Umxholo
- Indlela yokujongana neengxaki kubudlelwane
- 1. Yeka ukuxabana
- 2. Lawula iimvakalelo zakho
- 3. Sombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane
- 4. Yiza nesisombululo
- Shift umbono wakho ngobulumko
Ukuba kubudlelwane unako kukwenza uzive ngathi uphezu kwehlabathi. Ukuba nomntu apho ukuthanda kunye nenkxaso kuyamangalisa. Ngelishwa, xa kuvela ingxaki, inokubeka umatshini kwizinto. Iingxaki zobudlelwane ziyenzeka.
Amaxesha ngamaxesha, abaphandi kunye neengcali baye bachaza Unxibelelwano ludlala indima ebalulekileyo kulungelelwaniso lwamanani olwalamano phakathi kwamaqabane. Kwaye enye ye imiba ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane inokunxulumana nokusokola okanye ukungabikho konxibelelwano.
Kwelinye icala, unxibelelwano olugqwesileyo lunokususa iingxabano phakathi kwezibini kunye nezinye iingxaki zomtshato. Kodwa kwelinye icala, unxibelelwano olunendelelo luyakwazi ukuphazamisa impilo kunye nentlalo-ntle yomtshato, ngaloo ndlela kunika ezinye iingxaki kubudlelwane.
Umphandi ngomtshato, uJohn Gottman ubeka uxanduva lokunxibelelana ngendelelo ngokwenza umonakalo ongenakulungiseka ngenxa yobunzima bobudlelwane, ogqiba uqhawule.
Kwaye into emangazayo apha ubudlelwane obubi bunokukhokelela kwimpilo embi.
Ukungavisisani kuyenzeka kwaye kwenziwa iimpazamo, kodwa indlela okhetha ukujongana ngayo nemicimbi yobudlelwane yeyona nto ibalulekileyo.
Nokuba uphi na umcimbi, nantsi Ukuba zisingatha njani iingxaki zolwalamano. Jonga ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo ukujongana neengxaki zomtshato.
Kwakhona, funda- Ungayisombulula njani ingxaki yakho yobudlelwane
Indlela yokujongana neengxaki kubudlelwane
Zonke izibini zahlukile, Ke wonke umtshato okanye ubudlelwane bunebali elahlukileyo abalibalisayo.
Ubume beDrafti yobudlelwane bohlukile, zinjalo iingxaki zobudlelwane.
Kuyinyani ukuba kuhlala abantu ababini nabanye, kokukhona kunokwenzeka mabazitshixe iimpondo rhoqo usuku ngalunye oludlulayo. Kodwa, uthando nomsa omnye uziva omnye anele ukuba Sula iingxaki zobudlelwane.
Kwakhona, funda- Indlela yokusombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane ngaphandle kokuqhekeka
Kodwa, kunyanzelekile funda iqhinga njani ukujongana neengxaki zobudlelwane njenge pro.
Ngoku, kukho iingxaki zomtshato ezithile ezinokuthi ziqhubeke zisiba mandundu ngokuhamba kwexesha. Imiba efana -
- Ukunqongophala kwezesondo / chemistry phakathi kwamaqabane
- Ukukopa nokuphonononga ezinye iindlela ngaphandle komtshato
- Iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuchitha
- Imicimbi engasonjululwanga yexesha elidlulileyo
- Ukungakwazi ukunxibelelana, njalo njalo
Kodwa, izibini zingasebenza kunye ukuya kwinjongo enye yokubeka izinto ngokulandela ezinye zeengcebiso eziluncedo kwiingxaki zobudlelwane.
1. Yeka ukuxabana
Ukuphikisana akusombululi nantoni na.
Ngokophando lwe-2019, iipesenti ezingama-20 zezibini zathi baphikisana namaqabane abo malunga nemicimbi yemali atleast kanye ngeveki.
Enjalo iingxoxo unako jika iingxaki zobudlelwane obuncinci ezinkulu. Ukuphatha ngokufanelekileyo imeko enzima into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile ndiyeke ukuxoxa. Endaweni yokuphikisana, isibini kufuneka sombulula ingxaki ngokuzola.
