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Umxholo
- 1. Yeyiphi eyona nkumbulo yakho intle neyona yoyikekayo ebuntwaneni bakho?
- 2. Ukuphinda uhlaziye iimfuno zakho ezintathu ezibalulekileyo, kwaye ndingazanelisa njani?
- 3. Kuzo zonke izithandwa zakho, ngubani ocinga ukuba unolwalamano oluhle kakhulu?
- 4. Leliphi icandelo olifumana njengelona lifanelekileyo kubunye bethu?
- 5. Yeyiphi imikhwa yam ongayithandiyo, ekufuneka ndiyeke?
- 6. Ngaba kukho naziphi na iingcinga ezikugcina uphaphile ebusuku ozifihle kum?
- 7. Ngaba akho amaphupha akho angazalisekanga?
- 8. Siyintoni isizathu sakho sokundithanda?
- 9. Yintoni onokuyithatha njengesona senzo singenakho ukuzithethelela, ngoba?
- 10. Singakuphucula njani ukusondelelana nokwabelana ngesondo ebomini bethu?
Abantu abasandul 'ukutshata, abasandula kutshata ukuthandana kwabo, ungaze ucinge ukuba umtshato wabo uza kuphela. Basenenkwenkwezi yamehlo ukusuka kulwakhiwo lothando apho ubusuku obude abathandi bokuthumela imiyalezo bebugcina buvaliwe kwilizwe labo labathandi.
Kodwa ngokukhawuleza kudlula iminyaka kwaye yonke intetho engathandekiyo, imibuzo yothando kwizibini ezitshatileyo okanye ii-nothings ezimnandi ziguquka zibe yimisebenzi yenyani yemihla ngemihla, akukho namnye owakha wakubona oko kuza.
Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi kukuba konke oku kunokuthintelwa. Amaqabane angahlala exhunyiwe kwaye onwabile ebomini. Enye yeendlela ezilula zokugcina umtshato owonwabileyo kukuba uvuleleke kwiqabane lakho.
Fumana ixesha elinyanzelekileyo leqabane lakho kwaye nibuze imibuzo evuzayo evulekileyo yolwalamano kwizibini ezitshatileyo.
Gxila kwaye ujolise kwiimpendulo zakho, kwaye uyakumangaliswa yindlela ekuya kuba lula ngayo ukugcina umtshato wakho umncinci kwaye wonwabile ebomini.
Nalu uluhlu lwemibuzo eli-10 elungileyo kwizibini ezinokuthi ziguqule umhlaba wakho ube ngcono. Unokusebenzisa le mibuzo yokwakha ubudlelwane njengenxalenye yemidlalo yemibuzo yobudlelwane kwizibini ezenza inkqubo ibe mnandi ngakumbi.
1. Yeyiphi eyona nkumbulo yakho intle neyona yoyikekayo ebuntwaneni bakho?
Amava obuntwana akwenze umntu onguye. Nokuba amava ebonwabile okanye abuhlungu kwaye enobundlobongela, ukuthetha ngawo neqabane lakho kuyanceda ukuqonda ubuntu babo, iinkolelo zabo, kunye nokuba sesichengeni kwabo.
Lo ngomnye wemibuzo ebalulekileyo 'yokubuza' ukuba ubuze omnye obalulekileyo ukuze uyiqonde ngcono ngamaxesha apho ucinga ukuba bacaphuka ngokungenangqondo okanye banomsindo, kwaye naxa bonwabile ngokwenene.
2. Ukuphinda uhlaziye iimfuno zakho ezintathu ezibalulekileyo, kwaye ndingazanelisa njani?
Lo ngomnye wemibuzo ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane ekufuneka ubuze iqabane lakho njengokwanelisa iimfuno zeqabane lakho yinto ebalulekileyo kulwalamano olonwabileyo, olusempilweni.
Thethani malunga neemfuno zomnye nomnye kunye nendlela yokuzifeza. Oku kuyakwenza ubudlelwane obomeleleyo phakathi kwakho, buhlanganiswe kunye nokuthembana nothando.
3. Kuzo zonke izithandwa zakho, ngubani ocinga ukuba unolwalamano oluhle kakhulu?
Ngamaxesha athile enye ayinakho ukuhambisa imvakalelo yokwenyani kwenye. Qaphela kwaye uqaphele kusapho lwakho olusondeleyo kunye neqela labahlobo okanye ezinye izibini ezonwabileyo ngeenxa zonke, into oyifunayo okanye oyifunayo kubudlelwane bakho emva koko uyithumele kwiqabane lakho.
Kuya kufuneka uziqwalasele ezi ntlobo zemibuzo yobuhlobo elungileyo kwizibini ezitshatileyo ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane bakho bube ngcono kwaye buzalisekise ngokuhamba kwexesha.
4. Leliphi icandelo olifumana njengelona lifanelekileyo kubunye bethu?
Lo ngomnye wemibuzo ebalulekileyo ekufuneka ubuzile kubudlelwane ongafanele uphoswe ukubuza iqabane lakho nakweyiphi na imeko.
