Umxholo
- Nokuba umtshato wakho ungasindiswa
- Lazi iqabane lakho
- Imeko yokwenyani yemali yakho
- Nokuba ungaphila ubomi ngaphandle komvuzo weqabane lakho
- Isicwangciso sakho B
- Amanqaku akho etyala
- Inyaniso ngoqhawulo mtshato
- Uza kuphulukana nabahlobo
- Nokuba bangakanani na ubudala, abantwana bakho bayakudinga
Bazali, ngakumbi oomama kufuneka baye kuluhlu lokutshekisha ngaphambi kokuba babhalisele into enkulu njengoqhawulo mtshato. Oku kuyakubanceda ukuba bahambe kwicala elililo kwaye babakhokelele kwinto abangazukuzisola ngayo kamva, ngakumbi ngenxa yokubandakanyeka kwabantwana. Apha ngezantsi luluhlu lokutshekisha oludingekayo koomama.
Nokuba umtshato wakho ungasindiswa
Ingavakala ngathi yeyakudala, kodwa ndiyakholelwa ukuba indlela eyiyo yokuhamba malunga nemeko yokuqhawula umtshato kukuqinisekisa ukuba kuphela kwendlela yokuphuma; esona sisombululo. Kufanele ukuba ibe yinto yokugqibela ocinga ngayo kuba emva kwayo (nayo, xa ungumama) kunokuba nzima kwaye kunzima ukuyilawula.
Ke, kungcono ukuba ungaluvumeli uqhawulo-mtshato lube sisisombululo sokuqala oya ngalo nanini na kusenzeka ungquzulwano. Zinike ixesha ubone ukuba izinto zinokulungiswa okanye hayi. Unokude ufumane neengcebiso zomtshato okanye unyango.
Lazi iqabane lakho
Le ngongoma yoluhlu lokutshekisha inokuvakala njenge-no-brainer kuba kunjalo, uyazi iqabane lakho, kwaye yingakho ubiza ukuba liyeke. Kodwa into ekufuneka uyenzile kukunika ingcinga yesibini. Mhlawumbi ayingabo abalingane abafanelekileyo kodwa ngabazali abalungileyo kubantwana bakho. Kwaye ngomzamo omncinci ovela kumacala omabini, ungonwaba kwaye ukhulise usapho oluhle ngelixa usebenza kwimicimbi yakho kwinkqubo.
Imeko yokwenyani yemali yakho
Ewe, ukusebenza kubudlelwane akusoloko kusebenza. Ke, ukuba ugqibezela ekukhetheni uqhawulo-mtshato ke qiniseka ukuba unolwazi oluchanekileyo ngalo lonke ilizwe kunye nemali. Ukuba ngumama, uyakufuna imali eninzi ukuthwala iindleko zekhaya uwedwa, ukuba uza kubagcina abantwana. Ulwazi oluthe kratya onalo malunga nezinto onazo kunye namatyala akho, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato lwakho luza kukuhambela kakuhle.
Nokuba ungaphila ubomi ngaphandle komvuzo weqabane lakho
Olu luqikelelo lwemali oza kuthi uyizise ukuba uqhawula umtshato, kwaye ube ngumama, usazi ukuba indleko zakho ziyakuba ngakanani. Ukuba awunayo ingeniso, kuya kufuneka ufumanise ukuba uza kuyinikwa inkxaso yomntwana okanye inkxaso yesondlo okwexeshana de ube uyakwazi ukuxhasa usapho lwakho.
Kuya kufuneka uqale ukhangele ukhetho lwengqesho olulungele wena.Ukuba iindleko zakho azilawuleki, kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuphuma ukuze uzifumane. Nokuba imeko yemali injani, kufuneka ube unolwazi olupheleleyo ngayo ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise igama elithi "uqhawulo-mtshato."
Isicwangciso sakho B
Ngeli xesha kuluhlu lokutshekisha, ndithetha ukuba, ngelixa inkqubo yakho yoqhawulo-mtshato isaqhubeka, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba uza kuhlala phi kwaye uza kuhlala phi. Uza kubaphatha njani abantwana bakho? Ukuba unethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo, iqabane lakho liya kuba negalelo kwinqanaba elithile xa kufikwa ekukhuliseni abantwana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba imeko imbi kakhulu, ayenzeki emva koko inyathelo lakho elilandelayo liya kuba yintoni? Zonke ezi zinto kufuneka zigqitywe kwangaphambili ukuze wazi intshukumo yakho kwaye wenze eyona ichanekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo ngexesha lenkqubo yoqhawulo mtshato.
