Umxholo
Nabakwishumi elivisayo bayazi ukuba isini siyabandakanyeka kulwalamano olusenyongweni.
Nokuba phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo, amaqabane ekugqibeleni acinga ngesondo, kwaye ukuba liqhubeka ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo, liya kuthi ekugqibeleni lifike apho.
Nje ukuba ubudlelwane bufike kuloo ndawo, iqabane ngalinye lilindele ngakumbi komnye nomnye. Ngelishwa, inyani inezimvo ezahlukeneyo. Abantu baneesondo ezahlukeneyo zokuqhuba. Iyatshintsha, kuxhomekeke kubuninzi bezinto.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, kukhokelela ekukhathazekeni nasekuphoxekeni. Ukungabikho komnqweno wesondo kunokuvakala kuyinto encinci, ngakumbi kwabo banobudlelwane obude bexesha elide.
Kodwa ezo ntanda zincinci zinokonakalisa iziseko zabo nabuphi na ubudlelwane.
Jonga kwakhona:
Ukungabikho komnqweno wesini kubuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane
Ukuba nesondo kakhulu okanye okuncinci kakhulu kuvakala ngathi kukuhlekisa phakathi kwezibini ezinzulu.
Umnqweno wesini unikiwe phakathi kwabantu abathandanayo, kodwa ayihlali injalo.
Uxinzelelo, isithukuthezi, ubomi bemihla ngemihla, ukutshintsha izinto eziphambili, abantwana, ubudala, iingxaki zemali, kunye neminye imiba "yabantu abadala" iphazamisa imeko yengqondo kwaye iwutyeshele umzimba.
Uninzi lwabantu luyalibala ukuba imeko yomzimba nengqondo yomntu ichaphazela ngokuthe ngqo ukulahleka komnqweno wesini.
Ukuphulukana nokuvuseleleka ngokwesondo kukhokelela ekucaphukeni xa iqabane labo lisala inkqubela yabo yesiqhelo. Iphela ikhathaza omabini amacala. Oloxinzelelo, njengazo zonke ezinye iingxaki, luyakha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Abantu basabela ngokwahlukileyo kuyo.
Nazi iingxaki zobudlelwane ezinokubangelwa kukuswela kwesondo.
Ukukopa - Amanye amaqabane anokuhendeka ukuba afumane omnye umntu owanelisa iimfuno zawo.
Banokude bacinge ukuba ukuthintela iingxabano kunye neengxaki kubudlelwane, kungcono babenobudlelwane obunzulu nabanye abantu, nditsho noonongogo, ukukhupha imbilini yabo.
Isenokuvakala ingenangqondo ukukopa ukugcina ulwalamano lwakho, kodwa ukuba unqatshelwe emva kwamaxesha amaninzi, iya kuba sengqiqweni.
Ukwaphuka kokuthenjwa nonxibelelwano - Abanye abantu abatshatileyo baphela bephikisana ngobomi babo bobulili (okanye ukungabikho kwabo). Banokucinga ukuba amaqabane abo awanamdla wesini, kwaye bayayeka ukubuza okanye ukuxoxa ngawo.
Oku kuya kuba yimbambano kweminye imixholo, kwaye esi sibini siza kuphela singasathethi nganto kwaphela.
Kuya kukhokelela kukunganyaniseki kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kukungathembani. Ubudlelwane buqhekeka ngakumbi ukusuka apho.
Ukuphulukana nothando kunye nokusondelelana- Ukwabelana ngesondo luhlobo lothando. Ukwala inkqubela phambili kuba kungekho mnqweno wesini kuya kukhokelela kuwo omabini amaqabane ukwala ukuthandana kunye nokusondelelana ngokupheleleyo.
Oko kuyakukhokelela ekubeni omabini amaqela angoneliseki yimeko yeemvakalelo kulwalamano lwabo. Njengeemfuno zomzimba, baya kuthi ekugqibeleni bajonge kwabanye abantu ukuze banelise.
Ukoyisa ukungabikho komnqweno wesini
Kulula ukuba abantu abatshatileyo babone xa ubudlelwane babo obungabelaniyo ngesondo (okanye abonelanga) bubangela iingxaki kubudlelwane.
Kukho namaxesha apho isibini sithembana ngokwaneleyo ukuba singaxoxa ngokunyanisekileyo. Ukuthetha ngayo linyathelo lokuqala kuphela, ungatsiba icandelo lengxoxo ngokupheleleyo. Isenzo sithetha kakhulu kunamazwi, kwaye sisebenza kakuhle kule meko. Nalu uluhlu lwendlela yokwandisa umnqweno emfazini.
