Umxholo
- Eli "bali lomtshato" belinokubizwa ngcono ngokuba "yimfazwe yoqhawulo mtshato"
- Umboniso bhanyabhanya usilela kumagqwetha kunye nenkqubo yezomthetho
- Ukwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato kuvelisa ezona zinto zimbi ebantwini
- Amagqwetha awafundisi abantu ukuba bahlasele amaqabane abo
NgoLaura Dern efumene oyena mdlali u-Oscar obalaseleyo ekuboniseni kwakhe igqwetha loqhawulo-mtshato kwisibini esitshatileyo "somhlaba owomileyo", abathandi bemidlalo bhanyabhanya bayabuza ukuba ingaba "ibali lomtshato" yinto eyenzekayo xa abantu abalungileyo beqhawula umtshato.
Ukuqala, isihloko, Ibali loMtshato yinto encinci.
Ibali lomtshato Ngaphantsi komtshato onengxaki ikakhulu malunga noqhawulo-mtshato luhambe kakubi. Isakhiwo sibonisa Abantu ababini abahloniphekileyo abavumela abo Inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato ukunikezela kumlo onetyhefu.
Eli "bali lomtshato" belinokubizwa ngcono ngokuba "yimfazwe yoqhawulo mtshato"
Kuninzi okungahambi kakuhle kwinkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato yabaphambili, kwaye obunye ubumdaka bubangelwe yingcebiso embi evela kwigqwetha lomdlali odlalayo kunye nomyeni ongumlawuli, uCharlie. (Ngakumbi kule ingezantsi.) Kodwa ekugqibeleni uqhawulo-mtshato, njengomtshato, luyawohloka ngenxa yokuba uCharlie kunye nenkosikazi yomlingisi, uNicole, besilela ukujongana nemibuzo emibini ephambili:
- Uhlala phi ngamnye wabo?
- Ithetha ntoni loo nto ukuba ngumzali ngokubambisana kunyana wabo othandekayo, uHenry?
Ngomsebenzi wakhe nolonwabo uNicole ufuna ukuhlala eCalifornia. UCharlie ufuna (okanye ubuncinci ufuna) umsebenzi wakhe kunye nolonwabo lokuhlala eBrooklyn. Iza kusebenza njani lonto ukuba bahlala kunye? Ngaba banokuba ngumzali kunye nomntwana ngelixa behlala kwimimandla eyahlukileyo?
Endaweni yokujongana nengxaki yabo, uNicole uya eCalifornia ngendima yexesha elifutshane kumqhubi wenqwelomoya kamabonwakude.
Ewe, uNicole unethemba lokuba umqhubi wenqwelomoya uza kuba luthotho, umsebenzi wakhe uya kwandiswa kwaye uya kuhlala eCalifornia, mhlawumbi kangangeminyaka eliqela. Xa uNicole eshukuma, yena noCharlie bayazi, kodwa bangayikhathaleli imeko yabo yexesha elide lonxweme.
UCharlie uyavuma ngokuhamba okwethutyana kukaHenry noNicole ukusuka eBrooklyn ukuya e-LA. Kuya kufuneka aphike malunga nokubuyela kukaNicole, ngakumbi kuba esi sibini sele sidibene nomlamli woqhawulo mtshato xa uNicole ehamba.
UNicole ubonisana negqwetha elindlongondlongo, ngubani oza kunceda uNicole aqonde eyona nto inzima kuyo yonke imibuzo yoqhawulo-mtshato: kwenzeka ntoni xa omnye umzali efuna ukufudukela ngaphaya komnye umzali wokusebenzisa ixesha lokuba ngumzali?
UCharlie uphendula ngokuqesha igqwetha lakhe, kwaye ityala elinzima sele liba bubusuku.
"Ibali lomtshato" lichaza indlela iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu ezinokuthi zongamele imeko elungileyo yabantu abalungileyo ababekhe bathandana.
Umboniso bhanyabhanya usilela kumagqwetha kunye nenkqubo yezomthetho
Kodwa umboniso bhanya-bhanya kaNowa Baumbach usilela ngokungafanelekanga kumagqwetha kunye nenkqubo yezomthetho yokuchithwa kukaNicole noCharlie ekuhlalisaneni ngoxolo nakwizimangalo ezilwayo.
Ifilimu ibaxisa ukungaziphathi kakuhle kwamagqwetha omabini. Igqwetha labasetyhini likaNicole lonwabile kakhulu kuNicole kwaye indlela aziphatha ngayo enkundleni yamatyala iphantse yahlekisa.
