo olujikeleze intliziyo yakho lusendaweni, kunzima ukuphuma ngaphandle njengokuba kungena umntu.
Uthando olunyanisekileyo noluyinyani lolona thango lubalaseleyo
Sinqwenela ukukhululeka. Kwaye iyeza lokunyaniseka kuphela elinyanisekileyo, lokwenyani nelokuzithanda.
Xa sikhanyela iintlungu zethu ezinzulu, siyaphuma, sakha iindonga kwaye sibek 'ityala ilizwe ngesizathu sokuba ubomi bethu kunye nobudlelwane busokola. Ekuphela kwendlela yokutshintsha la mandla kukuvula intliziyo yakho kwaye uzikhuphele imfesane yothando, ubabalo kunye noxolelo kwaye ungene kwiindawo zakho ezenzakeleyo. Iindonga ziya kuthambeka njengoko uzivumela ukuba uqalise ukulungisa iimvakalelo ezinganqwenelekiyo zokungazithembi, ukuziva unetyala okanye ukungazithembi ozigcinayo ngaphakathi (kwaye uhlala uneentloni). Xa singabanini kwaye sithatha uxanduva lwentlungu yethu, ucango lwendlwana luqala ukuvula. Ukunyaniseka kwesiqu sakho kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo ukwabelana, kodwa olu hlobo lwenyaniso kunye nokuba sesichengeni kususa umsindo, uloyiko, ingqumbo kunye nokusola esihlala sikubeka kwabanye. Abanoxanduva lokufumana kwakhona nokuzikhulisa.
Uthando ngokwenene luyimpendulo. Ayilulo uthando olubalaseleyo okanye "nantoni na ehamba" uhlobo lothando olungaphezulu, kodwa luthando olwamkelayo kwaye luthembele ukuba ulungile ukuba ungafezekanga, uphilise kwaye uthandeke komnye umntu. Ukufumana inkululeko ngaphakathi kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo, kufuneka uqale ufumane inkululeko ngaphakathi.