Umxholo
- Ngaba ukulahleka kwakho kujongeka njani?
- Ke kutheni sizilahlekela kubudlelwane bethu?
- Ungazifumana njani kwakhona
Kukho into malunga nokulahleka kwakho kubudlelwane obungabonakaliyo njengoko kuvakala. I-brain-brainers kunye ne-pragmatists banokuthi: “Ungalahleka njani? Ulapho kanye. ”
Ukuba ukhe wayifumana kodwa, uyazi.
Kungathabatha ixesha ngaphambi kokuba uyiqonde. Inokukubetha ebusweni ngequbuliso njengetoni yezitena. Okanye isenokukukhathaza yonke imihla, ukuhlebezele endlebeni yakho "ayisiyiyo le nto uyiyo".
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ukuphulukana nobudlelwane yindlela eyingozi enokuthi ikhokelele kubomi obungenamandla, ukungoneliseki, kunye namava obomi.
Ukungabi namandla kwaye ungonelisekanga.
Ngaba ukulahleka kwakho kujongeka njani?
Nangona kuyinyani ukuba ukulahleka kwakho kubudlelwane akuthethi ukuba ujike ube sisiporho okanye ushiye umzimba wakho, oko kuthetha ukuba ulahle unxibelelwano lwakho ngaphakathi-ngakumbi kwiminqweno yakho, iimfuno kunye neemfuno ezikwenza ube umntu owahlukileyo.
Nazi iimpawu ezithile zokuba ulahlekelwe luqhagamshelo lwangaphakathi kuwe kubudlelwane bakho:
- Uhlala usenza, ucinga, kwaye unxibelelana ngeendlela oziva ngathi iqabane lakho liza kuyamkela kwaye linqwenele endaweni yokuba ube yinyani, uyinyani.
- Uhlala uzityeshela iimfuno zakho kunye neminqweno yakho kulwalamano.
- Uyabona ukuba ubudlelwane "bukuhlisa".
- Uhlala ujonga kwiqabane lakho ukukuzisela ulonwabo endaweni yokujonga ngaphakathi ukuze waneliseke.
- Uphulukana nomdla kwizinto ozithandayo, iinjongo kunye namaphupha kwaye unike ingqalelo ngakumbi kwizinto ozithandayo kunye neenjongo endaweni yoko.
- Awonwabanga ukuba wedwa kwaye ukhetha ukuchitha ixesha kunye neqabane lakho, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba uhlala usenza izinto ezingahambelani nawe.
Ke kutheni sizilahlekela kubudlelwane bethu?
Ukufunda olu luhlu lungentla kuyavakala kuyinto eyoyikisayo kwaye kubuza lo mbuzo: Kwenzeka njani oku? Kutheni uzilahlekela kubudlelwane?
Impendulo sisiQhoboshelo.
Unamathele kwiqabane lakho kwaye ulikhoboka labo phantsi kokuhanahanisa ukuba banokugcwalisa into engenanto ngaphakathi kwakho.
Iimfundiso ezininzi zokomoya zithi le mvakalelo ingenanto yaqala ekuzalweni. Waziva uphelele kwaye ugqibelele esibelekweni sikaMama wakho, kodwa xa wawuzayo emhlabeni kwafuneka wohlukane nale mvakalelo yokuziva uphelele (ngamanye amaxesha eyaziwa ngokuba 'bubunye') kuphela ukuze uchithe ubomi bakho bonke ukhangela ubugqwetha kwakhona.
Ke elona candelo linomdla lokuncamathisela kwiqabane lakho yinyani yokuba umnqweno awukho malunga nabo. Imalunga nawe.
Nguwe ofuna into evakalayo kwaye uleqe olovakalelo.
Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho likwenze waziva umangalisa ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho. Uziva ufunwa, unqweneleka, uthandwa kwaye uphelele. Ke, njengamakhoboka eziyobisi ajika ezeba ukuze axhase umkhwa wawo, uqhubeke nokuleqa loo mvakalelo imangalisayo nangona yayingasekho. Uqhubeke ubaleka uye kwiqabane lakho ucinga ukuba baya kukuzisela uluvo oluhle kwakhona xa ubusabaleka usiya kude kwaye ukude nawe.
