Umxholo
Enye yeenzuzo ezonelisayo zobuhlobo kunye nothando ubudlelwane kukunxibelelana kwinqanaba elinzulu neqabane lakho okanye abahlobo.
Xa siluva unxibelelwano lwethu nabo sibathandayo, siziva sonwabe ngokupheleleyo ukuba ngumntu oxabisekileyo ophethe indawo ebalulekileyo emhlabeni.
Olu luvo lonxibelelwano yinxalenye yentlalo-ntle yethu. Isikhumbuza ukuba ubomi bethu bunenjongo; iyasikhusela kubulolo kwaye ingqina kuthi ukuba sonke siyinxalenye yosapho loluntu.
Ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yenkqubo yokuwa-eluthandweni, kwaye eyenzeka rhoqo ngokwendalo njengoko uchitha ixesha kunye neqabane lakho ulifumanisa kunye nendlela abalibona ngayo ilizwe elibangqongileyo.
Njengoko wabelana ngezimvo zakho, uluka olu nxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kubudlelwane, lolunye lweentambo zomfo olugcina ubudlelwane bakho bothando buzinzile kwaye bugcina bungabhabha kude kude nangamaxesha okungavisisani kunye namanye amaxesha angonwabisiyo awenzekayo yonke imitshato.
Kodwa uza kuthini ukuba unengxaki ekunxibelelaneni ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho?
Uyazi ukuba uyathandana, kwaye ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba olu thando luhlala lomelele. Uyazi ukuba uxhulumaniso lweemvakalelo emtshatweni kunye nobudlelwane lubalulekile nje ngokomzimba.
Ke, ungaqhagamshela njani neqabane lakho okanye ngakumbi ngakumbi indlela yokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho?
Zeziphi ezinye zeendlela onokuthi uqiniseke ngazo ukuba wenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba utyale, wondle kwaye utyekele kunxibelelwano lwakho lweemvakalelo kunye neqabane lakho ukuze lidubule kwaye lithathe iingcambu ukuze likuncede kwiindawo ezinokubakho ngexesha lakho ubomi kunye?
Jonga kwakhona:
Ukukunceda uqonde indlela yokunxibelelana neqabane lakho ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho ngokweemvakalelo, Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokudibana ngokweemvakalelo nomyeni wakho okanye umfazi.
I-Bond ngendlela esempilweni
Ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho kuqala ngebhondi, kwaye loo mbophelelo kufuneka yakhiwe ngendlela esempilweni. Nanga amanye amacandelo enza unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo olusempilweni:
1. Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano
Ukuzibuza, ungaqhagamshela njani neqabane lakho ngokweemvakalelo? Qala ngokufunda nokwenza uvelwano.
Uvelwano sisenzo sokuzibeka kwezinye izihlangu, zokubona izinto ngokwembono yazo.
Xa uvelana neqabane lakho, unxibelelana nabo ngokweemvakalelo kuba beva ukuba ubazi kakuhle, ungasebenzisa "amehlo nentliziyo" yabo ukujonga izinto ngendlela yabo.
Izibini ezinxibelelene ngokwasemphefumlweni zenza uvelwano kungekuphela ngabafazi babo kodwa nabo bonke abantu abahamba ngeendlela zabo mihla le: abazali, abantwana, abahlobo, oogxa, i-barista e-Starbucks ... wonke umntu!
2. Phulaphula ngenyameko
Ukumamela okusebenzayo kukudibanisa ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho njengoko kubonisa ukuba ubandakanyeke ngokupheleleyo kwincoko. Ukumamela ngokukuko kuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zomnye umntu.
Ukumamela, vumela iqabane lakho ukuba lithethe. Phinda into oyivileyo usebenzisa owakho amagama. Incoko malunga nemisebenzi yasekhaya inokujongeka ngoluhlobo:
Uye wathi: “Ndidikwe nyani kukuba ndim kuphela obonakala exhalabele ukugcina ikhitshi licocekile.”
"Ingathi awulufumani uncedo oludingayo ukuze ufumane ikhitshi."
