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Umxholo
- 1. Uthando luzisa ulonwabo
- 2. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuqinisa amajoni akho omzimba
- 3. Ukwanda kwezemali
- 4. Uthando luzala intlonipho
- 5. Ulala ngcono nalowo umthandayo
- 6. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunciphisa uxinzelelo
- 7. Uthando lukwenza uphile ixesha elide
- 8. Isini siyakudibanisa
Kuzo zonke iimpawu ezinegalelo kumtshato ophilileyo, owonwabileyo, uthando luyeyona nto iphambili kuluhlu lomntu wonke. Oku kuthetha lukhulu ngamandla othando kunye nokuba kunokwenza ntoni ukunceda ukugcina ubudlelwane. Yiloo nto ejika ubuhlakani obulungileyo bube yinto entle, yiyo loo nto ijika abathandi babe ngabahlobo abasenyongweni.
Ukubaluleka kothando emtshatweni kuphantse kungapheli. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umtshato awusoloko ulungiselelo olulula kwaye ngaphandle kothando, ngekhe ube nakho ukuqhuba, ukuhoya, ukungazingci, kunye nomonde owuthathayo ukwenza ubudlelwane bakho bube yimpumelelo.
1. Uthando luzisa ulonwabo
Uthando lukhuthaza ulonwabo. Yitsho into oza kuyenza malunga nokuba nenkululeko kunye nokuzimela, akukho nto injengentuthuzelo kunye nokhuseleko lokwazi ukuba ukhathalelwe.
Xa uthandana nomzimba wakho ukhupha i-dopamine, ikhemikhali ekhutshwa kwi "Reward Centre" yengqondo. Akumangalisi ke ukuba i-dopamine ikwenza uzive uxabisekile, wonwabile, unomvuzo, kwaye ukhuthaza iimvakalelo ezintle.
Uthando lukwakhuthaza spike kwihomoni yecortisol. Ngelixa oku kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nokuba "yiHormone yoxinzelelo", kwimeko yokuthandana, icortisol ayenzi uzive uxhalabile kodwa inoxanduva lwala mabhabhathane esiswini sakho, imincili, kunye nomnqweno ongaphaya owufumanayo xa uku Imiphunga yothando olutsha.
Olunye uphononongo luye lucebise ukuba njengoko ukhula kuphando lwenjana kunye nothando oluvuthiweyo, amanqanaba akho e-dopamine anokuhlala ephakanyisiwe.
2. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuqinisa amajoni akho omzimba
Ukuhlala usenza isondo rhoqo kunye neqabane lakho onothando kunokuyinceda inkqubo yomzimba yokuzikhusela. Izibini ezitshatileyo zinamazinga asezantsi oxinzelelo, ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi, kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi olusezantsi kunabo bangatshatanga. Isifo sentliziyo sixhaphake kakhulu kwabo bahlala bodwa kunabo batshatileyo.
3. Ukwanda kwezemali
Ababini bangcono kunenye, ngakumbi kwimeko yeakhawunti yakho yebhanki! Amaqabane atshatileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba afumane ukhuseleko lwezezimali kwaye aqokelele ubutyebi obungaphezulu kwexesha kunabo bangatshatanga okanye abaqhawule umtshato.
Ukuba nemivuzo emibini kunika izibini uzinzo kwezemali, ezinokunciphisa uxinzelelo, zinciphise ityala, kwaye zivumele ubhetyebhetye emtshatweni xa elinye iqabane linokusebenza ixesha lesingxungxo okanye linqwenela ukuhlala ekhaya likhathalele abantwana okanye olunye uxanduva.
4. Uthando luzala intlonipho
Intlonipho lilitye lembombo lalo naluphi na ulwalamano olusempilweni. Ngaphandle kwentlonipho, uthando kunye nokuthembana akunakukhula. Xa uziva uhlonitshwa, uyazi ukuba amazwi akho, iingcinga zakho, kunye neemvakalelo zixabisekile. Uyakwazi ukuthembela ngokukhululekileyo xa imbeko ibonakaliswa.