Usenokuba uthathe umkhwa wokwenza ngeendlela ocinga ukuba abanye bafuna ukuba uzenze kubudlelwane bakho nabazali bakho (okanye abakhathalelayo) kubuntwana.
Mhlawumbi esemncinci kakhulu uthathe isigqibo sokuba uya kwenza nantoni na ukukholisa abazali bakho-kubandakanya nokucacisa ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwakho oluthandayo kwaye lukuvuyela kakhulu. Ufundile ukudlala indima kwabo basondeleyo kuwe ukuze uphumelele uthando lwabo endaweni yokuba nguwe, kwaye le ndlela yokuziphatha iphindaphindwe kubudlelwane bakho.
Enye inkcazo yinto esiyibiza ngayo kwicandelo leengqondo "Isinamathiselo esingakhuselekanga". Oku kuthetha ukuba umnakekeli wakho ophambili khange akwazi ukuhlangabezana neminqweno yakho eyahlukileyo kunye neemfuno zomzimba okanye zeemvakalelo xa wawuselusana.
Ubunokutyiswa ngokungqinelana neshedyuli (okanye mhlawumbi neshedyuli “yengcali”) endaweni yokuba ulambe. Okanye mhlawumbi ubunyanzelwa ukuba ulale ngentsimbi yesi-7 ngokuhlwa yonke imihla, nokuba udiniwe okanye akunjalo.
Mhlawumbi wawungenakho ukukhetha ukuba yeyiphi impahla oyinxibileyo imihla ngemihla. Ukusuka kwezi ntlobo zeziganeko, wafunda ukukhawulelana neemfuno zakho kunye neminqweno yakho kubanakekeli bakho nakwabo ubathandayo.
Kungenzeka ukuba awuzange unikwe indawo yokuchaza iimfuno zakho. Ngenxa yoko, ubangenise ngokungathandabuzekiyo kubazali bakho, woyika kakhulu ukuba (okanye uzikhathalele) ngokwakho, emva koko "uphinde wenze" okanye uphinde le patheni kubudlelwane bezothando kamva ebomini.
Ungazifumana njani kwakhona
Ngoku ukuba uqonda ngakumbi malunga nokuba kutheni uzilahlekele kulwalamano lwakho, kucela lo mbuzo: Unxibelelana njani neemfuno zethu zangaphakathi ukuze uphinde uzifumane?
Uyaziqhelanisa.
Ziqhelanise nokunxibelelana nawe kwaye uqhagamshele kwiimfuno zakho yonke imihla.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso kunye nezixhobo onokuthi uziqhelanise ukuzifumana kwakhona:
- Zibuze yonke imihla, "Yintoni endiyifunayo namhlanje?"
Zijonge ngokwakho malunga nemisebenzi yosuku kubandakanya ukuzondla, ukuya emsebenzini wakho, ukunxibelelana nabanye, ukusebenza, okanye ukuzondla:
- Unokuziva uswele ukusela kuphela i-smoothies yeziqhamo yosuku okanye ukuba kufuneka uzonwabise kwesaqhekeza sekhekhelethi.
- Kuya kufuneka uthathe ikhefu emsebenzini ukuze ufike elunxwemeni, okanye ubeke usuku lweeyure ezili-12 ukuze ugqibe umsebenzi.
- Kuya kufuneka ubize umhlobo wakho osenyongweni okanye ucime ifowuni yakho.
- Okanye mhlawumbi ufuna iklasi ye-yoga ye-kick-ass sweaty, ibhafu, ukulala, okanye iyure yokucamngca.
Thatha ixesha lokuzimamela ngokwenyani ngokwento onomdla kuyo, ngaphandle kweemfuno zeqabane lakho okanye uziva ngathi "kufanelekile" ukuba ukwenzeni. Yithembe imiyalezo yakho yangaphakathi ukuphuhlisa ingqiqo eyomeleleyo yesiqu sakho kunye neminqweno yakho.