Ukuhambisa ixesha kunye neminyaka yokuqhubela phambili kuya kuzisa amava amaninzi ngendlela yakho-ezinye zezifundo ezibuhlungu, ezinye iinkumbulo ezimnandi.
Oku kuya kutshintsha iimpendulo kwimibuzo eliqela kwizibini ezinexesha. Ke, hlala usesikhathini namaxesha atshintshayo, ke awusoze uphulukane nokusondelelana kunye nokumanyana.
5. Yeyiphi imikhwa yam ongayithandiyo, ekufuneka ndiyeke?
Khuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba livuleke malunga nemikhwa yakho ecaphukisayo.
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bayayityeshela imikhwa emibi yamaqabane abo kuba bebaleka ukungavisisani kunye nokugcina uxolo phakathi kwabo.
Kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha, zonke ezi mvakalelo ziphakamileyo zinokuqhuma njengomsindo nengqumbo, zitshabalalise iminyaka yobuhlobo. Ke, yiba sengqiqweni.
Khuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba lithembeke malunga nemikhwa yakho "emibi". Oku kuyakususa konke ukungakhathali okunokwakha kubomi bakho obonwabileyo. Ukuchuma kunye ukujongana nemicimbi ecaphukisa imvisiswano yobomi bakho obonwabisayo.
Bukela le vidiyo:
6. Ngaba kukho naziphi na iingcinga ezikugcina uphaphile ebusuku ozifihle kum?
Uninzi lwezibini ezinenkathalo azifuni kuthwalisa abo zibathandayo iingxaki zabo kunye noxinzelelo. Bagcina imfihlo yabo yoxinzelelo ingcwatyelwe nzulu ngaphakathi kweentliziyo zabo, bebonisa ukungabi nazimpikiswano, ukonwaba ngaphambili kumaqabane abo.
Ekugqibeleni, ezi ngxaki kunye noxinzelelo zithatha umthwalo wabo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Ngokuthatha uncedo lwale mibuzo kwizibini ezitshatileyo, ungazama ukuphumelela ukuzithemba kweqabane lakho, ubakhuthaze ukuba babelane ngemithwalo yabo, kwaye bafumane izisombululo kunye.
Umtshato konke malunga nenkxaso kunye nokuqonda.
7. Ngaba akho amaphupha akho angazalisekanga?
Wonke umntu amaphupha okuphumeza injongo ethile. Thatha ixesha lokufumana amaphupha eqabane lakho kwaye yeyiphi imiqobo emi endleleni.
Ezi ntlobo zemibuzo kubantu abatshatileyo zinokukunceda ube ngumkhuthazi kunye nomxhasi, ekufuneka iqabane lakho lifezekise iinjongo zalo, ezazingazalisekanga kude kube ngoku.
8. Siyintoni isizathu sakho sokundithanda?
Umahluko uyakuhlala ukho emtshatweni. Ngapha koko, ukuthi, "Ndiyakuthanda" akwanele. Uthando lubonakaliswa ngezenzo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho kwiqabane lakho.
Ukuqonda ukwahluka kweqabane lakho, ukwamkela ububi kunye nokuziphatha okuhle kunye nokuma ngokuqinileyo ecaleni kwabo luthando lwenene.
Ke, ungalibuza iqabane lakho imibuzo efana nokuba, wawuva nini olona thando lwam kakhulu okanye kutheni undithanda kunye nemibuzo efanayo kwizibini ukuvumela iqabane lakho libuyele izizathu zokukuthanda.
9. Yintoni onokuyithatha njengesona senzo singenakho ukuzithethelela, ngoba?
Iingxelo ezenzakalisayo ezingekho nzulu zidlulisa izigqibo ezinzima onokuthi uzithathe xa iqabane lakho liphazanyisiwe ngumcimbi othile, kwaye linokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane obuhlala buhleli obuhlala buhleli.
Yima uze ucinge. Ukuba ngamaqabane osenyongweni akufuneki kube yinto engabalulekanga. Kuya kufuneka uhlale kwaye uthethe ngokunzulu malunga nezinto ongazithandiyo kwaye, ukuba zenziwe, ziya kukwenzakalisa kakubi. Kwaye, le mibuzo yezibini inokukunceda wenze oko ngokufanelekileyo.
Oku kuyakwenza ukuqonda okungcono phakathi kwesi sibini, kwaye kuya kubakho ukuthintelwa kwezinto ezithathwa njengezingenakuxoleleka.
10. Singakuphucula njani ukusondelelana nokwabelana ngesondo ebomini bethu?
Ngamaxesha amaninzi, ukwehla ngokwasenyameni kukhokelela kumtshato ongonwabanga. Ukwabelana ngesondo kumbandela ontununtunu kunye nokwaliwa ukwabelana ngesondo ngokuthathelwa ingqalelo njengokwaliwa.
Le micimbi kufuneka isonjululwe ngobunono, ngokuqinisekileyo, kunye nokuqonda okunzulu. Gxila kwiimfuno zakho kunye neemfuno zakho. Thetha malunga nemicimbi yakho yesini. Oku ngekhe kuvumele nakuphi na ukunqamka okusetiweyo kwaye kukuncede wakhe ubudlelwane obunempilo, obonwabileyo.