Umxholo
- Kutheni le nto iziyobisi zinomtsalane kwabanye abantwana hayi kwabanye?
- 1. Chitha ixesha nabantwana bakho
- 2. Mqeqeshe umntwana wakho, kodwa ngokufanelekileyo nangokwengqiqo
- 3. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba kulungile ukuba neemvakalelo
- 4. Yiba ngumzekelo omhle
- 5. Fundisa umntwana wakho ngolwazi olumalunga nobudala bakhe
Yinto nganye ekukhathazayo umzali malunga nendlela yokukhulisa umntwana ukuze bathi hayi kwiziyobisi kunye nezinye izinto eziguqula ingqondo. Umboniso bhanyabhanya wamva nje (kunye nebali eliyinyani) Inkwenkwana entle isibonisa umfanekiso owoyikisayo wokuba likhoboka labakwishumi elivisayo, apho inkwenkwe yakhe yaqala khona ukukhuhla intsangu eneminyaka eli-11 ubudala eyajika yaba likhoboka eliphantse lambulala amatyeli aliqela.
Yeyona nto imbi kakhulu yomzali eziswe kwiscreen. Kodwa nokuba ubukele imovie kunye nabantwana bakho, ucinga ukuba inokuba sisithintelo kulo naluphi na ulingelo lweziyobisi olunokubakho ebantwaneni bakho ukuba bahendwe, ngaba ukubona ukuba likhoboka elibukeka njani kuya kwanela ukunqanda umntwana wakho ekusebenziseni iziyobisi? Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, engqondweni yakhe, "wonke umntu uyayenza, kwaye akukho mntu wenzakalayo."
Iingcali ezisebenza ngemicimbi yokulutha, ngakumbi amakhoboka akwishumi elivisayo, bonke bayavuma ukuba eyona ndlela yokugcina abantwana bekho kwiziyobisi yimfundo yabantwana yasekuqaleni-imfundo ebandakanya ukuzithemba, ukuphucula izakhono ezivumela umntwana wakho ukuba athi enkosi ngaphandle kokuziva iintloni, kwaye bafuna ukwenza okona kulungileyo ngomzimba nengqondo yabo.
Umntwana onembono esempilweni ngobomi nakwindima yabo emhlabeni akalingani kakhulu ukuba ahendwe neziyobisi. Umntwana oziva enenjongo, intsingiselo, kunye nokuzithanda akanamdla wokuthatha konke oko kuhambo lwehhafu.
Kukho uphando oluninzi olubonisa ukuba imeko-bume ekhayeni lomntwana yeyona nto inefuthe ekuqinisekiseni ukuba ingaba umntwana uza kuba likhoboka leziyobisi.Ngelixa oku kufunyanisiweyo kunokuqinisekisa kubazali aboyikayo uxinzelelo loontanga kubantwana babo, kunokubangela uxinzelelo ngokubeka uxanduva olukhulu kwindima yabazali.
Abazali abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba zeziphi ezona zinto zibalulekileyo kunye nendlela yokugcina abantwana beyeka iziyobisi? Ngaba kufuneka babeke umda oqinileyo kunye neziphumo? Babandakanyeke kangakanani kubomi babantwana babo? Bamele babaxelele ntoni abantwana babo ngeziyobisi?
Kutheni le nto iziyobisi zinomtsalane kwabanye abantwana hayi kwabanye?
Uphando lucacile ukuba iziyobisi kunye neziyobisi luphawu lwentlungu enzulu. Abakwishumi elivisayo bahlala beqala ukuzama ukusebenzisa iziyobisi ukuze baziphazamise kwiimvakalelo eziphakamileyo neemeko esidlula kuzo sonke ngexesha lokufikisa. Bangena kule minyaka yesidubedube bengaxhotyiswanga kakuhle ukukhwela kumaqhuma anamatye ale ndlela yobomi. Bathatha ukubethwa okokuqala kwilungu lomhlobo, okanye baphunga umgca wecoke, kwaye ngequbuliso yonke into iba lula ukuhamba.
Kukho ingozi!
Endaweni yokufunda izakhono zokujamelana nezinto eziyimfuneko ukuze ube ngumntu omkhulu, umntwana okwishumi elivisayo ubuyela umva kwaye ephindaphinda kwinto ebavumela ukuba bangaziva.
Kufakwe iluphu yempendulo: amaxesha anzima -> thatha amachiza-> ndiziva ndikhululekile.
Ukuwuthintela lo mgibe, kuya kufuneka ufundise umntwana wakho kwasebusaneni isipho sokuphucula izakhono zokujamelana.
