Umxholo
- Ulwalamano lwabazali lunokubachaphazela njani abantwana bakho
- Imodeli yabazali yenza wonke umahluko
- Yahlula umsebenzi ngokulinganayo
- Zichaze ngokunyanisekileyo iimvakalelo zakho
- Bonisa uthando
Njengokuba besicinga ukuba nabantwana, mna nomfazi wam savumelana ukwenza nantoni na eyimfuneko ukugcina umtshato usempilweni, ngakumbi phakathi kweengxaki ezingalindelekanga. Ngeli xesha siqala ukwamkela abantwana bethu ekhaya, sasisele sikulungele ukubanika isiseko esomeleleyo somtshato wethu ohloniphekileyo nothando.
Ulwalamano lwabazali lunokubachaphazela njani abantwana bakho
Ukuzinikela kwethu ngokuqinileyo kulwalamano lwethu kwakukhuthazwa lulwalamano esalubonayo phakathi kwabazali bethu kunye neminye imizekelo ebalulekileyo ebomini bethu. Ndikhulele kwikhaya eliqhele ukwenziwa ngokwesiko, ngoyena tata wayefumana umvuzo kwaye umama wayehlala nathi bantwana.
Ngokubanzi, ikhaya lam lobuntwana lalonwabile; Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezithile kusapho lwam kwikhaya lobuntwana apho mna nenkosikazi yam savumelana ukuba ayinandawo kusapho lwethu lwexesha elizayo.
Umfazi wam ebuntwaneni wayengonwabanga. Abazali bakhe babedla ngokulwa kakhulu, kwaye ngelixa kwakungekho kuxhatshazwa emzimbeni, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemphefumlweni nangokweemvakalelo ababephathana ngako kwaba negalelo elibonakalayo kumfazi wam nakubantakwabo.
Nangona kunjalo, unkosikazi wam wayezimisele ukuwophula lo mjikelo ukuze abantwana bethu bangaziva iimvakalelo ezimbi awayeziva. Senze intlonipho ngawo onke amaxesha ilitye lembombo lomtshato wethu.
Yintoni efundwa ngabantwana emtshatweni wakho ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ishiya uphawu olungacimiyo kubo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kunyanzelekile ukuba uliphathe ngendlela exabisekileyo iqabane lakho.
Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, uphando luqinisekisile ukulumkisa kwethu, njengemeko ebizwa ngokuba ngumntwana ochaphazeleka kukudakumba kubudlelwane babazali (CAPRD), yongezwe kwiDSM-5. Njengokuba abaninzi besazi kangangeminyaka, ukubukela abazali kubudlelwane bembambano kunokukhokelela abantwana kwezi:
- Phuhlisa imiba yokuziphatha okanye yokuqonda
- Izikhalazo zeSomatic
- Ukwahlukaniswa kwabazali
- Ukungqubana kwangaphakathi kokunyaniseka
Imodeli yabazali yenza wonke umahluko
Isilumkiso esibuhlungu ecaleni, zininzi iindlela abazali abanokuthi babonise indlela yokuziphatha efanelekileyo kunxibelelwano lwabo. Kubalulekile ukulandela iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuphatha iqabane lakho ngentlonipho.
Ezinye zezinto abazali abanokuzenzela omnye nomnye ezifundisa abantwana babo izifundo ezibalulekileyo zezi:
Yahlula umsebenzi ngokulinganayo
Ndisebenza ekhaya, kwaye ishedyuli yomsebenzi womfazi wam iyahluka ngokuxhomekeka kwixesha lonyaka. Ke, omnye umsebenzi endiwuthathe ngokupheleleyo ukwenza konke ukutya, kubandakanya nokupakisha isidlo sasemini sosapho.
Nangona ndingazange ndibenalo ithuba lokupheka de ndiye ekholejini, ndiyonwabele ngokwenyani ngokwenzela usapho lwam ukutya kwaye noonyana bam banokubona ukuba amadoda okwenyani enza oko kufunekayo. Umfazi wam uphatha izitya, kwaye yonke eminye imisebenzi yenziwa ngendlela efanayo, enceda abantwana bethu ukuba baqonde ukuba mna nomama wabo silingana ngokulinganayo.
Zichaze ngokunyanisekileyo iimvakalelo zakho
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali baya kuziphosa iindawo ezibuhlungu zomnye komnye, ngokubanzi ngaphandle kweenjongo ezimbi. Ndiyenzile le nto ngenye imini ngexesha lesidlo sangokuhlwa, ndenza amagqabantshintshi ngakwicala elibuhlungu kwiimvakalelo zomfazi wam.
Endaweni yokuba angandihoyi enze ngathi yonke into ilungile okanye aqhume, umfazi wam waphendula ngokulula esithi le ndiyithethileyo imvisa ubuhlungu kwaye wabuza ukuba bendithetha ngale ndlela bendiyithethe ngayo na. Ngokwemvelo, andizange, kodwa nangona ndandingazimiselanga, ndaye ndaqinisekisa ukuba ndiyaxolisa ngokwenzakalisa.
Abantwana bethu basibonile sinxibelelana ngale ndlela ivulekileyo nethembekileyo kubo bonke ubomi babo, kwaye bayibuyisa loo nto ngokungafihlisiyo kwindlela abanxibelelana ngayo nathi nabahlobo babo. Ngelixa ingengabo bonke abahlobo babo abakwaziyo ukusingatha unxibelelwano oluthe ngqo, uninzi lwalunjalo, kwaye abantwana bethu bakwazile ukonwabela ubuhlobo obunempilo.
Bonisa uthando
Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba abantwana bakho banokukhetha ukungavisisani phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho, ndincoma kakhulu ukuba ufumane umcebisi olungileyo ngomtshato. Umfazi wam kunye nam sikwazile ukusoloko siphucula indlela thina singabazali ngayo kwaye sigcina ujoliso lwethu emtshatweni nakusapho lwethu ngoncedo lomcebisi wethu, kwaye ndiyakholelwa ukuba nabaphi na abazali abazinikeleyo banokufumana indlela yokusebenza kunye ngenxa yosapho lwabo.