Igqwetha eliyindoda likaCharlie liyaphoswa yimpikiswano yomthetho wakhe ophumeleleyo, egxile endaweni embi, eyonakalisayo malunga nobuntu bukaNicole. Omabini la magqwetha ayaphazamisa, akhwaze kwaye athethe omnye komnye endaweni yenkundla engaphandle kolawulo.
Igqwetha likaCharlie bekufanele ukuba licebise uCharlie ukuba iNew York inamagunya apheleleyo phantsi komthetho kaRhulumente kunye nomanyano wokuthatha isigqibo malunga nemicimbi malunga noHenry. UCharlie kufuneka abuyele eNew York kwaye kwangoko afake ityala lokugcinwa kwabantu eNew York.
Inkundla yaseNew York inakho okanye ingayaleli ukubuyela kukaHenry eNew York ngelixa iqwalasela isicelo sikaNicole sokuhamba noHenry baye eCalifornia.
Ngayiphi na indlela, inkundla yaseNew York iya kuthathela ingqalelo ukuba ingaba ngumdla kaHenry ukuhlala eNew York okanye eCalifornia. Ukubandakanyeka kwangaphambili komzali ngamnye kukhathalelo lukaHenry kuya kuchaphazela iziphumo. Inkundla iyakuthathela ingqalelo indawo yabahlobo bakaCharlie, isikolo, ababoneleli bezonyango kunye nosapho olongezelelekileyo.
Eyona nto iphambili iya kuba kukuba inkundla, okanye ngokukhethekileyo amaqela ngokwawo, angayila isicwangciso sokuba ngumzali esihlangabezana neemfuno zobungcali zabazali kwaye ivumele bobabini uCharlie noNicole ukuba babandakanyeke kakhulu kubazali kubomi bukaCharlie. Ngubani oza kuhamba kwaye uza kangaphi?
Ngelishwa ubukrakra bukaNicole noCharlie kwi "Story of Marriage" ngelishwa buyinyani.
Ukwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato kuvelisa ezona zinto zimbi ebantwini
Ngokukodwa xa izibonda ziphezulu njengelungelo lokukhathalela umntwana wakho.
Apho ifilimu iphambuka kubuxoki kuyisiphakamiso sayo sokuba amagqwetha aziphathe kakubi ayile, okanye ubuncinci avuselele, i-acrimony yendalo ikhutshwe xa iinkumbulo ezicinezelweyo zezaphuli-mthetho zalowo wayesakuba liqabane lakhe ziphakama phezulu kwingxelo yoqhawulo mtshato.
Ukuya kwinqanaba apho ifilimu isola amagqwetha kaCharlie noNicole akhulayo, "Ibali lomtshato" ikakhulu liyintsomi.
Jonga le vidiyo apho amagqwetha oqhawulo-mtshato anika ingcebiso kubudlelwane: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCLk-2iArYc
Amagqwetha awafundisi abantu ukuba bahlasele amaqabane abo
Ukudibanisa amaqabane banoxanduva lokunxibelelana nokuba ngumzali kunye nokuziphatha kwabo.
Nokuba lubuhlungu kangakanani ubudlelwane babantu abadala, abazali abalungileyo abazibandakanyi kwindlela yokuziphatha ebangela iintlungu kubantwana babo.
Ngaphandle kwegqwetha le-caricature eboniswe "kwiNdaba yoMtshato", izibini ezitshatayo kufuneka zibe namagqwetha.
Ukuqhawula umtshato kufuneka baqonde amalungelo abo asemthethweni kunye noxanduva olusemthethweni. Isivumelwano soqhawulo-mtshato esilungileyo nesinoxolo kufuneka sivele kuthethathethwano olunolwazi.
Ukuze baqonde imeko yezomthetho ekuthi kuyo izibini zisebenzisane ngokwenza izivumelwano ezisebenzela iimfuno zabo ezithile, kufuneka babenabaxhasi bokuchaza ezona meko zintle kunye nezona meko zimbi.
Uthethathethwano lunokusebenza ngokulamla, iintlanganiso zamagqwetha okanye utshintshiselwano olubhaliweyo. Abazali abanamagqwetha afanelekileyo kunye nokuzibophelela ekubeni ngamaqabane abakhulisa abantwana emva kokuba bengatshatanga baya kuhlala befumana iziphumo ezingcono kunejaji yetyala elibona kuphela ubungqina obunikwe inkundla.