Umxholo
Kukho amahla ndinyuka kuwo wonke umtshato. Nokuba ngamanyathelo okuqala omntwana wakho, okanye umzuzu owaziyo ukuba ungalixelela iqabane lakho zonke iimfihlelo zakho kwaye uhlala unenkxaso yawo, amanye amalungu omtshato mahle kakhulu kwaye axabisekile ngamagama.
Kwelinye icala, lonke ulwalamano lunokukhubeka kubunzima obuthile, into onokuyilindela kunye nento ekugqibeleni ubomi bukukhonze ngayo.
Iziganeko ezithile zoxinzelelo kunye neziganeko zoxinzelelo azinakuba nefuthe. Nantoni na evela ekuphumeleleni emsebenzini ukuya ekuphulukaneni nomntwana inokubangela iintlungu kunye nosizi, ezinokukhokelela ekubeni ube wedwa kwiqabane lakho.
Ukuziva ungahlali nomntu osondeleyo kuwe kunokukhokelela kwisizungu, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nemicimbi ethile yempilo yengqondo.
Ukuzahlula ngokwasentlalweni kunokuchaphazela umtshato wakho nolwalamano lwakho nabantu obathandayo. Umxube womtshato kunye nokuzikhetha ekuhlaleni yinto ebangela intlekele.
Nazi ezinye oonobangela bokuba bodwa ekuhlaleni emtshatweni, iziphumo zalo emtshatweni, kunye neengcebiso malunga nokwenza izinto ngcono.
Ukuxakeka kwamaqabane
Xa uthatha isigqibo sokutshata, ukwenzela ukuba ungabi wedwa okanye ube nesithukuthezi. Uthembisa iqabane lakho ukuba uhlala ulapho kwaye bakuthembisa okufanayo.
Nangona kunjalo, nje ukuba iindwendwe zomtshato zihambe, inyani iyaqala. Inyani yile yokuba ngamnye kuni unezibophelelo kunye nemisebenzi, ngakumbi ukuba nobabini niyasebenza.
Ayimangalisi ke loo nto, nokuba bobabini abalingane baqala ukuziva bengamalolo kwaye bebodwa kulwalamano.
Omnye kuni unokuziva ngathi omnye uyabakhuphela ngaphandle kubomi babo, nto leyo engeyonyani ngokupheleleyo.
Ukhutshelwe ngaphandle kwinxalenye yobomi babo eyiyeyekhondo labo lomsebenzi. Kwaye ukusukela kusoloko kunzima ukuba umntu avume ukuba uziva elilolo, inokungabonwa liqabane labo.
Ukungakwazi kwabantu abatshatileyo ukunxibelelana iimvakalelo zabo ngoyena nobangela uphambili wokuzihlukanisa ngokwabo emtshatweni.
Nokuba bayabona ukuba kukho into engalunganga, abanakukwazi ukuyichaza ukuba yeyiphi kanye kanye. Uninzi lwale micimbi lunokuthintelwa ngeencoko eziqhelekileyo nezinyanisekileyo.
Ukuba ubona ukuba kukho into ephazamisa iqabane lakho, yiya kubo ubabuze ukuba yintoni, kodwa ngaphandle kwesigwebo kunye nesimangalo kwilizwi lakho.
Mhlawumbi ukuba ubaxelela malunga nosuku lwakho emsebenzini kunye neemeko ozifumana ukuzo, kwaye ukuba ubacela ingcebiso malunga nokusingatha ezo meko, izinto zinokuba ngcono kwaye banokuziva bebandakanyiwe ngakumbi kwaye bengenasizungu kwaye bengamalolo.
Ukuswela ukuqonda
Kukho izigidi zezizathu zokuba umntu azive ngathi iqabane lakhe aliziqondi. Kwezinye iimeko, oku kuyinyani, kodwa kwezinye, ziimvakalelo zomntu kunye noloyiko olwenza ukwahlulwa.
Isizathu esinye esinokubakho kukuba omnye wenu udlule kumava athile okutshintsha kobomi.
Umzekelo, ukuba elinye lamaqabane lifumene ingozi elibashiya bekhubazekile nangayiphi na indlela, kunokubashiya besilwa nokungaphezulu kokukhubazeka oko.
Nokuba amaqabane abo enza nantoni na esemandleni abo ukunceda nokwenza izinto lula. Iqabane elinokukhubazeka lisenokuziva ngathi lilodwa ngeengcinga neemvakalelo zabo.
Ngaphandle kwemizamo yabathandekayo babo, akukho kuqonda kuyinyani egameni labo.
Kwelinye icala, elinye iqabane linokuziva ngathi lizama nzima ukwenza izinto zisebenze, kodwa zisavaliwe.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, mhlawumbi unganako funa uncedo. Kule mihla kukho iikhosi ezithile zokukhubazeka eziluncedo ezinokukuvumela ukuba uqhagamshele kwakhona, yandisa ukuqonda kwenu omnye komnye kwaye uphucule umgangatho wobomi bakho.
Ezi zifundo zinokulungiselela iqabane elikhubazekileyo ikhondo elinokubenza bonwabe ngakumbi kwaye baneliseke ngakumbi, elinokuthi libe negalelo kubume obungcono ekhaya, apho ezinye iingxaki zinokusonjululwa ngokulula.
Utshintsho kugxilwe
Xa isibini sinomntwana kunye, umzuzu wokuzalwa komntwana unokukongamela nina kunye novuyo nothando olungenamda.
Kwaye nangona nobabini niyamthanda umntwana wenu kwaye mhlawumbi niza kusebenza kunye ekubakhuliseni ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo, kukho enye into enokwenzeka.
Nokuba nobabini niyaphangela, niyakufumana indlela yokuhlengahlengisa iiyure zomsebenzi ukuze nichithe ixesha elininzi nomntwana kangangoko ninakho.
Olu tshintsho lujolise emtshatweni kwaye omnye komnye ukuya emntwaneni lunokuthatha uxinzelelo emtshatweni kwaye lukhokelele ekuhlukaniseni omnye okanye nina nobabini.
Ukucinga ukuba izinto ziya kudlula okanye zibuyele esiqhelweni ngokwazo wakube uqhele imeko entsha kunokwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi.
Kubalulekile ukuba qala ngokusebenza kwimicimbi ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqaphela ukuba ikhona.
Nangona oku kwahlukile kwisibini esinye ukuya kwesinye, ingcebiso ngokubanzi iya kuba yile fumanaizinto onokuzenza nomntwana wakho, kunye nokwenza ixesha lokuba wedwa.
Ukufumana umntu ogcina umntwana okanye ukuba omnye wabazali bakho anakekele umntwana ngelixa wena go uphume wenze into emnandi kunye nokuba nentsingiselo kunye kunokukunceda usondele ngakumbi komnye nomnye kwaye uzive ungaphantsi komtshato wakho.
Ukuba ukhathazekile ukuzahlula kwakho kungonakalisa ubuhlobo bakho kwaye uhlawule umtshato wakho, thetha neqabane lakho okanye nifune uncedo kunyangi.
Ukujongana neengxaki kunye nokujongana nazo kunokwenza izinto zibengcono kwaye kukuncede ujongane nayo nayiphi na into ekukhathazayo okanye iqabane lakho.