Umxholo
Ixesha elifutshane nelifutshane? Ewe kuyinto eqhelekileyo.
Oko akuthethi ukuba nisazobonana kwaye nibe neentlobano zesini, ngakumbi ukuba sele ninobudlelwane obutsha (obutsha). Oko akuthethi ukuba uya kuqhubeka nokuncokola ngokusondeleyo kunye nokubaleka kubo xa uneengxaki.
Indlela oziva ngayo kunye nento oyenzayo zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuba ucinga malunga "Ngaba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuthanda umntu wakho wangaphambili?" kodwa awuzimiselanga okwangoku, emva koko ungazikhathazi ngokucinga ngako.
Yenza le nto uyifunayo, qhubeka nokuthandana ukuba yile nto ikwenza wonwabe. Ayisiyongxaki leyo, lilizwe elikhululekileyo elo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba usebudlelwaneni nomnye umntu, kuphela kwelo xesha izinto ziguquka.
Kusetyenziswa imiqathango. Funda ukuprinta okuhle.
Kule nqaku, sixoxa nje ngomcimbi wokuthanda i-ex yakho ngelixa ulwalamano olutsha. Kungenxa yokuba, ukuba awukho nakweyiphi na ubudlelwane, emva koko uthandana nabani kwaye ulale naye ayisiyonto yomnye umntu.
Cinga, yiva, yenza
Into oyicingayo kunye nendlela oziva ngayo yeyakho kwaye yeyakho wedwa.
Akukho mntu unokuphazamisa ezakho iingcinga zabucala kunye neemvakalelo. Inokuphenjelelwa zizinto ezingaphandle kunye namava, kodwa yeyakho kwaye yeyakho wedwa.
Ngaphandle kokuba awenzi okanye uvule umlomo wakho omkhulu kwezi ngcinga kunye neemvakalelo, akukho mntu unelungelo lokukugweba. Umthetho wanamhlanje ugweba abantu ngezenzo zabo kwaye ke iinjongo zabo emva kwenyani. Qaphela: ukuthetha sisenzi, ukuba ubungazi.
Abanye abantu abanakuzinceda ekuvuleni imilomo yabo. Ukuba neengcinga ezithile okanye iimvakalelo akusosiseko sayo nantoni na.
Ke ukuba uziva usayithanda i-ex yakho, kulungile, okoko nje awenzi (okanye uthetha ngayo) kuyo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba kufuneka uthembeke kwisithandwa sakho sangoku, cinga malunga noko kuya kukunceda. Olu luhlobo lwengxaki ehamba ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ngaphantsi kokuzibandakanya, kokukhona kuya kubakho ukumka.
Ke qhubeka nje ukuthanda iqabane lakho langoku. Ekugqibeleni, uthando lwakho lwangaphambili luya kuhamba, okanye ubuncinci, akunamsebenzi.
Ukuba usayithanda i-ex yakho kwaye uyazibuza "kutheni ndisacinga nge-ex yam yonke imihla?" qiniseka ukuba awuthethi okanye wenze nantoni na eya kubeka engozini ubudlelwane bakho bangoku.
Akufanelekanga. Ke ukuyigcina ilula, ukucinga kunye nokuziva kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ukuthetha nokwenza ukukhangela ingxaki.
Ukubuyela kwi-ex yakho
Ukuba uhendelwa ekubeni ube ne-misadventures nge-ex yakho, ukuba awuzinikelanga okwangoku, ke qhubeka ukonwaba.
Kusenokukhokelela kuxolelwaniso njengesibini. Kukho ubudlelwane obuninzi obufuna nje ikhefu elifutshane. Iingxaki zehlabathi lokwenyani zikhuphe umlilo kunye nothando kubudlelwane, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuqhekeka yinto efunekayo ukuyibuyisela emgceni.
Ukuba uyakholelwa kumathuba yesibini, kunjalo kwimeko.
