Umxholo
- Umbuzo omkhulu
- 1. Qaphela amazwi abo
- 2. Nika ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo zakho
- Ngaba kulungile ukuba ube yimvakalelo yokwenyani?
- Ukuziva ububudenge nokungoneli
- Uziva ngathi bayamunxa umoya uphume
- 3. Nika ingqalelo kwihambo yabo
- Iithagethi zokusola
- I-Narcissists kubuhlungu ukuba phakathi
Kutshanje, kuye kwakho ubundlobongela ngoososayensi bezentlalo ekuchazeni iminyaka eliwaka, kwaye kuyonwabisa kuba iminyaka millennials sisizukulwana sokuqala ukukhula ngemidiya yoluntu. Kwaye kukho abanye abathi, namhlanje, balebhelishe phantse nayiphi na iwaka leminyaka abadibana nayo njenge-narcissist, bejonga i-obsession millennials enee-selfies kunye nee-tweets.
Nangona kunjalo, akuzange kubekho sifundo esixhasa eli bango ngokupheleleyo, esishiya nombuzo osisiseko; umntu angamchonga njani umntu ongu-narcissist?
Namhlanje, awunakho ukuqikelela ukuba ungadibana phi narcissist. Inokuba naphina, ukusuka ekwenzeni abahlobo abatsha, ukufumana imihla emitsha, ukukhangela umsebenzi, ukujoyina iklabhu entsha yokuqesha abasebenzi abatsha ukuba bajoyine inkampani yakho. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba siqonde iiflegi ezibomvu ekufuneka sizilumkele xa sijamelene nabantu abaneengxaki zobuntu okanye iimpawu ezinamandla zokuziphatha kakubi.
AbakwaNarcissist bahlala bezicingela njengabongamileyo kunaye nabani na abathandana naye, bafuna ukunconywa rhoqo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, mhlawumbi bokuhlazisa esidlangalaleni ukuze bandise umfanekiso wabo.
Banokujongela phantsi kwaye bathuke, basilele ukubuyisela ingqalelo okanye baphulukane nomdla kuwe.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ii-narcissist emsebenzini zinokuchitha ixesha elininzi zincokola noogxa babo ngenjongo yokubancoma, ukuthatha ikhredithi ngomsebenzi womnye umntu kunye nokwenza izithembiso abangasokuze bazigcine.
Xa besuphavayiza, kunokwenzeka ukuba bakuxhaphaze phambi kwabanye okanye naxa uwedwa.
Umbuzo omkhulu
Ngayo yonke le mikhwa iyacaphukisayo yama-narcissist, umntu angabahlukanisa njani ukuba bayangena kubo?
Apha ngezantsi kunamanyathelo ama-3 okuchonga i-narcissist kunye nendlela yokoyisa ngokuchasene nayo, njengoko kucetyisiwe ngu-Bill Eddy LCSW, i-JD- igqwetha, umlamli, i-Therapist kunye nomseki-mbambisene kunye noMlawuli woQeqesho kwiZiko eliPhakamileyo leNgxabano.
UMthetho oYilwayo uphakamise indlela enamanyathelo amathathu ebizwa ngokuba yindlela yeWEB yokuchonga abantu abenza izinto ezibonisa uburharha- AMAZWI, IZIMVO NOKUZIPHATHA.
1. Qaphela amazwi abo
Kula manyathelo mathathu okuchonga isikhokelo se-narcissist, amagama aphezulu kuluhlu. Ukuba ukrokrela umntu ukuba yi-narcissist, jonga amagama abo-aqinisekileyo kwaye alungile, nokuba malunga nawe okanye abanye.
Eyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo yokuhamba ngamagama abo kukubahlula ngokwamaqela amane -
Amagama aqinisekileyo kakhulu (okulukuhla) Uninzi lwayo ngamagama athelekisayo ekufuneka elumkisile kuwe ukuba uya kuthelekiswa kakubi nabanye kamva.
Umzekelo - 'Akukho mntu wakuphatha ngcono kunam', okanye, 'Andikaze ndidibane nomntu omhle njengawe ".
Amagama amabi kakhulu (ahlazisa) -Lapha, uya kuqaphela ukonwaba okukhulu kubo kunye nokuswela uvelwano, nakwezona meko zincinci. Baza kuthi - 'Lo mntu phaya uphulukene yokwenyani', okanye, 'Aba bantu abanakububona ubukrelekrele kwanaxa bebajongile ebusweni'.
Amagama abonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba akukho luvelwano okanye umdla kuwo wonke-Oku kuqheleke kakhulu kumnxibelelanisi. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazukubonisa ukwamkelwa kwenkxalabo yakho okanye ubukho, ngakumbi xa ubaxelela malunga namava amabi okanye ukuba semngciphekweni malunga nawe. Banokuphulukana nomdla ngokukhawuleza bacinge ukuba bakufumene.
