Umxholo
- Yazi ukuba oku kuyenzeka
- Fumana iqela lenkxaso
- Ukuthintela intetho engeyonyani
- Zinike ixesha lokuphola
- Xa sele ukulungele, lahla ikhaya lakho lezikhumbuzo ngaye
- Zibandakanye kwinto entsha enomdla
- Ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi kunokuba ngamava amnandi
- Intlungu oyivayo inokusetyenziselwa ukwenza uhlobo olungcono lwakho
- Fumana ibhalansi efanelekileyo yexesha elilodwa kunye nexesha lomhlobo
Umyeni wakho ucele uqhawulo-mtshato, kwaye wena awuboni. Aye abakho amaxesha okungonwabi emtshatweni wakho, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa akukho nto ucinga ukuba ingaze imshiye.
Umtshatile ubomi kwaye awuzange ucinge ukuba uyakusayina amaphepha ukuphelisa ixesha lakho njengesibini esitshatileyo.
Kwaye ... usamthanda.
Isenokuba wangcatsha nomnye. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uye waphelelwa luthando ngawe kwaye uziva ngathi akunakubakho ukuvuselela ezo mvakalelo zothando. Usenokuba nengxaki yobomi obuphakathi.
Ngayiphi na imeko, isigqibo sakhe asigqibi, kwaye akukho kubuya mva. Ushiywe ukuba uphilise intliziyo yakho, intliziyo esele ixhumekile kule ndoda, ngaphandle kwayo ayisakuthandi.
Zeziphi ezinye iindlela onokuphilisa ngazo?
Yazi ukuba oku kuyenzeka
Iya kuba yimpazamo ukwenza ngathi "yonke into ilungile" okanye uzame ukubeka ubuso obonwabileyo ukuze abo bakungqongileyo bacinge ukuba ulawula olu tshintsho lobomi njengowasetyhini onamandla, owomeleleyo obuhlala ukhona.
Akukho sidingo sokuba ligorha ngeli xesha linzima. Ukuba awubonakalisi abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho ukuba uyasokola, abanakho ukukunceda ukuba uthwale iintlungu.
Yikhuphe. Nyaniseka.
Baxelele ukuba wophukile, uyalithanda iqabane lakho, kwaye ufuna ukuba babekho xa ujonga lo msitho ubalulekileyo wobomi.
Fumana iqela lenkxaso
Kukho uninzi lwamaqela oluntu apho abantu abangena kuqhawulo-mtshato banokunxibelelana, bathethe, balile, kwaye babelane ngamabali abo. Kuyanceda ukuva ukuba awuwedwa kule nto ukuyo.
Qinisekisa ukuba iqela lenkxaso likhokelwa ngumcebisi onamava ukuze iintlanganiso zinganikezeli kuthotho lwezikhalazo ngaphandle kwengcebiso ezijolise kwisisombululo.
Ukuthintela intetho engeyonyani
Ukuzixelela, "Ndisisidenge ngokuba ndisamthanda emva kwento ayenzileyo kum!" ayiloncedo, kwaye ayiyonyani.
Awusosibhanxa. Ungumfazi onothando, onesisa osisiseko sakhe senziwe luthando kunye nokuqonda. Akukho nto ilihlazo ngokuziva uthanda umntu obe liqabane lakho lobomi iminyaka emininzi, nokuba loo mntu wenze isigqibo sokuphelisa ubudlelwane.
Ke, sukuzibeka kwindawo ephantsi ngokuthetha gwenxa kwaye uhlale ulungile.
Zinike ixesha lokuphola
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ukuphilisa kuqhawulo-mtshato, ngakumbi uqhawulo-mtshato ongakhange uliqalise, kuyakuthatha ixesha. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba uya kuthi ekugqibeleni ubuye umva.
Intlungu yakho iya kuba nekhalenda yayo, ngeentsuku ezilungileyo, iintsuku ezimbi, kunye neentsuku apho uziva ukuba awenzi nkqubela kwaphela. Kodwa themba kwinkqubo: Ezo ntanda zincinci uzibonayo kude?
Kukho ukukhanya okungena ngabo. Kwaye ngolunye usuku, uya kuvuka kwaye uqaphele ukuba uyakuhamba iiyure, iintsuku, iiveki ngaphandle kokuhlala kumyeni wakho wangaphambili nakwinto ayenzileyo.