Unokuziqhelanisa nokungena kunye nawe amaxesha ngamaxesha emini, "Yintoni endiyifunayo ngalo mzuzu?" Zithini iimfuno zam ngoku? Ndinqwenela ntoni? ”
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uhlala ubeka iimfuno zamaqabane akho ngaphambi kwezakho, yima ngokwakho kwaye ubone apho ubuncinci ungenza khona ulungelelwano kubudlelwane.
- Yiba ngumzali wakho
Ukuba owakho umzali akakwazanga ukuthobela kwaye aqwalasele iimfuno zakho kwaye ujonge kwiqabane lakho ukuze ufumane ulwalathiso, qala ukuba lapho ngokwakho ngendlela ongathanda ukuba 'uMzali oLungileyo' abekhona. Ukuba ungangumzali oLungileyo, uya kwenza ezinye zezi zinto zilandelayo:
Zinike indawo yokujonga ubomi. Zazise ngomsebenzi owenze kakuhle. Yiba nemfesane yokwenene kuwe. Zithande ngokungenamthetho.
Zazi kwaye uphendule njani kuBomi. Wazi amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka bakho. Yiba ngoyena mmeli wakho ubalaseleyo. Mamela kwiimfuno zakho kwaye uphendule ukuzifezekisa ukuba zikwimfuno yakho. Zibonise ukuba ukhetheke kangakanani. Zixabise kwaye ubhiyozele izipho zakho.
- Yiba sithandwa sakho
Endaweni yokuhlala ujonge kwiqabane lakho ukuze likwanelise kwaye likufezekise, ziqhelanise nokuzanelisa. Zikhuphele kwimihla. Zithengele iintyatyambo. Chukumisa umzimba wakho ngothando. Yenza uthando kuwe iiyure. Mamela kwaye uzimamele. Yiba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Ziqhelise ukujonga abanye ukuze ufumane indlela yakho.
Esi sisixhobo esihle sokunxibelelana nawe ukuba ulahlekile ngoku kubudlelwane. Ungabugcina ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho kwaye kwangaxeshanye womeleze (okanye uqalise) ubudlelwane onabo nawe.Akakho omnye umntu onokusebenza kubudlelwane bakho nawe ngaphandle kwakho.
- Yiba nawe
Zibuze: Yintoni le ndiyithandayo ukuyenza, ngaphandle kweqabane lam?
Jonga iindlela zokuzonwabisa ezahlukeneyo kunye nemisebenzi. Chitha ixesha lakho ngokwakho ukuze uzazi kunye nezinto ozifunayo. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba kunzima ukuba kunye nawe, bambelela kuyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka uchithe ixesha uwedwa uzithiyile ukuze ufunde indlela yokuzithanda ngokupheleleyo kwaye uyonwabele inkampani yakho.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuba ulahlekelwa nguwe kubudlelwane bakho, ayilotyala leqabane lakho. Ayilotyala labazali bakho okanye abo bakukhathaleleyo. Benze konke okusemandleni abo ngento abayifundileyo okanye abayaziyo, njengawe.
Endaweni yokubeka ityala kwindlela oziphethe ngayo, ukuziqhelanisa nokuthatha uxanduva kuko konke ukukhetha ebomini bakho (uyazi okanye ungazi nto) ngaphandle kwesakhelo sezigwebo 'ezilungileyo' okanye 'eziphosakeleyo'. Yithemba ukuba ulahlekile ukuze ufumane isifundo sobomi esibalulekileyo.
Mhlawumbi uye waya kumava okulahleka ukuze uzifumane ngendlela enzulu ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
Ukuzazi nangakumbi.
Ukuzilawula ngakumbi.
Okokugqibela, ukuba okwangoku ukwibudlelwane obulahlekileyo kuwe, nguwe kuphela onokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uhlale kubudlelwane bakho okanye hayi. Ukuba udidekile okanye unomdla, themba elo xesha liya kukuxelela ukuba wenzeni. Kuhlala kuluncedo ekusebenzeni nonyango olunokukubambela indawo ngelixa ucacelwa kukukhetha, ke fikelela kumntu ohlangana nawe.
Khawukhumbule nje: ubudlelwane obuphilileyo buvumela ukuba ube ngakumbi, ungabi ngaphantsi.