Umxholo
- Isibini sifikelela njani kwinqanaba lokwahlukana
- Indlela ukwahlukana kusebenza ngayo
- Iziphumo zokwahlukana
- Ungayenza njani eyona nto ilungileyo ngokwahlukana kwakho
Yintoni kanye kanye ukwahlukana komtshato? Njengawo nawuphi na umcimbi wothando kunye nobudlelwane, impendulo ayisiyonto ilula leyo. Ngokwenene, yimeko xa abatshati behlukana kodwa abahlali beqhawula umtshato. Iimpawu zemiba yenkqubo zininzi.Ukuqala kumbuzo omkhulu-nokuba ukwahlukana kuya kuphelela kuqhawulo-mtshato okanye akunjalo, kwiinkcukacha ezincinci, njengokuthi ngubani oza kuthatha ibhetshi elandelayo yokucoca.
Eli nqaku liza kuhamba phezu kwayo yonke le nto kwaye ikubonise ukuba ungakwenza njani ukwahlulahlula kube ngamava amahle, nokuba kwenzeka njani kuwe njengesibini.
Isibini sifikelela njani kwinqanaba lokwahlukana
Into eyayisakuba ngumgangatho kukuba amaqabane ayakufika kude nolonwabo emtshatweni ukuze bangaphinde banyamezelane. Ke, xa kunikwa ukuba kuhlala kukho abantwana kunye nepropathi ebandakanyekayo, baya kuthatha isigqibo sokwahlukana kuqala ukuze bangajongani, kodwa baqhawule umtshato kamva. Okanye, ngakumbi ngakumbi, omnye wabatshati uya kushiya ngengxolo yomnyango phakathi kwenye impikiswano kwaye angaphinde abuye.
Kwaye oku kusenzeka. Okuninzi. Umtshato yindawo ekhuselekileyo phantse kuwo wonke umntu otshatileyo, nokuba ubudlelwane bunokuba yityhefu kangakanani. Kuqhelekile, nokuba kukuthukwa okanye iintlungu oqhelene nazo kangangokuba uyoyika ukumka kuzo. Xa lusapho olunabantwana, izicwangciso ekwabelwana ngazo kunye nemali, kunzima kakhulu ukuqhawula umtshato. Yiyo loo nto uninzi luphela lungohlulwa.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho enye imeko. Nokuba ngumceli mngeni kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uyingozi, kwezinye iimeko, ukwahlukana kusetyenziswa njengesixhobo sonyango. Xa isibini singasindwa kukungathembani nokungazithembi, kwaye ugqirha uvavanya ukuba baya kuxhamla kwixa elithile lokwakha bodwa, ukwahlukana ngonyango kunokuba yindlela ekucetyiswa ngayo amaqabane.
Indlela ukwahlukana kusebenza ngayo
Njengoko besesitshilo, ukwahlukana akufani noqhawulo mtshato. Oko kuthetha ukuba izinto ezingenakulunga emtshatweni azizukulunga ngokwahlukana nazo. Umzekelo, ukwahlukana ayisosizathu salo naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa, ngamazwi, ngengqondo, ngokwasemoyeni, ngokwasemzimbeni, okanye ngokwesondo.
Ngapha koko, ukwahlukana akufuneki kuthathwe njengekhadi eliluhlaza kwimicimbi engaphandle komtshato, nangona abantu abaninzi abazahlulileyo bade bacinge ngaloo ndlela. Iziphoso ezinjalo ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kubangela ezinye iingxaki kumtshato osele uneengxaki. Ukuba ukubona abanye abantu yeyona nto ikhuthazayo ukuba wohlukane, kuya kufuneka uvule ngayo kwaye uxoxe ngayo neqabane lakho.
Ukwahlula ukuba kusebenze ngokukuko (nokuba esi sibini siza kugqiba ukubuyela kunye okanye hayi), eyona nto iphambili ekufuneka siyenzile kukuba sithe ngqo kwaye sihloniphe. Vumelanani ngemigaqo. Uya kunxibelelana njani kaninzi kangakanani? Uyakuquka umlamli wangaphandle? Ngaba uya kulala ngesondo okanye uhambe nemihla? Ngaba uvumelekile ukuba uvele endaweni yomnye nomnye?
Iziphumo zokwahlukana
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, zimbini kuphela iziphumo ezinokubakho- niyakubuyela kunye okanye niqhawule umtshato (okanye nihlale nihlukene kodwa ngaphandle kwenjongo yokubuyela omnye komnye). Ukuba uyaxolelana, zimbini iindlela onokukhetha kuzo - ingangumtshato ophuculweyo okanye ukungcungcutheka kwakudala. Ukuba uqhawula umtshato, ungawungena njengabantu abathandanayo nabahloniphekileyo okanye ugcine iindlela ezifanayo ezingekho mpilweni zokuthetha omnye komnye.
Zeziphi kwezi meko zakho ziya kuxhomekeka kwinto enye ephambili. Yindlela olisebenzise ngayo ixesha olichithe wohlukene. Ukuba usebenze kwizakhono zakho zonxibelelwano, kwaye kubuthathaka bakho kunye neempazamo, kukho ithuba lokuba ubudlelwane bakho obutsha buya kuba bhetele kakhulu kunangaphambili, nokuba uza kuhlala kunye okanye hayi.
Ungayenza njani eyona nto ilungileyo ngokwahlukana kwakho
Oko kusikhokelela kumbuzo wokugqibela. Abantu ngokwahlukana banokuchuma kweli xesha kubudlelwane babo, nokuba babuyela emtshatweni wabo okanye hayi. Ukuba usebenzisa ixesha elihlukeneyo njengendlela yokuziphucula, ubomi bakho, kunye nobudlelwane bakho, unokugqibela usithi ukwahlukana yeyona nto intle yenzekileyo kuwe.
Ukuphuhlisa ukuqonda kubonakalise ukuba yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo emtshatweni owonwabileyo, kunye nokuphila okunenjongo njengomntu. Ke, gumba nzulu, kwaye ufumane ukuqonda ukuba ungubani wena kunye nesibini. Sebenzela ukubona abanye ngaphandle komgwebo. Fumana indlela yokuphila kulo mzuzu wangoku kwaye ususe ingqumbo edlulileyo okanye amaxhala exesha elizayo.