Umxholo
- Ngoobani ii-narcissists?
- Kutheni le nto ii-narcissists zinetyhefu?
- Ngaba iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho li-narcissist ekuhlukumezayo?
- Ungamka njani kwi-narcissist?
Usenokuzibuza ukuba kwenzeka njani ukuba ixhoba lokuphathwa gadalala lingaboni kwaye libaleke, lingaze lijonge ngasemva! Kodwa, njengoko siza kukubonisa kweli nqaku, i-narcissists ngabantu abakhohlisayo, kwaye bathambekele ekufumaneni amaqabane anomdla wokunyamezelwa gadalala. Ngokwenyani, nabani na unokuba lixhoba lokuxhatshazwa. Kodwa, kukho amava athile obomi enza ukuba abanye kuthi babe sesichengeni sokuhlala kwindawo engafanelekanga ixesha elide. Ke nantsi indlela yokuqonda gadalala kunye nokuqokelela isibindi sokubaleka!
Ngoobani ii-narcissists?
I-narcissism ligama elisetyenziselwe ngaphezulu kwengqondo. Ngelishwa, abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba bayazi ukuba ngubani umntu ohambisa iziyobisi, kwaye bayangxama ekubhaleni umntu njengomnye. Oku kuphantse konakalise ngokulinganayo njengokungaqwalaseli i-narcissist xa beqala kancinci ukulawula ubomi bakho. Kuninzi onokukuqonda malunga ne-narcissism zombini njengokuphazamiseka kunye nophawu lobuntu (nangaphaya), kwaye ungayifunda le ncwadi ukuze uyiqonde kakuhle le nto, umzekelo.
Nangona kunjalo, ngamafutshane, i-narcissism inokujongwa njengokuqhubeka, nabantu "abazicingela bodwa" kunye nokuzicingela kwelinye icala, kunye noluhlu olupheleleyo lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwelinye.
Ayizizo zonke i-narcissists abahlukumezayo, nangona ziphantse zabanzima ngokukodwa ukubaphatha kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu.
Ngolwazi oluthe kratya malunga nokuphazamiseka kobuntu kwe-narcissistic, jonga eli nqaku. Kuyo, sichaza ngokweenkcukacha ukuba isifo sengqondo kunye nesayikholoji yanamhlanje ziyibona njani i-narcissism. Njengoko uza kufunda apho, kukho into efana nokuphazamiseka kobuntu.
Yimeko yempilo yengqondo ethathwa ngokuba inzima okanye ayinakwenzeka. Kukuphazamiseka kubomi bonke obunokulawulwa kuphela ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba (ukuba kunjalo) ukuba umntu uzimisele ukungena kulwazi lwabanye abantu kunye neemfuno. Eyona nto ihlala ingenzeki.
Kutheni le nto ii-narcissists zinetyhefu?
Kwii-narcissists, konke malunga nolawulo. Bafuna ukulawula zonke iinkcukacha zobomi babo, nayo yonke into ebachaphazelayo (nakwingqondo yomntu othanda izinto zoburharha, yonke into ibajonga). Kungenxa yokuba baxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo ekugcineni umfanekiso olungiselelwe bona, kungenjalo baya kuphambana. Kungenxa yoko le nto besenza ukuba wonke umntu obangqongileyo ahambe ayaphambana.
Kwelinye icala, i-narcissist ayinomdla kwaphela kwinto oyithethayo. Bakude kwaye bakude, nangona, ukuba inqanaba libekiwe ngokuchanekileyo, banokuzenza ngathi banomdla kuyo yonke into oyithethayo- ukuba ixhasa umbono wabo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, banamandla kakhulu xa kuziwa kwiimfuno zabo kwaye baya kufumana ubuso bakho nomphefumlo wakho ukufumana isiqinisekiso abasifunayo.
Baya ngokuthe ngcembe bakuqhubekekise ekubeni uzinikele kubo ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungabinanto iyenye. Xa bekuwe kwiwebhu yabo, nto leyo ethetha ukuba ukwenze uthandane nabo ushiye yonke iminqweno yakho, izinto ozithandayo, amabhongo, izihlobo, kunye nosapho banokuba novakalelo olukhulu (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha babaphathe gadalala).
Ngaba iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho li-narcissist ekuhlukumezayo?
Ukuba uyazibuza oko, banokuba kunjalo. Ukuba awuqinisekanga, ungafunda ngezinye zeempawu ze-narcissists kubudlelwane apha. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, konke malunga nazo, kwaye kuya kuhlala kunjalo ngazo.
Abaneentloni ngaphambi kokuba bakwenzakalise ukuze wenze kube lula ukulawula.
Abasoze bakuvumele ukuba ubagxeke kwaye baya kuba nomsindo ngaphezulu kwento encinci ukuba ayiyontando yabo.
Indlela yabo yokuphathwa gadalala kunzima ngakumbi ukujongana nayo kuba inokuba yinto ekholisayo.
Bafuna ukuziqinisekisa ngokwexabiso labo (nangona bezicekisile, kodwa abanakuze bavume kulo). Bayakufuna ukuba ube "ngokulinganayo" ngokugqibeleleyo njengoko benjalo kuba bekujonga njengolwandiso lwabo. Hayi ngendlela elungileyo. Bayakukhanyela yonke imfuno, bohlule kubo bonke abantu, kwaye bakugcine apho ukuze bakholise ubuqhetseba bobukhulu babo.
Ungamka njani kwi-narcissist?
Okokuqala, masijongane neendaba ezimbi kuqala-kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukwenza njalo! Kodwa, iindaba ezimnandi zi-ukuya kwinqanaba.
Okwesibini baphulukana nomdla wabo kuwe kwaye badlulele kwenye into (kubo, yile nto uyiyo), uya kukhululeka.
Nangona kunjalo, i-narcissist enyanisweni ayikhuselekanga. Kungenxa yoko le nto beya kuhlala bethe nca emntwini kwaye babenze bangakwazi ukuhamba.
I-narcissist iyakonwabela inkqubo yoqhawulo mtshato kuba eli linqanaba elifanelekileyo lokudlala nayiphi na indima abanokuyifumana ihlekisa ngelo xesha. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka uzirhangqele ngenkxaso, kokubini kusapho kunye nabahlobo nakwingcali. Lungiselela umlo omde, kwaye eyona ngcebiso ilungileyo yile- cinga ngeendlela zokubenza bakholelwe ukuba baphumelele. Emva koko baleka!