Ukubaluleka kwentlonipho nothando emtshatweni kukwanento yokwenza nenkxaso yeemvakalelo. Xa uneqabane, oluxabisayo uluvo lwakho kwaye ekuphatha kakuhle, uya kuba nakho ukuba sesichengeni nokuzithemba. Inkxaso yeemvakalelo inefuthe elihle kwimpilo yengqondo nakubudlelwane ngokubanzi kunye nokuzonwabisa.
5. Ulala ngcono nalowo umthandayo
Enye inkalo yokubaluleka kothando emtshatweni? Iingubo ze-blanket kunye ne-snore-hounds ngaphandle, uya kulala ngcono xa ucofa ngothando lobomi bakho. Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba izibini ezazilele ecaleni kwenye zazinamanqanaba asezantsi e-cortisol, zazilala kamnandi, kwaye zalala msinya kunalezo zilala zodwa.
6. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunciphisa uxinzelelo
Ukubaluleka kothando emtshatweni nako kunokukunceda nakwimpilo yakho yengqondo. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba isizungu sinokuyonakalisa impilo yakho kwaye sinokuvula amaziko entlungu. Oku kubangela amanqanaba oxinzelelo ukuba anyuke.
Uthando kunye nokwabelana ngesondo kuyamangalisa ekukhuseleni uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Oku kwenziwa ngokuyinxenye ngokukhutshwa kwehormone yehormone oxetocin. Eli 'chiza lothando' linoxanduva lokuncamathisela okuvekileyo emva kokuchukumisa umntu omthandayo, nokuba yinto esondeleyo njengokwabelana ngesondo okanye enencasa njengokubambana ngezandla.
I-Oxytocin ikwathoba amanqanaba oxinzelelo kunye nokulinganisa ii-neurochemicals zakho, ezibangela uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ukuba lunyibilike.
7. Uthando lukwenza uphile ixesha elide
Amaqabane akhula kamnandi ngakumbi kunabantu abangatshatanga, okanye isitsho enye yeYunivesithi yaseMissouri. Uphando, olwenziwe liSebe loPhuhliso lwaBantu kunye noPhando lweeNtsapho, lufumanise ukuba, nokuba bangakanani na ubudala, abo batshatileyo bonwabile ukuba impilo yabo iphezulu kunabo bangatshatanga nabo.
Ngaba kungenye indlela yokuba nolonwabo emtshatweni? Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba ngokweenkcukacha-manani kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile ixesha elide kunama-singles angonwabanga, kodwa ukuba ungatshatanga, njengoko kutyhilwe kolu phononongo, yayiyeyona nto iphambili ekufeni ngaphambi kwexesha.
Ubomi obude besibini esitshatileyo kucingelwa ukuba bunokuphenjelelwa yimvakalelo, intlalontle kunye nenkxaso yemali efunyenwe ngokuba yinxalenye 'yesibini'. Umzekelo, abantu abatshatileyo banamathuba okuba bafumane unyango.
Olunye uphando lwaseHarvard luveze ukuba amadoda atshatileyo aphila ixesha elide kunamadoda aqhawule umtshato okanye angazange atshate. Oku kucingelwa ukuba kungenxa yokuba amadoda atshatileyo athoba indlela yabo yokuphila (enjengokusela, ukulwa, kunye nokuthatha umngcipheko ngokungeyomfuneko) bakuba bezithandile.
8. Isini siyakudibanisa
Unxibelelwano olusempilweni ngokwesondo luyinxalenye yothando emtshatweni kungekuphela ngenxa yokuba luziva lukhulu ukusondela kwiqabane lakho ngale ndlela, kodwa ngenxa yokuba lukubopha ngokwamachiza.
Ngamanye amaxesha kubhekiswa kuyo 'njengesiyobisi sothando', i-Oxytocin yincindi yedlala enoxanduva lokudibana okukhutshiweyo xa uchukumisa iqabane lakho elonyusa ngokwendalo uthando, ukuzithemba, iimvakalelo zokuzithemba, kunye nethemba.
Ukubaluleka kothando emtshatweni akupheli. Izisa izibonelelo zempilo, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ubomi obuphucukileyo besini, kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla kunye namaxhala obomi. Ngaphandle kothando, wena neqabane lakho ngekhe nikwazi ukonwabela ubudlelwane obonwabileyo nobusempilweni.