Kodwa, elinye icala lengqekembe lithi esi sibini silwa kunye sihlala kunye. Amaxesha amane umbhali othengisa kakhulu we-NYT, uJoseph Grenny uthi, "Impumelelo yobudlelwane ixhomekeke kwindlela ekuxoxwa ngayo ngemicimbi ethe-ethe."
Uyabona, ukuphikisana akulunganga konke, ukuba kwenziwe ngendlela efanelekileyo. Endaweni yoko, singayibeka ngoluhlobo-thetha ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuzola.
2. Lawula iimvakalelo zakho
Enye ingxaki enkulu yobudlelwane evuna ukuba nini amaqabane akakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo.
Isifundo malunga noMmiselo weemvakalelo ngexesha loBudlelane boBudlelwane beNgxabano bathi iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezivakala liqabane elinye zinxibelelene ngqo neemvakalelo ezingalunganga zelinye iqabane.
Iimpendulo ezingalunganga ngexesha lencoko zinokutsala amabinzana amabi ngokulinganayo kwelinye.
Ke, ngaphambi kokujongana nemicimbi (ngqo) ngqo, thatha ixesha lokulawula iimvakalelo.
Ukuvuma ukuyeka ukuphikisana kwaye uyenza zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Thatha ixesha lokuphola kunye nokuzola
Ukukhetha ukwenza njalo kububulumko kakhulu.
Ufuna uku jongana nemeko ngentloko yenqanaba.
3. Sombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane
Xa iimvakalelo ziphantsi kolawulo, ukulungisa iingxaki zobudlelwane nge unxibelelwano olusempilweni, enye ngexesha. Le yindlela ojongana ngayo nemicimbi yomtshato.
Ekuphela kwendlela yokuqalisa kukuthetha ngaphandle. Uphando luthi zine iindidi ezahlukeneyo zonxibelelwano kubudlelwane; elowo uza nesabelo sakhe esifanelekileyo seendleko kunye neendleko. Ngoku, kuxhomekeke kwizibini ukuba ziqonde loluphi uhlobo oluya kusebenza kakuhle phakathi ukusombulula ubudlelwane babo.
Omabini la macala anento yokuyithetha kwaye ezo zinto mazithethwe. Eli lixesha lokuba uvuleleke neqabane lakho kwaye uchaze indlela oziva ngayo ngaphandle kokungahloniphi okanye ukuphikisana.
4. Yiza nesisombululo
Emva kokuthatha ixesha lokuthetha, qala ngokusebenzela injongo enye, i.e. isisombululo.
Ngexesha elithile, umntu kufuneka athi, "Masiyisombulule le nto ukuze siqhubele phambili". Ukuba yinto engekhoyo, beka izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye uyiyeke ihambe. Ngokuphathelele kwiimeko ezinzulu ngakumbi, fumana isisombululo lonto isebenza kakuhle kuwo omabini amaqela.
Iingcali ezifana nesayikholojisti kunye nomqeqeshi wokuthandana, uSamantha Rodman uthi, "Xa ulele kamnandi ebusuku, ungayibona ngokulula imeko yeqabane lakho kwaye uvelane, oko kuthetha ukuba ekugqibeleni kuya kubakho."
Kodwa, abanye abaphandi bafumanise ukuba amadoda akanabuchule buncinci bokucinezela imemori engalunganga emva kokuba belele kunokuba babenjalo ngaphambi kokulala kwabo.
Ukuza nesisombululo esifanelekileyo ngaphambi kokuba ungene ebhedini kungasindisa ubudlelwane bakho ekuhleni. Oku kuya kwenzeka kubandakanya utshintsho ke zibophelele ekuthatheni inyathelo. Oku kuyakunceda ukusombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane kwaye kuncede umtshato wakho ukhule kwaye womelele.
Shift umbono wakho ngobulumko
Emva kokufikelela kwisigqibo, lixesha lokuba wamkelekile kwithemba lakho kwakhona kulwalamano. Phuma ngomhla, ugone esofeni okanye wonwabele ubusuku obusondeleyo kwigumbi lokulala.
Xa ujongana neengxaki zobudlelwane ngendlela esempilweni, Ukuqamba kuyamangalisa.
Ukutshintsha umbono wakho kancinci kwaye ukusingatha ubunzima ngobulumko can dlala indima ebalulekileyo ekugcineni umtshato wakho kunye nokuphucula kakhulu nawo.