Ke, umbuzo ngowokuba ubagcina njani abantwana kwiziyobisi? Imigaqo emihlanu yokukhulisa abantwana abaya kuthi hayi kwiziyobisi-
1. Chitha ixesha nabantwana bakho
Ukususela ebusaneni, bekela phambili ukuchitha ixesha nabantwana bakho. Xa ukunye nabo, musa ukuba kwifowuni yakho. Sonke sibabonile oomama behleli ebhentshini lepaki ebaleni lokudlala, betywiliselwe kwifowuni yabo ebukhali ngelixa umntwana wabo ekhwaza "jonga kumama, ndibukele ndisihla kwisilayidi!"
Kubuhlungu kangakanani xa umama engakhange ajonge phezulu. Ukuba uhendwa yifowuni yakho, sukuyithatha xa usaphumile kwaye uhamba nomntwana wakho.
Kutheni kubaluleke kangaka ukuchitha ixesha nabantwana bakho?
Kubalulekile kuba isimilo sokuziphatha ebantwaneni sikhula kungekuko ngenxa yoqeqesho lwabazali, kodwa kukungabikho konxibelelwano. Abantwana abangaziva besondele kumama okanye utata wabo, abaziva bengakhathalelwanga, basemngciphekweni wokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi.
2. Mqeqeshe umntwana wakho, kodwa ngokufanelekileyo nangokwengqiqo
Izifundo zibonise ukuba ulutsha olungena kwiziyobisi rhoqo kunabazali abasebenzisa ubuchule bokuziphatha gunya, uhlobo lwendlela yam okanye indlela yam. Oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni umntwana afihle, afihle naziphi na iindlela ezimbi zokuziphatha.
Baya kusebenzisa iziyobisi njengohlobo lokuvukela imeko yolawulo lwabazali babo. Ke, ungabagcina njani abantwana kwiziyobisi? Elula! Yenza nje uqeqesho olunobulali, wenze isohlwayo sibe sisiphumo esisengqiqweni esifanelekileyo sokuziphatha gwenxa, kwaye ungqinelane nesohlwayo sakho ukuze umntwana aqonde imida.
3. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba kulungile ukuba neemvakalelo
Umntwana ofunda ukuba kulungile ukuziva ngumntwana ongekho semngciphekweni wokubuyela kwizinto ukuze azame ukungazenzi iimvakalelo ezimbi.
Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokuhamba kumaxesha alusizi, umnike inkxaso kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba izinto azizusoloko zibi njalo.
4. Yiba ngumzekelo omhle
Ukuba ufika ekhaya, zithululele iscotch okanye ezimbini kwaye uthi, "Owu ndoda, oku kuyakususa. Ndikhe ndanosuku olubi! ”, Ungothuki xa umntwana wakho eza kuthi aziphathe kolo hlobo lokuziphatha kwaye acinge ukuba into yangaphandle iyimfuneko ukuze akwazi ukumelana noxinzelelo.
Jonga kakuhle imikhwa yakho, kubandakanya nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi ngugqirha, kwaye uhlengahlengise ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba ufuna uncedo ngotywala okanye iziyobisi, zifunele inkxaso.
5. Fundisa umntwana wakho ngolwazi olumalunga nobudala bakhe
Umntwana wakho oneminyaka emithathu akazukuyiqonda intetho malunga nokuba likhoboka le-cocaine. Kodwa, banokuqonda xa ubafundisa malunga nokuphepha iimveliso ezinetyhefu, ukungawathathi amayeza ngaphandle kokuba kunyanzelekile, kunye nendlela yokuwondla umzimba wabo ngeziqhamo ezifanelekileyo, ezinesondlo kunye nemifuno.
Ke qala encinci xa bancinci, kwaye ulinganise ulwazi njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula. Xa befikelela kwiminyaka yabo yeshumi elivisayo, sebenzisa amaxesha afundisekayo (anjengokubukela ifilimu Umfana Omhle, okanye eminye imiboniso yokongezwa kumajelo eendaba) njengendawo yokuqala yokunxibelelana. Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo bayayiqonda indlela okhula ngayo umlutha, kwaye inokwenzeka nakubani na ngaphandle kokufumana umvuzo, imfundo, ubudala.
Amakhoboka ayingabo "abantu abangenamakhaya nje".
Ke ukuphendula umbuzo wakho, ubagcina njani abantwana kwiziyobisi, nanga amanqaku amahlanu ekufuneka uwagcine engqondweni.