Amanqaku akho etyala
Ukuba wabelana ngeeakhawunti zakho kunye neqabane lakho kwaye awuzange uzenzele igama ngetyala egameni lakho, lixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza lo msebenzi. Ukufaka isicelo samakhadi etyala egameni lakho kuya kuba lula kakhulu ngaphambi kokufaka uqhawulo-mtshato kunasemva koko kuba ngalo mzuzu iinkampani zekhadi letyala ziya kujonga umvuzo wakho odibeneyo (umvuzo wekhaya) xa umisela umgca wakho wetyala.
Ewe, ewe, awufuni ukwakha ityala kula makhadi akunika inkampani, kodwa ukuhlala unekhredithi ngalo lonke ixesha kunokukunika ukhuseleko lwezezimali olusebenza njengomsindisi wobomi kamva.
Inyaniso ngoqhawulo mtshato
Inyaniso ngoqhawulo mtshato kukuba nokuba uthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuyicwangcisa, kukho izinto ezingalindelekanga eziza kuthi gqi kwindawo engekhoyo kwaye iyakulibazisa yonke le nkqubo, uyitsale kwaye uchithe ngaphezulu kwezibonelelo zakho zemali kunokuba ubucinga njalo. Phakathi kwako konke oku kungxola, abantwana bakho baya kuva ubunzima. Kuya kufuneka unciphise inkcitho yabo ukuze ugcwalise inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato.
Bona, abantwana bakho, baya kuba phantsi koxinzelelo oluninzi kwaye baya kuva ubunzima nokuba bathe cwaka. Usenokungakwazi nokudibana nabo de kugqitywe uqhawulo-mtshato. Ke, kufuneka ube nesibindi ngokwaneleyo ukuze ujongane nale meko kwaye wazi ngentliziyo yakho ukuba ngabo abo uyenzela yonke le nto kwaye eli xesha linzima liya kudlula!
Uza kuphulukana nabahlobo
Inye into emiselweyo xa kuziwa kuqhawulo mtshato, kwaye ngabantu abathatha icala. Uyakuphulukana neqabane lakho, kodwa kunye nabo, uya kulahla uninzi lwabahlobo bakho. Abambalwa bayakukusola ngokuba ngumfazi ombi, umama o-lousy, kwaye nokuba ngumfazi ongalunganga ekukhetheni.
Bayakukusola ngayo yonke into engahambanga kakuhle. Kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba awungekhe unqande abantu abathile ukuba bacinge ngoluhlobo. Ke, mayibe njalo. Ungoyena mama ungcono, kuba oko kuya kwanela abantwana bakho. Zilungiselele amazwi arhabaxa onokuthi umamele.
Nokuba bangakanani na ubudala, abantwana bakho bayakudinga
Yimbono ephosakeleyo yokuba uqhawulo-mtshato luchaphazela kuphela abantwana abancinci kakhulu. Uqhawulo-mtshato luchaphazela abantwana abakubudala nobudala. Ingekuba bonke abantwana bavumela ukukhathazeka nokudakumba kuphume ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Abambalwa bahlala bethule ngelixa abanye bebonisa umsindo kunye namabanga aphantsi. Kukho nabo bawela kwimikhwa emibi (ukuhlala kude nekhaya, ukwenza iziyobisi, ukonakalisa izinto, njl.
Ukuba abantwana bakho bangabantwana, uqhawulo-mtshato luya kubachaphazela kakubi xa kuthelekiswa nabantwana abadala. Isizathu soku kukuba abantwana abancinci (abasaphila nabazali) batshintsha ngokupheleleyo ebomini babo. Indlela abaphila ngayo, indlela abadla ngayo, indlela abayilandelayo yesiqhelo, yonke into iyatshintsha ngenxa yoqhawulo mtshato. Yiyo loo nto bephazamiseka ngokwengqondo, kwaye njengomama, kuya kufuneka uyilungele.
Njengomfazi onabantwana, yiya kolu luhlu lubalulekileyo loqhawulo-mtshato loomama ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ululungele utshintsho oluza kuza neqabane lakho ebomini bakho nakumntwana wakho.