Ezothando - Abasetyhini banamava enkanuko yesini xa baziva bethandwa. Imvuselelo yabasetyhini inxulumene ngokusondeleyo nemeko yabo yeemvakalelo. Ukubenza bonke bathande-dovey kubenza bamkele ngakumbi ngesondo.
Phola -Ukungabikho komnqweno wesini kunokubangelwa luxinzelelo kunye nokudinwa. Ukuchitha usuku lokuphumla kunye kunokunceda ukucacisa imeko yabo kwaye kubenze bazimisele ngakumbi ukulala ngesondo.
Yiba sempilweni- Umtsalane wethu kwimizimba enesini ayithethi ngokuthenga. Yindalo iphela kwaye ibijikeleze indlela ngaphambi kokuthengisa. Imizimba eshushu inomtsalane kuthi kuba iluphawu lwempilo elungileyo kunye nokujika kwemfuza eyomeleleyo yokuvelisa kwakhona.
Ukutya ngokulungileyo kunye nokuzilolonga rhoqo kuya kuyonyusa eyakho i-libido kunye nomtsalane kubantu besini esahlukileyo.
Coca - Uninzi lwabantu abakubudlelwane bexesha elide abakuhoyi ukuzitotosa. Uxanduva olongezelelekileyo njengokukhulisa umntwana kunye nemisebenzi yasekhaya, kuthatha lonke ixesha kunye namandla asetyenziswa ngabantu abangatshatanga ukuya e-spa kwaye benze ezinye izinto ukuze bazenze bahle.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha ukuziyeka uhambe kuthatha umtsalane kubuhle bomzimba. Ayisiyo yokuba abantu kubudlelwane obunjalo abanamnqweno wesini, kukuba banokuthi bafumane nangaliphi na ixesha kwaye babeke umzamo omncinci kuwo.
Coca kwaye unakekele umzimba wakho.
Nokuba utshintsho olwenziwe phezulu njengemilenze engachetywanga, ukusikwa kweenwele okungcolileyo, iinzipho ezimdaka, kunye neengxaki zamazinyo kunokubeka umqobo ekutsaleni umdla wesini kwaye kube negalelo kukungabikho kwesondo kwabasetyhini.
Ukutyeba kunye nolusu olomileyo kunokwenza ukuba umfazi abonakale engathandeki emadodeni.
Yanza inzame - Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuvuselela inkazana kukuba ubabonise ukuba uyakhathala. Kungenxa yoko le nto amabali eentsomi malunga nenkosana ihlangula inkosazana kwimeko ethile eyingozi.
Abasetyhini bafuna ukubona umntu wabo ebeka iinzame zokubonisa ukuba uyathandwa kwaye uyathandwa kangakanani.
Kwanezinto ezincinci ezinje ngokuvula ucango njengendoda endala yakudala ziya kuba manzi maninzi amabhinqa. Ukuvuselela inkanuko yesini kunokusebenza ngokulula xa indoda isebenza njengendoda yokwenyani. Kungenxa yoko le nto kukho uninzi lwee memes zamadoda okwenyani ezijikeleze i-intanethi.
Sebenzisa amagama - Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, unxibelelwano lunokuhamba indlela ende, kodwa isihloko esibuhlungu ngoluhlobo sinokuba nzima nakwizibini ezitshatileyo.
Njengoko benditshilo, isenzo sithetha kakhulu kunamazwi, kodwa uxelela intombazana yakho, uyayithanda kwaye uyancoma ukubonakala kwayo (okanye kwanezihlangu zayo) iya kwenza izimangaliso zokuzithemba kwayo kunye ne-libido.
Ukungabikho komnqweno wesondo kunokubangelwa kukuzixabisa nokuzithemba. Ukuba ungasebenzisa amagama alula ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakhe, inokunyusa ukuqhuba kwakhe ngesondo.
Ukunqongophala komnqweno wesini kwiqabane, ngakumbi owasetyhini, kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki kubudlelwane. Isisombululo asikho nzima.
Ukwenza amadinga kunye nokuncwina umntu othandana naye akufuneki kube nzima. Ukuzikhathalela akufuneki kube ngumceli mngeni, nokuba.
Fumana nje ixesha lokuzikhathalela wena neqabane lakho. Yonke enye into, njengokungabikho komnqweno wesini, iya kuwela endaweni.