Ukuba ucinga nzulu xa ukudlelane nomntu omtsha, kuba nzima. Abantu abaninzi bayazibuza, "Ngaba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuthanda umntu wam wangaphambili, ngelixa uthandana nomntu omtsha." Kwenzeka kakhulu xa ulwalamano lwakho olutsha lungasondelanga okanye lunzulu njengangaphambili, ubuncinci okwangoku.
Sisigqibo sokuzingca, kwaye ukushiya iqabane lakho langoku kwi-ex yakho kukuhamba kancinci. Kodwa okuninzi ukuthandana kanye emva kokuqhekeka nje "kubuyela emarikeni" unyango.
Ke kuya kufuneka umbe nzulu kuwe ukuba leliphi na iqabane elikufanelayo.
Into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza kukubakhokela bobabini ngelixa uhlela iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuphinda kabini kungakhokelela ekuphulukaneni nabo bobabini.
Ukunamathela kuyo
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuhlala nomntu omtsha, akukho sizathu sokuba uxelele, "ndisayithanda intombi yam yangaphambili." okanye into efanayo esisidenge.
Nikela ixesha lakho kunye nomzamo wakho neqabane lakho elitsha kwaye niphephe ngokubonakalayo i-ex yakho.
Cima inani labo, hamba kude, thintela izangqa eziqhelekileyo. Akukho nto intle izakuphuma ngokuzonwabisa ngeengcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zedala lakho, ngakumbi ukuba sele wenze ukhetho lokuqhubela phambili.
Musa ukutyala imbewu yeengxabano ezizayo ngokuzonwabisa nangayiphi na imbono ye-ex yakho kwiqabane lakho elitsha. Ixesha elidlulileyo lidlulileyo, kwaye ligcine apho.
Ukuba uziva unetyala kuba usacinga "Ngaba kuqhelekile ukuthanda i-ex yam," emva koko yenza umzamo wokonwabisa iqabane lakho.
Sebenzisa uhambo lokuziva unetyala ukuze ube liqabane elingcono kunye nesithandwa. Ukuba awunangqondo kwaye uqhubeka nokutsiba ukhetho lwakho phakathi kwexesha elidlulileyo nelangoku, ke udlala ngomlilo kwaye ulungele ukutshiswa. Cinga ukuba ulumkisiwe.
Ngokunyaniseka konke, ukuba usamthanda umntu wakho wangaphambili ngandlela thile, bazalisa iingcinga neemvakalelo zakho, abahlobo bakho sele bediniwe kukuva "ndisamthanda" ekhala ngeeyure zakusasa, ungangeni ukuzibophelela kwangoko.
Ukuba unqwenela ukuzibandakanya kwezokwabelana ngesondo nomnye umntu ukwanelisa iimfuno zakho, qhubeka.
Kodwa ubudlelwane bokuthandana?
Hlala kude nayo de uthandane naloo mntu. Ukuba ufunda eli nqaku kuba eli tyala liyasebenza kuwe kwaye wenze impazamo yokuzibophelela komnye umntu, kuya kufuneka wenze isigqibo esinzima kungekudala.
Ngaphambili, ngcono.
Ngaba kuqhelekile ukuba ndisamthanda umhlobam? Ewe. Ngaba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuqhubeka uthandana nabo ngelixa uthandana nomnye umntu, uhm ... eqhelekileyo? Yinto eyaziwayo ukuba yenzeke. Ukuziphatha? Hayi. Ukuthanda i-ex yakho kuphela iba yingxaki ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokungena kolunye ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo kwangoko kakhulu.
Ukuwa eluthandweni ayisoze ibe lukhetho, kodwa ukungena kwisivumelwano kukukhetha esikwenzayo kuthi nakumaqabane.
Ukuba wenze impazamo yokwenza olo khetho kwangoko kakhulu, akukabi kudala ukulungisa imeko. Nokuba kunjalo, yenza ubulungisa kwiqabane lakho elitsha kwaye ushiye, okanye unamathele kuyo.