Umxholo
- Iimpawu zokwahlula uxinzelelo koxinzelelo
- Abafikisayo abanoxinzelelo lokwahlukana
- Ungaluthintela njani uxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula kulutsha
- 1. Unyango lweCognitive Behaeve Therapy (CBT)
- 2. Ukuphumla / Ukucwangciswa kwentswelo ngendlela eyiyo
- 3. Ukuseka uxinzelelo lokukhuthaza ulawulo
- 4. Iindlela zokuphumla
- 5. Ukujamelana nolawulo olunamandla
- 6. Ukubonakaliswa
Ukwahlukana koxinzelelo lwexhala kuchazwa njengemeko yempilo yengqondo apho umntu eziva exhalabile kwaye enexhala kakhulu kwaye esoyika ukohlukana okanye ukuphulukana nomntu amthandayo. Ngokwesiqhelo umntu uhlangabezana noxinzelelo lokwahlukana ngokwamanqanaba ahlukeneyo obomi babo njengasebuntwaneni, njengakwishumi elivisayo, nanjengabantu abadala. Kodwa la manqanaba ayadlula njengoko umntu eqhubeka ebomini. Kodwa xa olu loyiko luba lukhulu kangangokuba luphazamisa ubomi obuqhelekileyo bomntu, iba sisifo sokwahlukana koxinzelelo.
Iimpawu zokwahlula uxinzelelo koxinzelelo
- Iimvakalelo zabo zoxinzelelo zinamandla kwaye zomelele
- Ezi mvakalelo ziqhubeka iiveki, iinyanga, kwaneminyaka
- Uxinzelelo lukhulu kangangokuba luchaphazela ukusebenza kwesiqhelo kwemihla ngemihla komntu ngamnye.
Kuqatshelwe ukuba kwezinye iimeko, uxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula kulutsha luqala kwangoko ngelixa kwabanye, iimpawu zizonke kodwa zinokuqala kwangoko.
Abafikisayo abanoxinzelelo lokwahlukana
- Kuphephe ukuba kude nomntu abancamathele kuye.
- Mhlawumbi uxakeke kukwahlukana nomntu omthandayo.
- Ungazikhathaza ngomntu abamkhathaleleyo ngokwenzakala.
- Ngamana ungakhathazeka malunga nesiganeko esenzekayo esinokubangela ukwahlukana nesithandwa sabo.
- Ungafuna ukuhlala kwicala lomntu omthandayo kwaye unganyangeki kwiimeko ezibangela ukuba bohlukane nomntu abancamathele kuye.
Ungaluthintela njani uxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula kulutsha
Okokuqala, sukuphambanisa ukuphazamiseka kwovalo okanye uxinzelelo lwentlalo noxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula kulutsha. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba ixhala lomntwana ngokuqinisekileyo luloyiko olukhulu lokulahlekelwa ngumntu amthandayo. Nje ukuba kufunyaniswe isifo, ukunyanga okanye iindlela zokuphepha uxinzelelo lokwahlula kubandakanya:
1. Unyango lweCognitive Behaeve Therapy (CBT)
I-CBT ikakhulu isekwe kwinto yokuba iingcinga, iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo zomzimba, kunye nezenzo zonke ziyahambelana. Ke, iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kunye neengcinga zinokubambisa umntu kumjikelo ombi. Ke, i-CBT isetyenziselwa ukophula lo mjikelo woxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula kwaye ubeke endaweni yalo ngeengcinga ezilungileyo. I-CBT yinkqubo yokunyanga yokuthetha, kwaye i-Therapist inceda umntwana ukuba aqonde kwaye emva koko ajongane noloyiko lwakhe lwangaphakathi lokwahlukana. Nangona i-CBT ingenakunyanga iimpawu zomzimba ezinxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo lokwahlula-hlula, ngokuhlalutya kunye nokusebenza kumacandelo amancinci engxaki iphela kwiseshoni nganye, umjikelo wokucinga wolutsha utshintshwe waba kukuziphatha okuhle kunye neengcinga. Nje ukuba iingcinga kunye nokuziphatha kutshintshwe, iimpawu zomzimba ziya kuqala ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo.
Kuqatshelwe ukuba i-CBT isebenze kakhulu ekwahlukaniseni iimeko zoxinzelelo kulutsha. I-CBT ayiluthathi uncedo olongezelelekileyo emayezeni, kodwa enyanisweni ifundisa umntwana ofikisayo iindlela ezifanelekileyo neziluncedo ezinokusetyenziswa kubomi bemihla ngemihla, nasemva kokuba unyango lugqityiwe.
2. Ukuphumla / Ukucwangciswa kwentswelo ngendlela eyiyo
Inkqubo yokuchaswa kwemvelo yindlela yokuziphatha esetyenziswa ngokuxhaphakileyo esetyenziswa kunyango lokoyika, ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo kunye ne-phobias. Obu buchule busebenza ngokubandakanya umntwana okwishumi elivisayo kuhlobo oluthile lokuzilolonga kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe uyavezwa kukhuthazo oluvelisa uxinzelelo olukhulu kuye. Kukho amanyathelo amathathu abandakanyekayo kobu buchule.
3. Ukuseka uxinzelelo lokukhuthaza ulawulo
Kumaxhala okwahlulahlula ulutsha, inkuthazo ichongwa njengoloyiko lokuphulukana okanye ukwahlukana nomntu omthandayo. Kweli nqanaba, ubunzulu boloyiko kugwetywa ngokwazisa imeko yoxinzelelo kumntu ngamnye. Nje ukuba kubangele uxinzelelo kunye nenqanaba lokuqina kwayo, ugqirha uya kwinqanaba elilandelayo.
4. Iindlela zokuphumla
Nje ukuba amandla okwahlulahlula amandla kunye nokuqala sele kusekwe, ugqirha uya kuthi emva koko asebenze ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphelisa kunye nokuphumla ezinje ngokucamngca okanye iimpendulo zokuphumla kwezihlunu ezinzulu. Ezi ndlela zokuphumla ziyilelwe ukunceda ukuphumla umntwana ofikisayo xa sele ephantsi koxinzelelo loxinzelelo olukhulu. Obu buchule bubonelela ngesigulana ngeendlela zokulawula uloyiko lwabo. Ukuzilolonga ukuphefumla kunye neendlela zokulwa noxinzelelo kunceda umntwana ukuba aphephe ukukhuthaza inkxalabo kwaye ayitshintshe ngeengcinga ezintle.
5. Ukujamelana nolawulo olunamandla
Nje ukuba umntu okwishumi elivisayo azazi kakuhle iindlela zokuphumla, uya kuvavanywa ukuba angakwazi na ukumelana noxinzelelo lokwahlukana kwakhe. Ekuqaleni, isikhuthazi esincinci soxinzelelo sinikwa isigulana. Nje ukuba alulawule uxinzelelo ngokukuko, uyavezwa kukuqhubela phambili okunamandla okuhambelana noxinzelelo. Unyango oluyimpumelelo luyakubonisa ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha, isigulana siya kuba nakho ukoyisa uxinzelelo olunzulu ngeendlela zakhe zokuphumla.
6. Ukubonakaliswa
Ulutsha luyakhuthazwa ukuba lujongane kwaye loyise uloyiko lwalo ngoncedo nenkxaso yosapho lwayo.
Ukusonga phezulu
Nangona uxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula kulutsha aluqhelekanga, lukhona. Esi sifo sokuhlukana noxinzelelo kufuneka sinyangwe kulutsha njengoko iimeko ezinganyangekiyo zinokuba neziphumo zexesha elide kwimpilo yengqondo kunye nokukhula komntwana ofikisayo.