Umxholo
- Yintoni i-narcissist?
- Yintoni ukukhanya kwegesi?
- Iimpawu zokukhanyisa ngegesi
- Ngaba ii-narcissists ziyazi ukuba ziyakhanyisa ngegesi?
- Ndijongana njani nokukhanyiswa kwegesi kweqabane lam?
Ngaba utshatile kwi-narcissist? Ngaba ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho li-narcissist? Ngaba ukhathazekile malunga nokukhanyiselwa ngegesi?
Nazi iinkcazo zale migaqo kunye neendlela onokuthi uzithathe ukuthintela ubuqhetseba
Yintoni i-narcissist?
I-narcissist yimeko yengqondo apho abagulayo benobuxoki, benomoya wokuzibaluleka nokubaluleka kwabo. Kunye nezo zinto, bafuna ingqalelo egqithisileyo kunye nokunconywa, ikwakhula nokungabikho kovelwano kwabanye.
I-narcissism inzima kakhulu ukuba ichaze kwaye yahlukane nokuzithemba okuphezulu kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ngenxa yoko, uninzi luya kungena kubudlelwane nabantu abenza izinto ezingekho mgangathweni bengazi ngemeko yabo yengqondo de kube kubonakala iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo, ezinokuba ziinyanga kamva.
Unokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba phantse i-7.7% yamadoda kunye ne-4.8% yabasetyhini baphuhlisa i-NPD ngexesha lokuphila kwabo, ngokophando olwenziwe liZiko leLizwe lokuSetyenziswa gwenxa kotywala kunye notywala. Kwaye oku kuziphatha kubangelwa kukusetyenziswa kweendaba zosasazo, ngakumbi ukuthumela imifanekiso kunye neeselfies kunyuko olulandelayo lwe-narcissism.
Ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist, ke ukwahlula iindlela zakho kubo kuya kuba yinkohliso. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba undwendwele igqwetha loqhawulo-mtshato, qiniseka ukuba utshatile. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, zimbalwa iingcebiso zokuqhawula umtshato kubuntu obunengxabano enkulu.
Jonga imiqondiso ekhanyayo otshatileyo ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist kwaye ufumane iindlela zokushiya i-narcissist.
Kukho iimpawu ezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo ze-narcissists kunye ne-gaslighters ezibonisa ukuba akukho mmahluko omkhulu phakathi kwezi zibini. Ngapha koko, ii-sociopaths kunye ne-narcissists zisebenzisa amaqhinga okukhanyisa igesi ukuze boyise amaqabane abo kwaye babasebenzise.
Ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist, ke uya kuba lixhoba lokukhanyisa ngerhasi kungekudala okanye kamva. Kodwa uziqonda njani iimpawu zokuba ulixhoba lokukhanyisa ngegesi? Ngaphambi koko, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde izinto ezimbalwa malunga nokukhanyisa ngokwazo.
Yintoni ukukhanya kwegesi?
Ukukhanyisa ngegesi yeyona ndlela iphambili yokuphathwa gadalala kwengqondo okwenziwa ngumnxibelelanisi.
Kubandakanya ukuxhaphaza omnye umntu ngokubenza babuze ubuzaza babo kwaye ngenxa yoko, bafumane amandla kubo. Ukukhanyisa ngegesi kungenziwa kancinci kwaye kwenzeka ixesha elide ukuze ixhoba lingazi ngobuqhetseba.
Kukho imibala eyahlukeneyo yokukhanyisa ngegesi kwaye ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane enye okanye ezimbini zeempawu zayo.
Iimpawu zokukhanyisa ngegesi
UGqirha Robin SternUmbhali wencwadi, 'Iziphumo zokuKhanyisa ngeGesi', uthe emhlabeni; kunye nombane ophethe irhasi, ovumela umkhanyi ukuba achaze {uluvo lwakhe ngokoqobo kuba umjongela phambili kwaye ufuna ukwamkelwa nguye. ”
Ngaphaya koko, iZiko leSizwe elijongene nobuNdlobongela baseKhaya kunye nomnxeba osemthethweni woBundlobongela baseKhaya lithe, “Uninzi lwabantu abasindileyo abathe baxela amaqabane abo abahlukumezayo banegalelo elibonakalayo kwiingxaki zempilo yengqondo okanye ekusebenziseni kwabo izinto bathi amaqabane abo asoyikisa ukusebenzisa ubunzima okanye ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi ngokuchasene nabo. nabasemagunyeni ababalulekileyo, abanjengabaqeqeshi bezomthetho okanye bokugcina abantwana, ukubathintela ekufumaneni ilungelo lokugcina okanye ezinye izinto abazifunayo okanye abazifunayo. ”
Ukukhanyisa ngegesi kubangela ukungazithembi kunye nokungaqondani kwengqondo.
Ke, ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubone ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zilandelayo kwiqabane lakho.
- Abakhanyisi ngegesi bayazi ubugcisa bokukhanyela ngokucacileyo, ukuba babuzwa ngezenzo zabo njengokungathembeki
- Ukuhlazeka okungacacanga kunye nokungasebenzi ngokweemvakalelo zizixhobo ezisetyenziswa ngabakhanyisi begesi ukuvala amaqabane abo phantsi kunye nokunyanzelisa izityholo zabo
- Ukuphepha ukuphendula ngezenzo zabo ngokujongela phantsi amaqabane abo, kunye
- Kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu, i-Gaslighters iyakwazi ukuqhuba amaqabane abo ukuba azibulale
Ukuphilisa ngokukhanyisa ngegesi akukho lula kwaye kukho amaqhinga athile okuphumeza umsebenzi onamandla onje.
Ngaba ii-narcissists ziyazi ukuba ziyakhanyisa ngegesi?
Ukuba uyayiqonda ipateni yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwezibane, kodwa kungenxa yokuba banokungazi, oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uyinyamezele.
Ukuba ubona imiqondiso efihlakeleyo yokukhanyisa ngegesi xa ungena kwingxabano neqabane lakho, kufanelekile ukuba uvuleke, ubafundise ngokukhanyisa ngerhasi kwaye ubatshele ukuba ikwenza uzive njani. Ukuba bayayiqonda into abayenzayo, banazo nezixhobo zokwenza utshintsho.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufumana inkqubo yokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo, kufanelekile ukubona umcebisi womtshato kwaye uzibonele ngokwakho ukuba ngaba le nto ingasombululwa okanye ishiye ubudlelwane, ngakumbi ukuba iyonakalisa impilo yakho yengqondo.
Ndijongana njani nokukhanyiswa kwegesi kweqabane lam?
Ukuba ukhanyiselwa irhasi liqabane, kuhlala kuluncedo ukubeka umgama phakathi kwakho kunye nokuphathwa kwengqondo abakwenzayo.
Thatha uhambo nabahlobo okanye uchithe ixesha nosapho kwaye ngokuthatha ixesha ukubonakalisa, ungajonga ukuba uyafuna na ukusebenzisana neqabane lakho ukunqanda ukukhanyisa igesi kunye nokuthintela ukuxhatshazwa okungaphaya kwengqondo.
Ukuba kunjalo, khuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba lifune unyango. AbakwaNarcissists akunakulindeleka ukuba batshintshe imikhwa yabo ukuba baceliwe nje, baya kufuna unyango olunzulu ukuze batshintshe.
Inyathelo lokuqala lokuphelisa ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kukuqonda ukuba uyasetyenziswa. Kodwa xa sele uzibonile iimpawu, musa ukwenza nantoni na, lixesha lokuba wenze ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu, impilo yakho yengqondo.