Amagama amaxhoba-Uya kuqaphela ukuba ii-narcissists zihlala zizibona ziphezulu kwaye, kwangaxeshanye, zihlala zingamaxhoba. Babandezeleka yinto ebizwa ngokuba kukulimala kwe-narcissist -imeko apho i-narcissist ibonakaliswe njengongaphakamanga konke konke. Luhlobo oluya kuhamba ixesha elide kwaye lude luzame ukuzibonakalisa xa laliwe isikhundla sokuxhasa omnye umntu osebenza naye.
2. Nika ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo zakho
Inqanaba lesibini kula manyathelo mathathu okuchonga isikhokelo se-narcissist ziimvakalelo zakho.
Nika ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo zakho njengoko unxibelelana nomntu onokubakho we-narcissistic. AbakwaNarcissists baya kukubeka kwimeko ezintathu ezinokubakho ngokweemvakalelo njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngezantsi.
Ngaba kulungile ukuba ube yimvakalelo yokwenyani?
Olu hlobo luya kuhlala lukutshayela ezinyaweni zakho ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele.
Uziva ukuba bahle kakhulu kuwe, uziva uchukunyiswa ngendlela emangalisayo kwaye uyathandwa. Ufumana imvakalelo yovuyo, kwaye ngequbuliso uyaqonda ukuba zilunge kakhulu ukuba zingayinyani.
Umqondiso omkhulu wokulumkisa.
Loo mtsalane ngumqondiso osisilumkiso kuba abantu abancomekayo ngokungenasiphelo abasoloko bebonakala benjalo. Kungenzeka ukuba ngamanye amaxesha bayathandeka kuphela. Kodwa, ngamanye amaxesha, isenokuba kukutsala ngobuqhetseba ngumnxibelelanisi oza kuthi kungekudala aye emntwini olandelayo ukuze abancome kwaye bakhe ukuzithemba kwabo ngokuphumelela.
Ukuziva ububudenge nokungoneli
Ukuba ayikwenzi ufumane uvakalelo 'olulunge kakhulu ukuba lungaba yinyani', abanye abenza izinto ezingekho mgangathweni baya kuba bexakekile bezikhukhumalisa bengazi ukuba babeka umntu othile kwinkqubo.
Oku kuyindalo kubo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, awuyi kuyiqonda kwimeko yokuqala, emva koko ubuyele ezingqondweni zakho kamva njengoko ukhulisa ukuzithemba. Uqala ukuzibuza ukuba bacinga ntoni ngawe, qala ukubuza ukungabikho komthetho kwiligi yabo.
Uziva ngathi bayamunxa umoya uphume
Ukuba awukadibani nenye okwangoku, kungekudala uza kudibana naloo mntu usoloko 'etsala ioksijini ngaphandle kwegumbi.'
Kuqhelekile kuyo yonke i-narcissist.
Baya kuhlala beqhubela incoko kubo kungakhathaliseki ukuba abanye bathini okanye bacinga ntoni.
3. Nika ingqalelo kwihambo yabo
Okokugqibela, kula manyathelo mathathu okuchonga isikhokelo se-narcissist, jonga indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Nika ingqalelo ngakumbi kwizinto abazenzayo ngaphezu kwezinto abazithethayo.
AmaNarcissist akrelekrele kangangokuba aya kwenza amagama amaninzi anokukuphazamisa kwaye azame ukwenza isimilo sabo esinganyanzelekanga. Ukuba uza kujongana ne-narcissist, unokuqiniseka ukuba ungaphela ukhathazekile kwaye udiniwe.
Abaze babonakalise isimilo sabo esibi, kwaye konke abakwenzayo kukukhusela ngokukuko kwaye bakugxeke ngokubuza ubuntu babo bangaphambili.
Kungcono ungawahoyi amazwi abo.
Iithagethi zokusola
Enye indlela ephantsi kwendlela yokuziphatha ekufuneka beyilumkele kukuba ama-narcissist afumana kangaphi na ekujoliseni ityala xa besilela ukufezekisa into, okanye kukho into engahambi kakuhle kubo.
Baza kususa ityala kuwe kwaye bakugxeke kakhulu nakwinto engekhoyo okanye eyenziwe ngomnye umntu (okanye ngokwabo). Baza kuhlala befumana umntu oza kuvala ngecala nanini na xa bephazamisa izinto.
Oku kwenzeka ngokwesiqhelo, ngakumbi ngabantu abalwa neengxabano eziphezulu.
I-Narcissists kubuhlungu ukuba phakathi
Kuyinyani, ii-narcissists zibuhlungu ngokwenene ukuba phakathi kwazo, kwaye zinokwenza ubomi bakho bube noxinzelelo ukuba awazi ukuba ungayibona njani kwaye woyise.
Esi sikhokelo kumanyathelo amathathu okuchonga i-narcissist iluncedo ngakumbi kubantu abafuna ubudlelwane obutsha, bezimisele ukutshintsha imeko okanye barhanela umntu osondeleyo kubo ukuba abe ngumchasi.
Jonga ukuba zithini izinto ezenziwa ngabakwa-narcissist (amagama abawasebenzisayo), iimvakalelo abazivusayo kuwe kwaye okokugqibela, naka ingqalelo kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo phakathi kwabantu.