Umxholo
- Nika isaziso kwangaphambili
- Khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo
- Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano
- Hlonipha ukuzimela kwabo
Kwiphupha elihlala lihleli, abantu abalingane bomphefumlo badibana, batshata, kwaye bahlala ngokonwaba ngonaphakade emva kwesivumelwano esifanelekileyo malunga nayo yonke imiba ephambili yobomi.
Yiyo kanye inkcazo ye "soulmate," akunjalo?
Inyani-njengoko kunokungqinwa nangubani na kubudlelwane ngalo naliphi na ubude bexesha- kukuba abantu baya kuvuma. Nokuba isibini simanyene kangakanani, ezinye zezihloko abangavumelani ngazo zinokwahlulahlula. Xa oko kusenzeka, kubalulekile ukufumana iindlela zokugcina umanyano lwakho kwanaphakathi kokungavisisani. Nazi izicwangciso ezine zokuxoxa ngezihloko ezinzima ngendlela ekusondeza kunye kunokuba zikutyhalele kude.
Nika isaziso kwangaphambili
Akukho mntu uphendula kakuhle kuhlaselo, nokuba ayiyonjongo yakho, ukuzisa isihloko esibuhlungu ngaphandle kwesaziso kwangaphambili zive Njengomnye kwiqabane lakho. “Isilumkiso” akufuneki sibenzima okanye sibe nzima - ukukhankanywa nje kwesihloko ngokukhawuleza kuya kwenza, ngokwaneleyo ukubazisa ukuba uzama ukufumana indlela yokuxoxa nzulu ngelixa uhlonipha inyani yokuba banokufuna ixesha nendawo yokulungiselela. Abanye abantu banokukulungela ukuthetha kwangoko, ngelixa abanye banokucela ukutyelela umxholo kwiyure ezimbalwa. Hlonipha isicelo sabo.
Zama: “Hee, ndingathanda ukuhlala phantsi ndithethe ngohlahlo-lwabiwo mali kungekudala. Yintoni enokukusebenzela?”
Khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo
Sonke sinamaxesha athile omhla apho iimvakalelo zethu- kunye namandla emvakalelo-zihlala zingcono kunabanye. Uyazi iqabane lakho ngaphezu kwakhe nabani na; khetha ukuya kubo ngexesha owaziyo ukuba lilungile. Kuphephe amaxesha xa yazi zidiniwe kwaye amandla abo emvakalelo sele ephelile. Kungcono nokuba nobabini ninokuvumelana ngexesha lokujongana nesihloko ukuze ibe ngumzamo weqela.
Zama: “Ndiyazi ukuba asivisisani ngokwenene ngenxa yabantwana, kodwa okwangoku sobabini sidiniwe kwaye sikhathazekile. Ungathini xa singathetha ngale nto kusasa xa sibukele ikhathuni? ”
Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano
Ukuziqhelanisa novelwano kuya kuthumela umyalezo okhawulezileyo kwiqabane lakho ukuba awujonganga kulwa, kodwa endaweni yoko uzama ukujongana nomba wakho kunye nazo zombini izinto onomdla kuzo entliziyweni. Khokela incoko ngokuxabisa imbono okanye isikhundla sabo. Oku akuyi kunceda kuphela wena ngokunika uvelwano lokwenene kwiqabane lakho, kodwa liyakubanceda ukuba bazive ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuzikhusela.
Zama: “Ndiyayiqonda ukuba uyabathanda abazali bakho kwaye bakwimeko enzima ngoku, ukuzama ukuqonda indlela yokulinganisa oko kunye neemfuno zosapho lwethu. Uxolo ujongene nalento. Masikucinge oku kunye. ”
Hlonipha ukuzimela kwabo
Ngamanye amaxesha, ngaphandle kwemizamo yabo emihle, abantu ababini abangavumelani. Ingakumbi emtshatweni, kunokuba nzima ukudibanisa into yokuba iqabane lethu linoluvo olwahlukileyo; Inokude yenze abanye abantu babuze ubunyani bemanyano yabo.
Khumbula oku, nangona: ngelixa umtshato ulwalamano olubaluleke kakhulu, abantu ababini kuwo baya kwenza njalo zilawule. Njengoko unelungelo lokufumana izimvo zakho, unjalo neqabane lakho. Kwaye ngelixa kusenokubakho amanqaku abalulekileyo empikiswano avelayo ainzuzo kwaye kwakhona, akufuneki zisetyenziselwe ukujongela phantsi okanye ukuthuka iqabane lakho.
Ekupheleni kosuku, umtshato awungowokulawula iqabane lakho ukuba libe nengqondo efanayo. Ulwalamano oluntsonkothileyo olufuna isixa esikhulu senhlonipho kunye nonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo. Xa imiba enzima yohlulahlula, fumana iindlela zokudibanisa; Nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba nobabini nigqibe kwelokuba nilandele iingcebiso malunga nobudlelwane bobuchwephesha kwaye nokuba isivumelwano sobabini asinakwenzeka.
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