Xa sele ukulungele, lahla ikhaya lakho lezikhumbuzo ngaye
Oku kuya kunceda "ukulahla" iimvakalelo zakho zothando. Phinda ikhaya lakho kwizinto ozithandayo.
Ngaba uhlala ufuna igumbi lokuhlala elenziwe kwii-pastels kunye nempahla ye-wicker? Yenze!
Yenza ikhaya lakho likubonakalise, uthengise okanye uphe nantoni na ebangela ezo ngcinga zingathandekiyo "ukuba kwakunjani xa umyeni wayelapha."
Zibandakanye kwinto entsha enomdla
Le yindlela eqinisekisiweyo yokuziva ungcono malunga nawe kwaye ikuncede wakhe ubuhlobo obutsha nabantu abebengakwazi njengenxalenye yesibini. Jonga izibonelelo zasekhaya ukuze ubone ukuba yintoni enikezelwayo.
Ngaba uhlala ufuna ukufunda isiFrentshi?
Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakho iiklasi zemfundo yabantu abadala kwikholeji yasekuhlaleni.
Kuthekani ngomfanekiso oqingqiweyo okanye wokupeyinta?
Awuyi kuhlala uxakekile kuphela kodwa uza ekhaya nento entle oyenzileyo! Ukujoyina indawo yokuzivocavoca okanye iklabhu ebalekayo yindlela elungileyo yokuphelisa naziphi na iingcinga ezimbi ezihlala entlokweni yakho. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kubonelela ngezibonelelo zokunyusa imood ngokuthatha ii-anti-depressants.
Ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi kunokuba ngamava amnandi
Ukudlala ngothando kwi-intanethi noluhlu olubanzi lwemihla enokubakho kunokukwenza uzive unqweneleka kwaye ufunwa kwakhona, ethi, ukuba ubukhe wathetha ngokungazithembi ("Ewe undishiyile. Andinamtsalane kwaye ndiyadika") ukuphakamisa okukhulu ukuzithemba kwakho.
Ukuba, emva kokunxibelelana kwi-intanethi, uziva ngathi ufuna ukudibana nenye okanye nangaphezulu kula madoda, qiniseka ukuba wenza njalo kwindawo kawonke-wonke (njengevenkile ethengisa ikofu) kwaye ushiye iinkcukacha zentlanganiso nomhlobo .
Intlungu oyivayo inokusetyenziselwa ukwenza uhlobo olungcono lwakho
Thatha usizi kwaye ulusebenzise ukukhuthaza ukuba ungene kwimilo, utshintshe izinto zewadi ezazifanele ukuba zilahlwe kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, uphonononge kwaye uhlaziye i-resume yakho yobungcali, utshintshe imisebenzi. Beka la mandla ukuze uphile obona bomi bakho bumnandi.
Fumana ibhalansi efanelekileyo yexesha elilodwa kunye nexesha lomhlobo
Awufuni ukuzenza ikheswa kakhulu, kodwa ufuna ukwenza ixesha lokuba wedwa.
Ukuba ubutshatile ixesha elide, usenokuba ulibele ukuba kunjani ukuba wedwa. Unokukufumanisa ungonwabanga ekuqaleni. Kodwa phinda wenze la maxesha: awunasizungu; uyaziqhelisa.
Kwividiyo engezantsi, uRobin Sharma uthetha ngokubaluleka kokuba yedwa.
Ukuze uthande kwakhona, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukulunga xa uwedwa. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba uvulele enye indoda (kwaye kuyakwenzeka!) Ukusuka kwindawo yozinzo kwaye ungaphelelwa lithemba.
Kuqhelekile ukuziva ulahlekile kwaye ulusizi xa indoda owawuthandana nayo igqiba ekubeni ayisathandani nawe. Kodwa khumbula ukuba ngoku ujoyine indawo enkulu yabakhenkethi abakunye nabo abasindileyo kwaye ekugqibeleni baphumelela kubomi babo basemva komtshato.
Mnike ixesha, thantamisa kunye nawe, kwaye ubambe nkqi kulwazi lokuba uya kuphinda uthandane.