Umxholo
- Ukudibanisa iziqwenga ezaphukileyo kunokuba buhlungu
- AmaNarcissist adlala umdlalo wecala kubudlelwane
- Kuthetha ukuthini ukunyaniseka?
- Uphi umgca wokunyaniseka?
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bangena emtshatweni kunye nolindelo lothando, ukunyaniseka, kunye nokonwaba ngonaphakade.
Ukuthandana kwakuyinto enxilisayo, umtshato, kakuhle, ubuthixo nje kunye nokuqala komtshato, kuthabatha ngokungaqhelekanga isivunguvungu sesigaba sasemva komtshato.
Ngokukhawuleza phambili kwiminyaka embalwa kwaye inqanaba lomtshato sele lifikelele esiphelweni, iifoto zomtshato ziyintsalela yebali elinokuthiwa, 'Oku kuya kuba kukufa kwam ”, Enenkwenkwezi yomntu ongaqapheli eluthandweni kunye narcissist abatshatileyo.
Ukudibanisa iziqwenga ezaphukileyo kunokuba buhlungu
Ndibona uninzi kulwenziwo lwam, uninzi lwabafazi, abaza kuhlala e-ofisini yam kwaye bazame ukubuyisa iziqwenga zebali ezazaphulwe kwasekuqaleni.
Bathetha iintlungu, ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo, ukuthandabuza, ukuthotywa kunye nokuziva benetyala. Umsonto oqhelekileyo olukiweyo phakathi kwaba bafazi bonke batshatile kwindoda enye. Ayisiyiyo eyona ndoda eyiyo, kodwa yi-narcissist ngokufanayo.
AmaNarcissist adlala umdlalo wecala kubudlelwane
Ukuphakama okungafaniyo, ubunzima obahlukeneyo, umsebenzi owahlukileyo, imoto eyahlukileyo, kodwa iingqondo ezifanayo, iindlela ezifanayo, amaqhinga afanayo okungasebenziyo, ikratshi elifanayo kunye nokusilela kovelwano.
La madoda, ngendlela eyiyo ye-narcissist, asola aba bafazi. Bayayigqwetha inyaniso ngenxa yenzuzo yabo enetyhefu, baziva benetyala ngokungekho sikweni, kwaye bayila kwaye bathethelele isenzo ngasinye esibi, nokuba sibachaphazela njani abantu basetyhini.
Benza konke ngelixa bevakala bengaphilile, lixhoba, bethe nqa zizityholo ezibekwa phambi kwabo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha ukhula ngobumfama bothando ukubona indlela uthando, ukunyaniseka kunye nokonwaba ngalo lonke ixesha oludlala ngayo.
I-narcissist inokukholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba zibanjiwe.
Inye into eqinisekileyo, bahlala bexhoba kwaye nguwe omele ukubulela ngobukho babo. Ufanele ubathobele.
Ukunyaniseka, nokuba ujongene nembambano kungokuchazwa.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukunyaniseka?
Impendulo ixhomekeke ukuba ubuza i-narcissist okanye elona xhoba.
Ukukopa nokukrexeza kunokuba yinto eyahlukileyo, ukuthanda umntu ngokweemvakalelo xa kuthelekiswa nokuthandana komzimba kunokuba yinto efanayo.
Konke malunga nokuyichaza. Inokuba yingxoxo ekufuneka yenziwe ngaphambi kwencoko nomcwangcisi womtshato.
Uphi umbindi? Okanye ngaba kukho into engalunganga okanye elungileyo?
Enye indoda inikezele kwiqabane layo, emva kokubanjwa kwiwebhusayithi yokubonisana, "yinto nje enxibelelana ngayo." Le ngxelo ilandelwe “akukho mihla, iintlanganiso zesidlo sasemini kuphela ”.
Uphi umgca wokunyaniseka?
Sonke sinolindelo malunga nobudlelwane.
Olo lindelo kufuneka luchazwe kwangoko.
Qiniseka ukuba awumfameki nje ngenxa yezo khemikhali zibangela ingqondo yakhondisemathandweni" imincili. Itshokholethi inokwenza into enye kwaye ayisoze yenze kakuhle ukuba incoko yokwenyani kunye nabani na okanye intlanganiso yesidlo sasemini.
Jonga imiqondiso yokuziphatha okunetyhefu ekushiya uziva ungalunganga hayi umntu owenze ulwaphulo mthetho.
Ukuba uzifumana ukule meko, zikho izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza-
- Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho. Umlingane wakho ngekhe atshintshe. Lixesha lesigqibo.
- Imalunga nokunyamezelana okanye ukwamkelwa. Ungahlala nantoni? Okanye ungayishiya ngasemva?
- Funda ukuzithemba. Nokuba oko kuthetha ukuthatha iklasi yokuqinisekisa. Gcina imali yakho ngokwakho.
- Yiba nenxaxheba ekujonganeni nokuziphatha okunetyhefu. Kukho iipateni. Sele ubazi.
- Zibeke kwindawo yokuqala, ngaphandle kwetyala.
- Kholelwa ukuba ufanelekile.
- Yenza idinga nomnyangi onokuthi akunike isikhokelo kunye nokucaca.
- Chaza ngokonwaba ngonaphakade emva kwegama lakho
- Yiya uphinde uchaze ubomi bakho.
- Yonwaba indlela yakho.