Yena: “Unyanisile. Andinakuyenza yonke into ngokwam. ”
“Ndixelele ukuba ndingakunceda njani. Ungathanda ukuba sahlule umsebenzi wokucoca ekhitshini? ”
Ukumamela okungasebenziyo kuya kuba kukusebenzisa iimpendulo zamagama amafutshane ezinjenge-oh, ok, nokuba yintoni, kupholile, uh-huh.
La ngamagama nje okugcwalisa kwaye awabonisi ukuba uthatha inxaxheba kwincoko ngendlela enengqondo. (Ungasetyenziselwa ukuva ezi mpendulo zimfutshane xa uncokola nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo!)
3. Yakha imvumelwano kunye
Nokuba omnye kuni ungumondli wosapho, Ukuthatha isigqibo sendlela yokusebenzisa le mali kufuneka ibe sisigqibo esidibeneyo.
Nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokuncothula usapho ukuze ufumane umsebenzi ongcono okanye uphucule ikhaya lakho, ukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho nimamele izimvo zomnye kwezi zigqibo zinkulu nokuba kungoyena mntu ubatshatileyo emtshatweni.
4. Amandla ayalingana emtshatweni
Izibini ezinxibelelene ngokweemvakalelo zinebhalansi yamandla, kwaye zijongana ngokulingana. Ilizwi ngalinye linobunzima obulinganayo ekhaya.
Imiqobo kunxibelelwano lweemvakalelo
Kukho iindlela zokunxibelelana nezinye ezimi endleleni yokunxibelelana neqabane lakho, kodwa zonke ezi zinto zinokugqitywa ngomzamo othile wokuzinikela, ukubonelelwa mhlawumbi ngumntu wangaphandle onje ngengcali. Oku kubandakanya:
- Omnye wabantu kubudlelwane angaziva engonwabanga ukusebenzisa iindlela ezinje "ngokumamela ngokukuko" kunye "nokwenza uvelwano."
- Omnye wabantu kubudlelwane abanakukuthanda ukuvavanya iimvakalelo ezinzima kufutshane
- Omnye wabantu kubudlelwane unokucinga ukuba ukuchitha ixesha ekwakheni unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kuthatha amandla amaninzi
- Uhlobo lomntu lomntu kukuba "ngena ngaphakathi kwaye wenze umsebenzi" kwaye uyacaphukela ukuba ukudibanisa ngokweemvakalelo akukhawulezi kwaye akukho lula
- Iindima ezithile zithathile ukwakheka kwesi sibini, ngenxa yokuba umntu omnye ingulowo "unemvakalelo", kwaye omnye ingoyena “stoic, non-feeling”. Ukutshintsha kweendima kungumsebenzi onzima kwaye kufuna ukulungiswa kwezinto ezihamba nesibini.
Kule meko, Kubalulekile ukuba esi sibini sisebenzisane ukoyisa le miqobo. Ukuba abenzi njalo, ubudlelwane bunokusebenza, kodwa ngaphandle kobunzulu kunye nokwoneliseka kokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo.
Ubudlelwane obunqongophele kunxibelelwano lweemvakalelo bufana kakhulu nentsebenziswano, kwaye ayisiyiyo le nto ifunwa ngabantu abaninzi xa bethandana.
Nje ukuba ufumane izakhono zokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho, uya kufumanisa ukuba ukukwazi kwakho ukunxibelelana nabanye abakungqongileyo kuba lula, kuyindalo, kwaye kuyanelisa kakhulu.
Olunye uhambo oluqinisekileyo kukuziva ulilungu lokuba uya kuziva; imvakalelo yokubandakanywa ekukhuthazayo kwaye ikukhumbuze ukuba awuwedwa njengoko uhamba kwihlabathi.
Kwaye le yeyona njongo yokwenene yomtshato: ukudibanisa abantu ababini kunye kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo kwinqanaba ukuze babonelelane omnye nomnye ngemvakalelo yokuba ngabendlu kunye nokuziva bekhaya.