Umxholo
Ukusondelelana okwenyani nomnye kwenzeka xa siqwalasele, sikhululekile, kwaye ngalo mzuzu.
Uba yile nto uyiyo, kwaye neqabane lakho liye libe yile nto uyiyo. Nokuba usegumbini lokulala, kwindibano yosapho, okanye nixoxa kwifowuni- kunye, nenza umthendeleko. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba senza ukuba ubudlelane bube khona xa samkela kwaye siqhelisela izinto ezintlanu zobudlelwane-imbeko, ukuthembana, isibonelelo, ukuba semngciphekweni kunye nokubulela.
1. Imbeko
Jonga imbeko njengesiseko sakho. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, kuthetha ukuphatha iqabane lakho ngentlonipho, kunye nobubele. Ngaba oko kuvakala kucacile?
Nantsi into-ukuhlonipha iqabane lakho ngokwenyani, kufuneka ubazi ngokwenene.
Sidla ngokuthatha izigqibo malunga nokuba singabucebisa njani ubomi beqabane lethu ngokusekwe kwimbono yethu yokuba ngoobani-abanokubanjiswa-okanye into abayifunayo kuthi ngaphambili. Ngaba umbono wakho kwindlela yokubeka iqabane lakho ungaphelelwa lixesha?
Kuthekani ukuba uyaqala ukubakhona neqabane lakho? Kuthekani ukuba ukhetha ukumamela kwaye ufuna ukuqonda ngokumamela, ubuze imibuzo ... kwaye umamele ngakumbi?
Inqaku elikhawulezayo nelibalulekileyo-
Zihloniphe nawe-ziphathe ngentlonipho, nobubele. Le ayisiyiyo / okanye imeko. Ungayiqonda into oyifunayo ngexesha elifanayo naleyo ifuna iqabane lakho.
2. Ithemba
Ngokwesiqhelo, xa sithetha ngokuthembela kubudlelwane, sithetha ukuba siyamthemba omnye umntu akazukusenzakalisa okanye asicaphukise. Olu hlobo lwentembelo luxhomekeke kakhulu. Nantsi imbono eyahlukileyo-
Yithemba ukuba iqabane lakho liyazi ukuba lilungele ntoni.
Oku kuthetha ukuwamkela njengoko enjalo, hayi njengoko ufuna ukuba abenjalo. Ithemba lithetha kakuhle ngentlonipho, kuba kukwinkqubo yokubeka iqabane lakho apho ubona ukuba bangobani ngokupheleleyo.
Ungathini ukuba kwixesha elizayo xa iqabane lakho lisenza ukhetho ongaluqondiyo kwangoko, awubagwebi. Endaweni yokuba wamkele ukuba bayayazi ngqo into abayenzayo.
Isandi esikhohlisayo? Ifuna isibonelelo- masijonge kule ilandelayo.
3. Isibonelelo
Kwisibonelelo, yonke into eyenzekayo, nayo yonke into ayithethayo okanye ayikhethayo umntu inomdla. Nokuba awuvumelani nokukhetha komntu, awonzakalisi okanye ukhubeke. Kungenxa yokuba uya kude nembono yendlela elungileyo okanye engalunganga yokucinga, yokwenza, ukwenza okanye ukwenza. Ngamanye amagama, unyathela kumgwebo.
Ukukhetha ukunciphisa isigwebo, okanye ukusiphelisa ngokupheleleyo, kukhulula kakhulu.
Ubomi kunye nobudlelwane ngaphandle komgwebo bubanzi, buyanelisa kwaye buyonwabisa. Lo ngummandla omkhulu ukuba uziva unomdla kuwe, funda ngakumbi apha.
Nceda uqaphele, ukuba kwisibonelelo ayikwenzi ukuba ube ngumsondezo. Oko akunakwenzeka ngelixa uqhuba into yokuqala ethi 'ikuhloniphe'.
Ungathini ukuba kwixesha elizayo xa iqabane lakho lisenza ukhetho ongaluqondiyo, uyabathemba (njengakwicandelo lesibini) emva koko ubuze, "Ngoba?" Hayi ngendlela etyhola, kodwa ukuyiqonda ngakumbi nokwakha la manqanaba okusondelelana?
4. Ukuba sesichengeni
Siyakuphepha ukuba semngciphekweni kuba sisoyika ukuba xa sithatha imiqobo yethu, siya kusilela ngandlela thile kwaye mhlawumbi sishiywe. Ngokwenyani, indawo ethambileyo, ethembekileyo yokuba sesichengeni yintsimi egqibeleleyo yokwakha ubuhlobo.
Emngciphekweni, awuzenzi ngathi ucinga ukuba liqabane lakho ufuna ukuba ube ngubani. Endaweni yokuba ubavumele ukuba bakubone kwaye bakwamkele njengoko unjalo.
Ungathini xa uvumela iqabane lakho ukuba linibone nonke-nina ngaphandle kokwenza izinto, ngomhla onzima, wena xa uziva uphantsi?
Kwaye emva koko ... sukulindela ukuba bakulungise okanye uziva njani. Oku kukuvumela ukuba ufumane nantoni na abanokukunika yona, simahla kulindelo.
5. Umbulelo
Ukuthatha kwam umbulelo kukuba kukhulu ngakumbi kunothando. Uthando lusekwe ekugwebeni, kwaye ngaloo ndlela lunemiqathango. Le yinto efana nombono wendabuko wokuthembela.
Jonga oku:
Ndiyakuthanda kuba uyandihlekisa, uthenga izipho ezicingisisiweyo, kwaye wabelana ngomsebenzi wasekhaya kunye nokhathalelo lomntwana.
Thelekisa oku:
Ndiyabulela uburharha bakho obumangalisayo, ukukwazi kwakho ukukhetha isipho esifanelekileyo, kwaye ube negalelo ekuqhubeni kwendlu kunye nosapho lwethu.
Ngokongeza umbulelo, ezo ngxelo ziba yinto enkulu kakhulu. Ugxininiso namandla ayatshintsha ngokupheleleyo- ivulekile ngakumbi, kwaye ayinamida kwaye inemiqathango.
Ungathini xa ubhala uluhlu lwezinto onombulelo ngazo malunga neqabane lakho kwaye wabelana ngalo noluhlu? Ungathini ukuba wenze uluhlu lwezinto onombulelo ngazo ngawe, nazo?
Jonga ezi zinto zintlanu zibonelela ngendlela entsha yokuba kunye, ekuvumela ukuba wenze ubudlelwane bakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo nesipho kuni nobabini. Ukhethe omnye nomnye, kwaye ngoku, ngaba lixesha lokonwabisana?
Ngaba lixesha lokwenza into evuselelayo?