Umxholo
- 1. Uziva ngathi usebenzisa iziyobisi
- 2. Uyayiqonda iminqweno yakho emitsha kwaye ubukhulu becala unabo malunga nabo
- 3. Awuva ntlungu
- 4. Ukwabelana ngesondo kwakho ngequbuliso eluphahleni
- 5. Uzibhaqa uncumile
- Uthando lubonakaliswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kwaye luziva lwahlukile kubo bonke abanye abantu
Uthando ngamanye amaxesha lunokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye ngakumbi xa ungaqinisekanga ukuba luyintoni utoliko lweemvakalelo zakho. Sikhula ngokuqonda okungafaniyo ukuba luyintoni uthando kunye nendlela abantu abathandanayo abaziphatha ngayo ecaleni kwabo babathandayo. Kwaye xa ixesha lethu lokuva nokunika uthando liza, kuvela iimvakalelo ezininzi.
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba uza kwazi njani ukuba uyathandana, ngekhe waqubisana nazo okanye okwangoku ubona izinto ezicelomngeni ukuqonda kwakho koqobo malunga nothando.
Ke, apha, sidibanise isikhokelo esihle kakhulu sokwazi ukuba uyathandana na. Sonke siyaluqonda uthando ngamanye amaxesha ukuba yinto esingazange sayicinga ukuba iyiyo, ngakumbi ukuba sisebenzisa uninzi lweesepha kunye neeDisney.
Uzifumana uzibuza ukuba ingaba ulungile na, awuqinisekanga ukuba uyitolika njani indlela abakuphatha ngayo okanye ngamanye amaxesha uzama nje ukuyidibanisa emva kwentliziyo.
Masifumanise.
1. Uziva ngathi usebenzisa iziyobisi
Kuninzi oku kuzwakala kumangalisa, kukho inyaniso efihliweyo kuyo.
Uthando ngamanye amaxesha lubonakalisa ngeendlela eziyimfihlakalo.
Ngamanye amaxesha xa uthandana (kwaye mhlawumbi kuwo onke amava akho othando), uthando lunokutyala imvakalelo kuwe engqina kuphela kubantu abanefuthe leziyobisi.
Uphando olwenziwe ngo-2010 yiYunivesithi yaseRutgers lubonakalise ukuba uthando lubangela iimvakalelo ezibonakala ngendlela efanayo neemvakalelo zokufumana phezulu. Ngokwabo, enye yeembono zendlela yokwazi ukuba uyathandana kukujonga olu hlobo lweemvakalelo.
Xa umthanda ngokwenene umntu, into ekuthiwa yi-euphoria ikhutshwa yingqondo yakho ekunceda ukuba uqinise iqhina owabelana ngalo nothando lwakho olunye njengoko uziva ezi mvakalelo.
Olu khululo lwenzeka amatyeli aliqela kumjikelo wakho wothando.
2. Uyayiqonda iminqweno yakho emitsha kwaye ubukhulu becala unabo malunga nabo
Xa oku kusenzeka, ayisebenzi kuphela kwiimvakalelo ezintsha ezichaza ngoku umhlaba wakho kodwa ikwagubungela eyona nto ikhoyo yokoqobo.
Itikiti elinye eliqinisekileyo lokwazi ukuba uyathandana kuxa ufumanisa ukuba utsaleleka kumava amatsha kunye nemibono engazange ikunike umdla ngaphambili.
Umzekelo -Ungaqonda ukuba uthenge amatikiti exesha lemidlalo yeqela lakho lasekhaya ngenxa yokudlala, kuphela ngenxa yokuba uthando lwakho olutsha luyayithanda ibhola ekhatywayo.
Inkcazo yodwa yezenzo ezinjalo kukuba xa ufumana uthando lwakho lokwenyani, ngequbuliso uqala ukujonga ngakumbi kunye nomdla kwizinto abazithandayo nabazithandayo. Uyonwabile ngokwenene.
Siyathandabuza ukuba ukhona umntu ongakuthandiyo ukufumana iindlela zokuzonwabisa ezintsha.
3. Awuva ntlungu
Oku kubandakanya iintlungu zomzimba (ababaninzi abayaziyo le nto)
Izifundo ezininzi zibonise ukuba uthando lungaphezulu kwesiyobisi kunokuba luluvakalelo olunamandla.
Xa inamandla, inokunciphisa iintlungu. Uphando oluxelwe yiNew York Times lubonise unxibelelwano olubalulekileyo phakathi kothando nentlungu.
Abafundi abali-15 abo bavumayo ukuba bayathandana baphantsi kolu phando. Iziphumo zibonise ukuba iimpendulo zabafundi kwiintlungu ziye zalibaziseka kakhulu kunokuba bekunokwenzeka kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo.
Omnye umbono owenziwe kwaye wakhokelela kwesi sigqibo yayikukuba ngelixa abafundi besenziwa ukuba bajonge kumfanekiso wamaqabane abo, ubushushu obufakwe ezandleni zabo abuzange bubangele iintlungu eziqhelekileyo.
Oku kunokuthetha ukuba kwixesha elizayo xa uthe wanqonqoza eludongeni okanye ukhubaza uzwane lwakho ngelixa ucinga ngeyona nto uyithandayo 'uthando lwenene,' kwaye awuva zintlungu, kuthathe njengophawu lokuba le nto inokuba yeyokwenyani.
4. Ukwabelana ngesondo kwakho ngequbuliso eluphahleni
Oku akufuneki ukuba kungabikho-brainer ukuze aqonde, kodwa kwakhona, ukuba nesidima kuyafuneka ukwahlulahlula kumcimbi omkhulu.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abathandanayo yeyona ndlela imsulwa yokubonisa uthando omnye komnye.
Xa ngequbuliso uziva ukonyuka kwesini sakho sokuqhuba kunye nomntu omthandayo kunokuba kwakunjalo ngomnye, kucacile ukuba luphawu lothando lokwenene. Kulungile ukudibanisa uthando kunye nokuzonwabisa, kwaye kuyindalo ukuba uyamkele.
Abasetyhini bahlala bengamaxhoba aphambili apha, nangona ikho kubo bonke abantu besini.
Bahlala bekhokela ipakethi ngokufuna ukusondelelana namaqabane abo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane obutsha.
5. Uzibhaqa uncumile
Le yeyona mvakalelo imnandi kakhulu.
Eminye imikhuhlane ephezulu apho inokuba mihle kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukubanjwa ngoncumo olukhulu lutyatyekwe ebusweni bakho nanini na xa ucinga ngothando lwakho olunye okanye xa ubona isicatshulwa kwifowuni yakho sesinye sezibonakaliso zokuba uyathandana.
Uthando lubonakaliswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kwaye luziva lwahlukile kubo bonke abanye abantu
Nangaliphi na ixesha uthandana, unokuqonda into ibe nye okanye zibe mbini ezizodwa, kodwa eyona mvakalelo iya kukutyhalela kumanqanaba amatsha.
Zininzi izinto ezidlala kumdlalo wokuthandana, isini, njl. Kodwa enye into ehlala iyinyani kuzo zonke iimeko kukuba, xa uqinisekile ukuba uthandile, amathuba okuba ulunge.
Nokuba yintoni eziva yahlukile inento ethile yothando kuyo.